Am I Falling In Love? Symptoms of Being In Love and How To Recognize if You Are Infatuated: Healthy Relationships Tips

You just met someone...you think he or she is very good looking and has qualities about them that give you a tingle in your stomach every time you see or think about them. Is this Real Love?

Love can get confused with other emotions and behaviors such as Infatuation and Codependency. True Love is when you want to be with someone because you really desire to be with them, not because you will be lonely without them or you "Need" them to complete you.

The following definition of Infatuation was taken from Dictionary.com:

1. to inspire or possess with a foolish or unreasoning passion, as of love.
2. to affect with folly;make foolish or fatuous.

How do you know when you are really in love and are not just infatuated with someone? What is Infatuation?

Infatuation is a relatively normal part of human emotion, but left unchecked, it can be disastrous!

Sometimes when people get so desperate with an infatuation it can control their thoughts and eventually, their behavior. So many young teens that think that they are in love, are really just infatuated with someone.

If infatuation continues to grow bad things can happen. Jealousy is often a side effect of infatuation and people can literally be driven crazy by their infatuation! Some people begin to stalk their subject and when they see this person talking with other people, the jealousy turns into rage.

Rage is dangerous because the chemicals in the enraged persons mind and body shut off their ability to think and act responsibly and appropriately. An infatuated person can spin into a vicious cycle and can eventually lead to aggression, including assault on innocent people, murder or even suicide. If you think this is you, Get Professional Help Immediately!

Codependency is a touchy issue. It can be very rewarding in some circumstances, but overall, codependency can be debilitating and destructive.

An example of a healthy codependent relationship would be that of a parent and a child. Children are codependent until they reach a certain age. They rely on parents for everything: food, shelter, advice, direction, etc. Parents become codependent in the sense that they need to take care of their children and they want them to be healthy and successful.

Once you become an adult, codependency can hurt your self esteem and prevent you from accomplishing life goals as an individual. If you feel like you can't live or do anything without your partner, you may be in a codependent relationship. Here are some things to watch out for:

• You can't go anywhere without your partner
• You need to know where your partner is at all times
• If your partner doesn't answer their phone when you call, you get anxiety and call them every few minutes
• You feel helpless without them
• You obsessively think about them all day, every day
• You monitor their emails and phone calls
• You get jealous when they talk to other people
• The relationship becomes Verbally or Physically Violent

There are many other related symptoms of codependency and if you find yourself in one of the positions above, you should reach out to someone like a Mental Health Councilor. They will listen to you and offer you advice. Professional Counseling is very therapeutic for people who suffer from different anxieties.

Are there ways to spot and recognize True Love?

Of course there are! True love is simply wanting to be near someone, sharing experiences to create memories, and not Needing them for anything! Yes, they can be helpful to you (I appreciate that my wife makes me coffee every morning, but I don't Need her to do it; I can make coffee myself!)

True Love is limitless. You often find that although you may be total opposites on something, you can agree to disagree and will support the person regardless of their stance on a particular issue.

When you talk to a couple that is in love and has been married or together for a long time, one of the things you will find as a common denominator is that it is not about agreeing with each other, but it is about respecting and supporting each other, while finding a common meeting place somewhere in the middle.

Many times people say that they found love by chance, not when they are looking for love. Often times when we become desperate to get into a relationship, we tend to settle and the relationship doesn't work out in the long run. If you want to be happy with someone, don't rush into it! Love is not instant and a long-term loving relationship takes time and work!

These Tips will help you to recognize True Love:

1. Don't Look for True Love; It will find you!
2. Don't Rush It!
3. Do you argue healthy? Arguments shouldn't escalate into fights!
4. Do you feel happy when your partner comes to you?
5. Do you have any doubts that your partner is faithful?
6. Do you have similar interests that you can share?
7. Can you take Pictures of this person and share them with your family?
8. Do they avoid going in Public with you?
9. Do your friends and family approve of this person?
10. Do You Think You Are In Love?

You really need to keep your sense of self when getting into a relationship. Just look without looking and you will find what you are looking for. Maintain healthy communication, have fun, set goals together. You'll know when it is true love!