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How to find a boyfriend

Updated on July 21, 2010

Unbelievable as it might seem, most men feel intimidated to approach a woman. They might belong to the local rugby team, they might be tough and strong with men, they might even be handsome and self-assured, but when it comes to approaching a woman that they like… they become like little boys, hiding and scared to talk to you. Why? Because, they fear rejection.

Take control of the situation.

If you can feel the attraction but he doesn’t dare make the first move, I would say, take control of the situation. Believe it or not, most men appreciate women who take the initiative. It is true that men feel intimidated and might run away from a self-assured woman. But the trick is to find the balance between self-assured and friendly-approachable. You need to be very careful. Taking the initiative will work only as long as you make him think that HE is the “hunter” and not the “prey”. Most men like to be in control so the trick here is to make him believe that he is.

So, what to do?

If you are interested in him then let him know. Thankfully for most of them a look will do the trick and give them the courage to cross the room and come and talk to you. If he feels that you are interested in him he will start the approach and you will get what you want. But remember, he needs to believe that it is him who is seducing you. After all, the way to a man’s heart is through his ego.

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Some tips to help you find a boyfriend

  1. Frequent places where you are likely to find the type of man you are looking for.
  2. Enlarge your circle of friends. Try to go out with different people, workmates, family, girlfriends. The wider your circle of friends, the more chances you have to encounter a single man that might interest you.
  3. Be confident with the way you look. Men become easily bored of women who keep asking them whether she looks fat in this or that.
  4. Behave with him the way you would like him to behave with you. If you want him complimenting you then start complimenting him.
  5. Express your individuality which will make you stand out from your circle of friends and be noticed.
  6. Be receptive to people with different backgrounds. Be open to new ideas.
  7. Be patient. Once you have found a potential boyfriend, take your time getting to know each other, find out if he is the person you are looking for.
  8. Accept people for who they are and don’t try to force your ideas on them or try to change them. If the man you found doesn’t fit your expectations, look for someone else instead of trying to change him according to your specifications.

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    • kallini2010 profile image

      kallini2010 7 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      I agree with the comment - "to get rid of him".

      There is actually a joke about women - every woman has two major concerns - where to find a man of her dream and how to get rid of that idiot!

      But as easy as it sounds, I have been told that to find a right person is not that easy. It is all the numbers game - you have to meet at least one hundred people to find ten suitable for dating and you would be lucky if at least one of those will be the "right" one. I am still wondering - where can I find the pool of available men to have at least one date a week? That is IF I have the energy for one date a week... Oh, well...

      I went on LavaLife and I had a conversation (I doubt, it counts) only to be lectured by a total stranger that I do it in a wrong way... Hilarious!

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      Anath 8 years ago

      Thanks sequoiablessed, I like your avatar.

      Of course I am a pro darling :)

      Thanks for your comments I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s and Ebower

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      Erin Bower 8 years ago from Georgia

      love it...great tips!

    • I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s profile image

      I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 8 years ago

      Nice hub...

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      fierycj 8 years ago from The Fiery Heart of Africa

      Ha ha Anath is a pro! And you know what the funny part is - unlike women who sometimes turn a guy's approach are EASY! Ha!

    • sequoiablessed profile image

      sequoiablessed 8 years ago from USA

      Great Job! I totally agree with what you have said here, plus your page is nicely put together. Blessings on your journey of Love!

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      Anath 8 years ago

      Finding a boyfriend is easier than what most people think; The difficult thing is to get rid of them Lady_E

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      Elena 8 years ago from London, UK

      Loved it. There's no way someone would follow your guide and not find a boyfriend. :)