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How to live a happy married life? Tips for daily happiness!
‘The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but to hold hands.’ Alexandra Penney
Do you feel your married life is devoid of emotional well being and happiness? Do you sometimes feel that your life would have been better if you had not married your spouse? Do you point accusing fingers at your spouse as the reason behind your discontentment?
Happiness in marriage needs two people. You and your spouse! It needs sustained care and love from both to make your marriage happy. While you insist on being treated with love by your spouse, you forget that you too have your own contribution to make.
Do you know it is small things that give incredible happiness in your married life? Do you also know it is the small unknown mistakes that create great unhappiness in your relationship? It is sad that you always think that affluence is the doorway to happiness in your married life and strive hard to earn more and more money.
But strangely you do not have happiness even after achieving the affluence you longed for. Why is it so? Money is very much needed in married life. Without money your love for each other struggles to retain its freshness as you combat with the harsh reality of survival. You need virtual money to lead your life with self esteem. But money is not the only ingredient to bring happiness to your married life!
Then what exactly do you need for happiness in your marriage? Your latest car, swanky bungalow, trendy dresses and other status symbol can just give you a sense of well being, nothing else. But when you pay attention to the obviously small aspects of relationship, the happiness you reap is immense.
Your work towards happiness in marriage starts from the morning to night. ‘We spend a few minutes in the morning just talking or even laying quietly together before getting up for a hectic work schedule. We call it ‘our time’ and it gives us such a personal and precious moment together that sees us through the day,’ my friend told me.
I think she has a point there. Some private time together is very important for you to feel close to one another. You should begin the day by spending a few personal moments to refresh yourself. Do not start an argument about family issues and do not discuss about problems during that prized time. You can talk about the mischievous behavior of your children or about some humorous things or even spend sometime in compatible silence.
Since you and your spouse go for work, you can divide your work between yourself so that you need not have heated arguments about having to do all the household chores by yourself. Do you know that training your children to look after themselves takes loads of work off your shoulders?
You should guide your children to do their bedding and also dress for school. When you appreciate your children, they eagerly do their own work. You too should be organized to start to work with less tension. Decide what you are going to wear the day before itself and keep it ready. It saves lots of time and you can avoid hurried searching for an apt dress to wear. Do not plan an elaborate meal as it cuts into your time and makes you shaky that you are late for work.
However much stressed you are about your work; do not start the day on an unhappy note by picking up fight with your spouse and yelling at your children. When you argue and fight at home, your day at work place is stressful as you keep thinking of the harsh words uttered and you fume inside thinking that your spouse is unloving and uncaring about your contribution for the family.
If at all you had an argument, you can call your spouse and apologize if you were in the wrong. Do not start a fight in the mobile to prove yourself right and making your spouse furious that you had deliberately made his\her day at work pressurized.
When you return home, do not go empty handed as your children will be expecting something from you. Buy them something to eat and most importantly leave your work related stress at the office door step. Do not bring your tiredness into foray and spoil everything for your spouse and children as soon as you enter your home.
Have a refreshing bath and change into neat clothes. Welcome your spouse with a smile and spend quality time with your children. Uneasy quiet moments at home can make you drift apart from your spouse. Talk with him\her about your work, the fun moments you had with your colleagues and also inquire about his\her work.
Have dinner with your spouse and children as it brings in a sense of family togetherness. Make your children happy by giving them friendly companionship. Watching humorous movies or shows together enlivens your time at home. After your children go to sleep, the beautiful intimacy with your spouse cements your relationship further into strong love. When you retire to bed with contentment, you wake up with fulfillment for yet another day of happiness.
© 2014 mathira