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In Loving memory of my Father

Updated on November 22, 2014
My respected father
My respected father

In loving memory of my father

The pain and grief of losing a loved one cannot be expressed in words. Writing few lines, discussing with someone can reduce the pain but can’t eliminate it. It remains always there, throughout the life. It is said that parents are great blessing of GOD and there is no substitute of them, very true.

I am writing these few lines in loving memory of my respected and beloved father, who left us 4 years before on 23rd November, 2008. Yes, it is his 4th anniversary and these four years had been very hard without him. These contemptible lines are a slight effort in order to present him a tribute. I know, my not so impressive thoughts and words are nothing in front of his affection which he showered upon me. There are so many things I learnt from him. He did not spend an easy life. His life was full of hardships and struggle but he faced every hard phase of life with courage and patience. He was the first boy of his family to join school and getting higher education. Death of my grandfather in early age of my father opened the doors of difficulties for him as he had to work in order to support his family and complete his education but he never gave up. I never heard him complaining but saw him very hopeful and positive towards life. Courage, patience, optimism, determination and constant struggle were incredible traits of his amazing personality. He had such a moderate attitude that success never made him proud and failure never made him hopeless.

Months before his death, he started complaining about his digestion. I still remember that evening when he returned home holding his reports, with very quiet face. When I asked about the prognosis, he replied, “Doctor is saying that I have tumor in my stomach”. That was very agonizing news for us. His treatment was started. After operating his stomach, doctors suggested for chemotherapy as tumor could not be removed completely. It was very painful procedure but he agreed. During his chemotherapy we were very hopeful. After three session of chemo, doctor informed us that there is no improvement. Chemo was not affecting his tumor and they continued with changed formula. He took 2 more sessions of changed formula but unfortunately it also did not work. But my father was so positive and hopeful that a night before his death he was saying, “ I am recovering” and next morning at 10:15 he left us forever (I am weeping while writing it). I remember that last glimpse of his calm face.

Along with his professional achievement he was very successful in his relationships. His friends say, “he was very loyal and trustworthy friend”. My grandmother said, “ he was the best son a mother could ever had”. According to my mother he was best husband a woman could ever had and for me and 2 of my siblings he was best father who was kind and affectionate to us.

Lastly, I want to say to my father that “ abu, I always look up to you, you are my inspiration, you are my role model. I want to be like you, courageous, optimistic and very positive. I promise, no matter what happens I will never give up in life just like you. I love you and miss you like anything. May ALLAH forgive your sins and grant you jannah, aameen.

23rd November 2012.



A poem for my Father

With time I learnt to be strong

As if there is nothing wrong.

Sometimes,

Can’t control to get my tears flow

Just feel,

It was too early you had to go.

There is a wish in my heart to say,

When GOD allows me enter the Heaven,

You are standing there with angles seven,

To receive me wearing a smile on your face.

23rd November 2014

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      Tazak 4 years ago

      Well Done . Great Job!

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      Maryam 4 years ago

      Thank you so much for writing this. Miss you a lot papa. May ALLAH grant you jannah and give you a lot of happiness there which you missed in your living life. AMEEN

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @Tazak: thank you very much.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @Maryam: I know your feelings, GOD will definitely hear your prayers INSHALLAH.

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      Sumaira 4 years ago

      No doubt he was a very nice and kind-hearted man.Although I haven't met him but heard a lot about him. I wish I could meet him..May Allah rest his soul in peace and grant him place in jannah.Ameen..

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @Sumaira: Thank you very much for stopping by. I also wish you could meet him personally know a person of amazing personality.

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      FARHAN MAJEED 4 years ago

      May Allah shower all His Blessings upon the soul of your father and he may rest in peace. Its' impossible to forget our loved ones. I heartily express my condolence upon unforgattable demise of losing your father.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @farhan majeed: Thank you very much for your prayers and heartily condolence.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      A really lovely tribute to your Father uzma, I am sure he would have loved to read this, wonderful.

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      Lisa Stover 4 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      Touching, I lost my father almost 7 years ago. He was a great man also and I will never forget him.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @Nell Rose: Thank you very much for your kind words, I am really very glad you said it.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @LisaMarie724: I can understand your feelings. It is really hard to bear this pain but we'll have to ah!

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      Mohsin Ghafoor 4 years ago from Islamabad

      May his soul rests in Peace!

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @MohsinGhafoor: Thank you for stopping by. remember him in your prayers.

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      Mohsin Ghafoor 4 years ago from Islamabad

      @Uzma. Sure yes!

      I feel sorry for your loss.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @Mohsin Ghafoor: I appreciate your concern and thank you for your kind words.

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      GhazalisDaughters 4 years ago from Kansas City

      It sounds like your father was a WONDERFUL man. It is never easy to lose someone you love so much. I recently lost my grandmother and it was very hard. I had to keep reminding myself of how blessed I am to have had her in my life for so long. May Allah forgive his sins and grant his paradise. Ameen.

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      Cut The Bullshit 3 years ago from All Over

      I'm sorry for your loss, your father seemed like a wonderful man. May his soul rest in peace.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 3 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @GhazalisDaughter and Ranzi: Thank you so much for your wonderful comments and prayers for my father.

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      Suhail Zubaid aka Clark Kent 3 years ago from Mississauga, ON

      Uzma,

      I read this article, a tribute to your father very late. I am sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my father when I was 28, so I can somewhat relate to your agony. However, since daughters are closer to their dads, I am sure your ordeal is much more than was mine.

      We take our parents for granted. So did I. But when my father left us, I felt an arm of support that was always there for me on my shoulders went away with him.

      Somebody has aptly said that it is through the death of our loved ones that we develop an attachment toward the eternal life after our own deaths.

      I will pray for you and your father.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 3 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      suhail,

      Fathers are so important in our life , they give great feeling of strength and support. my brother feels the same as you do. one day he was telling me without dad I feel like so week as if a great support has gone from my life. I can surely understand your feelings. For me, my father is a role model I always looked up to him.

      Thank you very much for stopping by. I always enjoy your comments.

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