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I Feel Like An Outcast

Updated on March 18, 2011

I feel like an outcast.

When I make this bold statement, people seem shocked. Let me explain and you can see and better understand me. I don't drink alcohol, actually find it disgusting when a person is drunk. I don't have a problem with people who enjoy drinking alcohol drinking, but when people drink to get drunk it's just gross. I don't use drugs, even weed falls into that list. I don't like the way they make me feel and I can't be around most people that use them. I'm not into party's; 95% of them after all, are all about getting trashed and nothing is a bigger turn off then seeing people make complete %$@# of themselves. Did I mention I am a young, only 23 year old female?

So now maybe you can see why I feel this way. I don't have many friends because all the friends I've had have turned to heavy drinking, drug use or consistent partying. Heck, one of my, no longer best friends, and cousin... Is is stripper! No offense to any strippers out there, but you know what your doing and drama follows you like flies on horse... well, you get my point. I've gotten worse though. I feel as if I am the only person I know with the views I have at such a young age. I've drank, I've used drugs and I want nothing to do with either of them. Yet, my own opinion makes me a "party pooper". I don't do these things mainly because of my health. I care about my body and my health and choose not to take part. Yet, this has become a bit of an issue in life for me. I hate seeing people I care about drunk. I don't like being around drunk people, its just unbearable to me. This makes it hard to enjoy time with friends and even family. It's "cool" to drink and apparently I'm just not cool enough to see the point. In my own personal opinion, the media has made it so people, at a young age, start to believe they need to drink to have fun, to let loose, and to party. That's a bunch of BS! People today rarely even like the taste of alcohol or even enjoy it and merely drink it for the effects.

So in short, yes I feel like an outcast, BUT that's okay! We are all free to do what we want to our bodies and while I have a problem with people "overly" using drugs and alcohol, I have no issue with people actually enjoying them. There's a fine line there, but it's there. I choose to not be around people who are "drunk" or "intoxicated". I have lost friends over this and I'm okay with that. I am after all not "of" this world, I only live on it!

**I would like opinions on this so please share with me how you view drug use, alcohol use and "partying"!**

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      Sophia 

      3 years ago

      I totally relate to everything you said. It's so dissapointing because I want to get to know new people, but they can't hang out without having a wild party. So how can I make friends of what they do makes me uncomfortable? So frustrating. But there are people like you too, so you're not alone.

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      saz 

      6 years ago

      Hi im the same dont drink dont do drugs im 27 and yep dont have many friends . People act as if im the werid one because i dont do these things but truth us im trying to be healthy thats all arent they the werid ones destroying there health but in todays world if your not doing something harmful then your weid ?

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      justsaynotodrugs 

      6 years ago from Brockton Mass USA

      *loner

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      Just say no to drugs 

      6 years ago

      I know exactly what you are going through. I am a 33 year old man and my life is exactly how you just described your's. I have become a loaner due to this, it was my only choice. I wish you all the luck surviving this, it won't be easy, in my opinion THAT is why people do party so they won't become outkast like us. I am here if you want a friend. You are my hero and I don't care how lame that sounds or what the next commenter has to say about it.

      I hope you are still clean and sober and you are doing well.

      No b.s. I am all about this, if you ever want a friend you can contact me on this post or at my contacts:

      Just_say_no_to_drugs@live.com

      http://www.facebook.com/JustSayNoToDrugz

      Joe

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      smokefest 

      6 years ago

      what are you trying to get out of all this. if you dont wanna drink or smoke drugs dont. some like it some dont some like people that like it some dont. i on the other hand smoke reefer and really enjoy it. im trying to quit drinking tho or cut back.

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      ii3rittles 

      6 years ago

      Thanks for the comment Monique! And you'll learn, its not a bad thing. I've come to realize it's better to walk alone (physically) than with fools.

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      Monique 

      6 years ago

      I'm only 17 (18 next month) and I feel this exact same way.

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      ii3rittles 

      7 years ago

      Thanks for the comment SamboRambo! From my experience, I've learned that the friend's I've lost over sober-ness were, really, truly, not friends to begin with. I think it comes down to people seeing me as a threat because I don't give into the ways of the world. People laugh, even my own mother for my beliefs. It use to bother me, but it don't no more. People fear what they don't know, hate what they can't understand, and assume almost anything. Not all, but most. I use to be this way, I've come a long way. It takes a strong person to swim up stream :) Thanks for sharing your story and your support!

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      Samuel E. Richardson 

      7 years ago from Salt Lake City, Utah

      rittles, it looks like you have a lot of support, and understanding from your readers. I have some insight concerning this:

      When I was in Vietnam, the G.I.'s offered me everything from the top-down. When I said no, they smiled and gave me three weeks. Three weeks came and went, then another three weeks, then another. I never partook. Did I lose friends? No. They began to show respect for me. They saw I had strength, and a determination to truly live my beliefs. They began to ask me how I did it. I soon became their "unofficial" spiritual leader, and they often came seeking for advice.

      So if you've lost friends because of your ideals, their loyalty is probably in question. Either that, or they were ashamed of their actions in your company. I don't want to make these judgments rashly without knowing their situation, and I could be wrong, but I mention all this just to show you that deep down inside, people will respect you for holding your ground.

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      ii3rittles 

      7 years ago

      Thanks for the comment roadrockafella! I agree! So what if I choose to not drink, why should this make me "less fun"? I never liked the stuff and never will. I have drank before and found it pointless each time. Bad headaches, hang overs from just 2 drinks, I mean it makes me feel lousy. I'm glad it does though because its one less toxin that is going into my body!

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      roadrockafella 

      7 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      I have the same sentiments. Sometimes, I do feel like I'm an outcast, but at least I'm honest with what I think is wrong or right. People are wired differently, and we give them our respect, so why shouldn't they respect ours? :)

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      ii3rittles 

      7 years ago

      Thanks for the comments!

      Christine - its few and far in between. lol There are not many people that have these views.

      Claudin - I know how you feel! I can't be around a TON of people. Especially when I don't know most of them. I'm glad your self aware at such a young age. Most people don't get that till in there 30's and even 40's!

      Ben - I know, right? It actually hurts me to see people I care about make total idiots of themselves. I want to be healthy and happy and drugs and alcohol pretty much keep me from that. If more people realized what it does to them I think they would drink WAY less, or even not at all.

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      BenWritings 

      7 years ago from Save me from, Tennessee

      I'm 23 also, and I hate parties, and have few friends. I hate being about weed, and I HATE when people get trashed and act like idiots. I have never been too drunk to know what I'm doing, I'm always the one who takes care of people when they can't.

      I totally understand, it's crazy how when I read this, it was like reading my own mind. We're just smarter and have more self respect than a lot of them. :]

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      Claudin_Dayo 

      7 years ago from Southeast Asia

      I'm 18 and I think we have the same attitude! =)

      I hate crowded places, and my everyday destination would be house to school only ;D.. . I often feel the way you do on school but I am very much enjoying my lifestyle at home. Gaining and the acceptance of friends doesn't really concerns our habit or what it's just that they'll accept us as who we are, no but's =)

      As long as your happy and contented.. . that's life

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      Christine P Ann 

      7 years ago from Australia

      I don't think you are an outcast. I believe there are a lot of people with views like yours, it is just a matter of finding them. I think it is very unfair of people who choose to drink to see you as a party pooper. I drink socially and in our group of family and friends there are those who don't drink and nobody ever makes a comment or thinks of them as party poopers. Stay strong and true to yourself.

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      ii3rittles 

      7 years ago

      Thanks for your comments!

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      Mentalist acer 

      7 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

      Like you ii3rittles I don't drink or do drugs now,but I used to,weed,no alchohol, and made time for friends who were on the wagon and spend quality time with them clean.A little secret,young people,when they get older get tired of spending all their money on weed and give it up.;)

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      Rochelle Frank 

      7 years ago from California Gold Country

      Follow your own star. I think you are on the right track, and it will lead away from those you once considered "friends".

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      kallini2010 

      7 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      I don't think it is such an unusual view on things. Even though you might think that being 23 is such a young age, it is not. You are an adult, you are fully grown and responsible for your choices and behaviour.

      I think you have to be selective when choosing friends, I don't put any judgment, but your preferences are incompatible with preferences of your friends.

      I personally don't see anything unusual in your views. On the other hand, it is normal for others who enjoys drinking and partying to exclude you from those activities.

      So, all in all, just find what you like to do and join those who like the same things. That is all.

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