ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

First Impressions - Assess Your Partner Through First Impressions

Updated on November 20, 2010

The first impression.

How people look, dress, talk and move can always provide clues about their s*xual performance. Even how they decorate their home can also give you a hint at life in the bedroom with them. I have heard that the most crucial period in an encounter between two people is the first four or five minutes. The first impression formed during this time will tend to persist and may be reinforced even by observations of later behavior. In those first four to five minutes of meeting a new person, we normally make judgments about their character, personality, intellect, habits and even talents. We also simply decide whether or not we like the person. The way we view people and observe their looks and clothes will also cause us to view their behavior as sexual partners.

Our very own prejudices make us see attractive people as more s*xually warm and responsive than unattractive people. Good-looking men and women are more desirable because they are more likely to elicit sexual response from us and so we assume that they will be good in bed.

One can easily assess a s*xual partner by their first impression of:

1. The clothes they wear.

The initial contact with other people is eye to body. What one chooses to wear is important as this creates their first impression to new people they meet. Clothes reveal something about our income, status, occupation and personality. They can help one to estimate a potential partner’s behavior in bed but men have a problem in doing this than women. This is not because men are less sensitive than women but because women have an ability of changing their style of clothes. It can be very difficult to tell a woman’s status or occupation by her mode of dressing but one can always try.

A woman in jeans can be boyish and companionable, one in a mini skirt may be s*xy and the one in a smart suit may be business like and sometimes unapproachable. For both s*xes, sloppy dressers can make enthusiastic lovers and tend to be quick learners hence they always get to know how to treat their partners in bed. As for obsessively neat dressers, they do not perform badly in bed as long as they can set the time and preferably the place.

2. The body language.

People who are active with many non-verbal movements are considered warm, affectionate, good lovers, considerate in bed, unselfish and energetic. Those who are mainly calm can be cold, selfish and concerned with their own pleasure. People who are very expressionless and immobile in their body language may be afraid of what they may reveal. They are more likely to cut off the visual aspect of lovemaking completely, by only making love in the dark and refusing to undress until the lights are off.

3. The pattern of their voice.

No matter what our words are, the emotion behind them carries a message. Long pauses between our words can indicate that we are slow to arouse but unstoppable once we get going while too short a pause indicates coldness and indifference. A slow talker indicates a mature and sensitive lover but too slow a talker indicates someone with complete lack of interest in sex.

Although the three above tips may not fully give you an idea of how you can evaluate a partner s*xually even before you have landed in bed, it is important that you give it some thought as you get to know the person you have your eyes on as your future husband or wife.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • mintinfo profile image


      8 years ago

      Another interesting and insightful hub.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)