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Love, Lust, Passion, Commitment - What does Love mean to You?

Updated on September 25, 2015

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Love, Lust, Passion

Love, lust, passion, loyalty, faithfulness, commitment.

Love means different things to different people. What does it mean to you?

For those of us that are romantics at heart the thought of love might conjure up an image of buying a small lock and securing it on a bridge in Paris and throwing the key into the flowing Seine below to declare our love for one another; Of course we won't all fly across the country on a whim to meet at the top of the Empire State building in New York, hoping to find the ONE (Sleepless in Seattle..or fall head over heels in love with a Vampire(Twilight) or fall for a glamorous movie star (Noting Hill) but..

Love matters in so many ways and for many different reasons.

The need to love and be loved is humanities primary reason for living so a famous therapist once said.

Holidays and Celebrations.

We celebrate love every year with special days set aside for the loved ones in our life and they are an indicator to show how important love is.

  • We celebrate the love of our Mothers for mothers day and our Fathers for fathers day.
  • The love for God and for Jesus birth at Christmas.
  • The love of a partner, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, sister, brother, grandparent or other family member, wonderful neighbor, best friend, best buddy etc etc on Valentine's Day
  • Easter is another reminder on the Christians calendar of the greatest love sacrifice in history of the Son dying for the world.
  • And of course the insatiable love we have for all things chocolate at Easter.

Different Types of Love

Romantic Love

It’s not hard to imagine if you’ve been in love yourself what romantic love feels like. And with the scores of love stories portrayed in movies such as;

  • The Notebook
  • Pride and Prejudice
  • Romeo and Juliet
  • Noting Hill
  • Love Actually
  • Serendipity
  • Twilight
  • PS I Love You
  • Titanic
  • Letters To Juliet
  • Leap Year to name just a few that show the passion of young people falling in love.

While most of us enjoy the excitement of a passionate love affair we often forget that some of the most beautiful love stories ever told have nothing to do with the kind of passionate sexual love seen here.

Commitment Love

It’s easy to imagine the passion of love, but what about other types of love such as commitment love seen in movies such as;

  • In Her Shoes - where parents have another child to be a donor to the child that is dying

  • A Walk to Remember - where a rebellious young man gives up his wild ways to look after the girl he fell for when she is diagnosed with cancer.

  • Blindside - And who can forget the unforgettable special love relationship between Sandra Bullock in her role as a rich socialite with her foster then adoptive son Michael.

  • Anne of Green Gables - the touching scene in Anne of Green Gable where Mathew expresses the love he has for his adoptive daughter Anne Shirley and buys her a beautiful blue dress to wear to her first ball.

And how beautiful are the following expressions of love;

The kind that donates their organs so that people may have another chance in life

Or the type of love that takes the blame for someone else’s mistakes.

Or the commitment type of love needed to endure the long term care of disability or chronic illness, mental illness or old age.

Love is multifaceted and means different things to different people.

“Real, sane, mature love—the kind that pays the mortgage year after year and picks up the kids after school—is not based on infatuation but on affection and respect.”
Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

At a time when the word love can become over used and meaningless and is often portrayed as purely physical by Hollywoods standards it can be a good exercise to take a moment and reflect on what love means to us.

Commitment Love

Elements of a Great Love Story


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    • carter06 profile image

      Mary 3 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Hi Till thanks for dropping by votes & is such an interesting beautiful & frustratingly complex topic @ times but one we will always be longing for & talking about..hope you are keeping well..Cheers

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      A great way to stop and look at love. The movies you cited are such perfect examples of your thoughts. We sometimes forget what true love is and that romantic love can turn into everyday love.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Mary 3 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Hi Au fait..I love that you have used some of those well known beautiful bible verses about true love.. true love does no harm, is not resentful or wanting is quick to forgive and just as quick to hold no grudge etc etc.. to love in this way is a very special kind of love def not to be confused with lust or physical desire..thank you for your insightful comments and pin, votes etc you are a very kind and supportive hub page friend and excellent writer..have a great week..Cheers

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      sujaya venkatesh 3 years ago

      Love is the very essence of mankind!

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      C E Clark 3 years ago from North Texas

      Caring as much about the needs and well being of another person as much as you care about your own is love. Sex is not itself love. Sex can be a means of expressing one's love, but usually it's merely recreational, no love required. For some reason many women confuse sex and love. They are not the same thing.

      Matthew 22:36-40 New International Version (NIV)

      36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”

      37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

      Love does no harm. Love is not resentful or looking for retaliation or retribution. If you love other people ( your neighbor) as yourself you will never seek to hurt him/her in any way for any reason. You will be as concerned for their welfare as for your own. No selfishness will prevent you from helping them in any way you can.

      You will be quick to forgive someone you truly love if there is ever the need to do so, and you will just as quickly forget the trespass as if it had never happened. Would you hold a grudge against yourself forever? No, and to love your neighbor as yourself is to forgive them their weaknesses and flaws just as you forgive yourself for your own.

      Very thought provoking article. Voted up, BAI, pinned to Awesome HubPages, and shared here on HP.

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      I am a bit of a sucker for a good romance as well Happyboomernurse, and I agree with your sentiments about relationships...when I fell in love with my husband, I felt I'd met my best friend...and best friends stay together right? Thanks so much for your comments and votes...cheers

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      Gail Sobotkin 5 years ago from South Carolina

      Great hub.

      I've always loved romantic books, movies and stories.

      Nicholas Sparks' "The Notebook" is one of my favorites because it showed beautiful examples of romantic love in the young couple that was in it, and also enduring commitment love in the older couple who were facing the devastating effects of Alzheimer's.

      I believe those who start a relationship with romantic love and continue to stay together in an enduring commitment love are the most blessed people on earth and I'm happy to be among them!

      Voted this hub up across the board except for funny.

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Thank you Rolly A for your kind comment and love the hugs from Canada :)'s easy to miss people because there are so many wonderful hubbers with excellent hubs here...

      Cheers from OZ...

      Thanks Bobby so glad you enjoyed this one and not just my food hubs...cheers

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      bobby 5 years ago

      I loved this hub!

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Carter06... I wonder why I have missed finding your writing before today. The subject matter here is one that we all need and desire and this is so very well put together. Thank yo for sharing with us.

      Hugs from Canada