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How to understand a man
Understanding a Man
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Okay, this shouldn't be that hard to answer being that I am a man. I won't go into any deep philosophical debate as to how men and women are so different or why men act the way they do. The truth is everyone is different so lets not pretend that we can just break it down into steps 1, 2, and 3. Understanding a man is no different than understanding anyone else, it takes communication.
If you are in a relationship and believe that your boy friend or husband doesn't listen to you, well the answer to that question is probably that you're right or that if he is listening he is only getting half of what you are saying. Does he really care what your girl friends and you saw at the mall the other day? Does he really need to care about what you watched on Oprah? I mean do you listen when he rambles on about the point spread in the game last night or what kind of car his buddy has? If you do listen to it and take an interest in those things then that is great! If you two are from totally different view points and have different interests then perhaps its best to find a middle ground to more pertinent things like your next vacation and places you want to see then it is to talk about other people or things you do in your own spare time.
Men do have some things in common but still every man is different... Most men are very sexual in nature. Want to make him happy? Well try spicing up things sexually... no I don't mean go and get him hooker! You need to make your love making fun at times. Cuddling and all that is great for those times that a man feels he is needed. Trust me there are times a man will want to hug on you and rub your back and lay naked in bed with you, those times are not all the time. So yes when he thinks he's going to get nookie and you say, "Lets just cuddle." He's going to feel a little bit bitter about it. Now that's not to say that he shouldn't do the cuddle part either, but find a middle ground and stick with it. You can both get what you want, you both have to not be selfish about your needs.
I being a man have certain foods I like, my wife when she really wants to make me happy goes out and gets me those things. I in turn get her flowers when she's at work and bring them to her, I take her out or make her dinner, I also try and plan big date nights like a night out at the movies or to a play. These things I happen to enjoy, unless you are into sports and love going to them I'd tell him that if he wants to go to a game with you then he has to take you out to dinner the next time you go out. It's just right that you both reciprocate and do what the other wants to do.
Remember the key is communication... Before there is ever a solution there is always a problem and if you have trouble understanding someone else then you should really try to listen to what it is they have to say... Oh and by the way, Men can be a little thick when it comes to knowing something is wrong. Instead of getting mad at a man for not knowing what it is you are upset about, try telling him in a very serious way that you need to talk and then tell him what is wrong. Walking around the house like your life sucks is only an indicator that something is wrong but it will never tell him what that something is.