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In Loving memory of my Father
In loving memory of my father
The pain and grief of losing a loved one cannot be expressed in words. Writing few lines, discussing with someone can reduce the pain but can’t eliminate it. It remains always there, throughout the life. It is said that parents are great blessing of GOD and there is no substitute of them, very true.
I am writing these few lines in loving memory of my respected and beloved father, who left us 4 years before on 23rd November, 2008. Yes, it is his 4th anniversary and these four years had been very hard without him. These contemptible lines are a slight effort in order to present him a tribute. I know, my not so impressive thoughts and words are nothing in front of his affection which he showered upon me. There are so many things I learnt from him. He did not spend an easy life. His life was full of hardships and struggle but he faced every hard phase of life with courage and patience. He was the first boy of his family to join school and getting higher education. Death of my grandfather in early age of my father opened the doors of difficulties for him as he had to work in order to support his family and complete his education but he never gave up. I never heard him complaining but saw him very hopeful and positive towards life. Courage, patience, optimism, determination and constant struggle were incredible traits of his amazing personality. He had such a moderate attitude that success never made him proud and failure never made him hopeless.
Months before his death, he started complaining about his digestion. I still remember that evening when he returned home holding his reports, with very quiet face. When I asked about the prognosis, he replied, “Doctor is saying that I have tumor in my stomach”. That was very agonizing news for us. His treatment was started. After operating his stomach, doctors suggested for chemotherapy as tumor could not be removed completely. It was very painful procedure but he agreed. During his chemotherapy we were very hopeful. After three session of chemo, doctor informed us that there is no improvement. Chemo was not affecting his tumor and they continued with changed formula. He took 2 more sessions of changed formula but unfortunately it also did not work. But my father was so positive and hopeful that a night before his death he was saying, “ I am recovering” and next morning at 10:15 he left us forever (I am weeping while writing it). I remember that last glimpse of his calm face.
Along with his professional achievement he was very successful in his relationships. His friends say, “he was very loyal and trustworthy friend”. My grandmother said, “ he was the best son a mother could ever had”. According to my mother he was best husband a woman could ever had and for me and 2 of my siblings he was best father who was kind and affectionate to us.
Lastly, I want to say to my father that “ abu, I always look up to you, you are my inspiration, you are my role model. I want to be like you, courageous, optimistic and very positive. I promise, no matter what happens I will never give up in life just like you. I love you and miss you like anything. May ALLAH forgive your sins and grant you jannah, aameen.
23rd November 2012.
A poem for my Father
With time I learnt to be strong
As if there is nothing wrong.
Can’t control to get my tears flow
It was too early you had to go.
There is a wish in my heart to say,
When GOD allows me enter the Heaven,
You are standing there with angles seven,
To receive me wearing a smile on your face.
23rd November 2014