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How to get a girl to like you? Know these hard hitting reasons why she doesn't like you
What do I need to do to get my crush to like me? What am I doing to put women off? How to get a girl to like me for who I am? These questions can bother even the most handsome of all guys who have it all but fail to impress girls.
This hard hitting post talks about the possible reasons why girls don't like you. Introspect, retrospect and do what it takes to be the knight in shining armor that you have always deserved to be.
1) You are faking it – Obsession to be someone you are not
There is absolutely nothing wrong in putting up a facade to impress you lady love nor is it wrong to be on your best behavior to impress a girl on your first few dates. But if you find yourself putting up a fake personality all the time, you could be turning a girl off.
For example, if you are an extrovert who hates books, don't tell a girl that reading is one of your favorite hobbies just because it is hers too. If you are an introvert, don't pretend to be the nightclub hopping party freak if you are not one. If you are a geek, don't try to convert into an image of a heartthrob that you saw in the movies. Don't you remember what happened to Leonard when he tried to act like someone who knew Football to blend in with friends of Penny from The Big Bang Theory? Everyone laughed at him.
Girls like guys who are happy in their own skin. And just like how no two guys have the same personality, no two girls have the same personality either. All women have different likes, dislikes and preferences when it comes to men. So don't try to be a fake person just to get your crush to like you. Allow your crush to fall head over heels for who you are.
Tip: You can always spot a fake from the original
2) You look unhealthy: The art of looking good
This reason why girls don't like you is possibly one of the most hard hitting ones but there is no point mincing words. Women like men who are healthy, or at least look so. Being too obese or being too thin could be perceived as a sign of unhealthy lifestyle.
If you think that you are not blessed with good looks, think again. You may realize that an unhealthy lifestyle and out of shape body could be the reason why. While it is impractical to suggest that every man on the planet should have a body like Hugh Jackman, it is very practical to expect a healthy attitude towards life in general.
If you think that your bulging gut needs a little cardio, go for it. If you think that you could add some bulk to your scrawny frame, hit the weights. The art of looking good is all about being fit, exercising, grooming yourself, getting rid of unwanted facial hair, carrying a good posture and displaying positive body language. Don't strive to be the fittest and the guy with the most ripped body on the block. Rather, strive to be the regular no-nonsense good looking guy.
Tip: Healthy is the new sexy
3) You are obsessed with your idiosyncrasies
If you really want to learn how to get a girl to like you, one of the first things on the agenda is getting rid of excessive idiosyncrasies. These are your unusual and weird habits - Your eccentric behavioral traits or obsessive habits that hinder you from projecting a good personality.
Don't mistake this as an attempt to get rid of your quirky habits. In fact, harmless quirky habits make you the unique person that you are. A quirky date idea may even help you win the heart of a girl. But if something as silly as a strict 10 pm bedtime is hindering you to have late night talks with your crush, you may be pushing the healthy living envelope a bit too far.
Tip: Be yourself, but be accommodating
4) You are too aloof
In some ways, guys are meant to be aloof at times. You really don't expect a real man to jump up and down in joy at the silliest of things or someone who just can't stop crying at the slightest of emotional or physical pain. On the other hand, a guy who is aloof and lost all the time could very well be putting off girls from liking him.
Women expect men to sustain conversations and be responsive to interactive body language like giving a smile, flirty moves, hand movements, etc. For example, you really don't need to be a psychic to know that a girl is attracted to you when she gives you a smile. All you need to do is give back a warm smile and allow nature's chemistry work its magic. If you are going to look away or stare with the expression of a wooden log, you could be ruining your chances to get a girl to like you.
Tip: Be aloof, not lost
5) You don't dress well
No one expects you to dress sharply every time you step out of the house. In fact it is a common perception that real men are not supposed to be overly concerned about their looks anyway.
However if you think that you are going to impress a girl by walking out in a t-shirt that you've been wearing since you were a child and your favorite pajamas that have been on you since days, give yourself a massive wake up call.
The unkempt and scruffy look is in vogue, especially with the likes of Robert Pattinson and Andrew Garfield sizzling the silver screen with scruffy hair and casual clothes. But it is important to remember that their unkempt looks are a result of much thought after choices of clothes.
Put in a slight effort in wearing decent clothes. Think of how your denim is going to look on you before you pick it off the store shelf. Think of how a shirt is going to fit you before you pay for it. Think of how a fashion accessory is going to go with your overall look before you flaunt it off. In no way does this mean to pin down your own sense of style – The motto is to put in some effort into looking good without going overboard.
Tip: Keep a trusty pair of denims that will rock any look
6) You are too nice: Is your niceness your weakness?
If nice guys really finished last, then the likes of Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates wouldn't have been some of the richest men in the whole world. Nice guys never finish last, but weak ones do. Let's stop beating around the bush and hit the nail on the head.
If you are being too nice to everyone, people may be taking advantage of your niceness all the time. And the worst part? You may not even realize it. Your compulsive urge to be nice to everyone and keep smiling all the time could be hurting your prospects of making a girl like you. She may see you as a person who could be walked over.
The key is to keep being nice to people but at the same time, be on the lookout for people who are out to take advantage of others. Put your foot down and say no when you think that someone is trying to persuade you into doing something just because you never say no.
Tip: Be nice, but don't be a doormat
7) You are not someone she can depend on
What would you do if a girl asks you for a favor? Would you say no just because you couldn't be bothered with putting in the effort or would you, like a true gentleman, help a lady out? If you picked former, you may be inadvertently putting off girls from liking you.
Women like men who they can depend on. It can be something as simple as standing up for her during an argument/fight or something as complex as being able to get some work done. Nature has wired the male-female relationship in a way that males are expected to be pillar females can lean on, and vice versa of course.
If you want to get a girl to like you, show that you are the one she can trust, and depend on. She needs to know that you will stand behind her and even help her in times of need.
Tip: Be dependable, be trustworthy
8) You don't have financial means to have fun
Like it or not, life in the 21st century is based on and driven by the concept of money. All your needs, wants and luxuries are impossible to fulfill without cold hard cash. There is little doubt that a man with money will be able to do more things and have access to better living conditions than a man with empty pockets.
This does not mean that you need to be a millionaire to get a girl to like you. As a guy, you are expected to have the financial means to take your girl out for a fun date. Money gives you the power to enjoy even the simple pleasures of life like going to the movies, eating out, having a few drinks, buying new clothes, buying small gifts for loved ones, etc. We won't even mention bigger things like the ability to own a car, rent a decent pad, go on a short vacation, etc.
Whether or not your girl is eyeing you as a long term partner, the question of money and financial stability is omnipresent. If you don't have a job, get one. You don't need to show up in a Gucci suit and a million dollar Lamborghini to impress a girl, but even a good looking pair of Levi's 501's and a bus ticket costs money, don't they?
Tip: Be a man with means