ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

A Bond Of Friendship

Updated on May 16, 2011

No Words

As I walk thru life, I have been lucky to make a few very good friends. I have made the aquaintance of many,there are a lot of people that I care about. There are a few that have touched my heart,some shook my soul and some have enriched if not my life at least my mind.

Today I get the news my dearest friend has a lung disease,this one is quite uncommon. What should I say? For I am truly at a loss.

This is a person with whom I have shared the secrets of love, and life,the joy, and pain of living, and the great honor to be called her best friend. What words could I possibly say to someone that holds such a position in my life?

She is looking for me to comfort her, and possibly, to make her laugh as we both have the ability to bring the other to tears. Once we chatted several times a day,then we went in separate directions, and settled into a distant friendship,though the bond was never broken.

Her husband is a bit older, and has had health issues on, and off, for the rock of Gibraltar is weakening. We find strength in one another, and truly that is what friends are for. We take the good with the bad. I so wanted to say to her the perfect thing to ease her pain,but my pain is so great for her I cannot find the words that will explain this.

There are times in life when silence is the most profound statement you can make, I took this as one of those moments in time.

Because of the friendship we share I felt words were not what she needed,to feel the bond, and feel the love,respect, and admiration we shall have to the end was what she was really after.Words are just words at times no matter how comforting.The feeling you have when you are in the presence of true friendship,love, and acceptance is sometimes more than one can say. I will surely miss this bond of forty plus years that at times requires no words..


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment
    • jorja kick profile imageAUTHOR

      jorja kick 

      7 years ago from southeast georgia

      Thank you for your thoughts and prayers,hopefully when all the pain and sorrow is behind us our bond of friendship will see us thru eternity...where there is no pain and suffering...your kind thoughts just happen to come at a time they were needed thanks ever so much for sharing..


    • dallaswriter profile image


      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Jorja kick,

      I have been away for sometime, occasionally when I can get on line or for that matter, borrow my daughters lap top, I try to peak in on everyone quietly.... I am sorry for the sad news about your precious friend!!! I had a very, very dear friend that walked through all of my child hood with me and then died the morning of my birthday. I suppose we were sealed in some way. I know your life has been a tough one and I can only imagine how precious this person is to you. My prayer is one of healing but if that is not Gods will, then it will be one of little pain and suffering. As much as she means to you, I am sure you mean just as much to her. May these past few months and the months ahead be enough to keep you going until you are both together again.... love to you always Strong and Amazing woman!!!

    • jorja kick profile imageAUTHOR

      jorja kick 

      7 years ago from southeast georgia

      Jaye you have a way of saying what is in my heart...even when I cannot..

      I know you are right,as you are correct in your assessment of the illness.

      thanks for reading and your advice..


    • JayeWisdom profile image

      Jaye Denman 

      7 years ago from Deep South, USA

      jorja...This is one of the truly heart-rending events that happen to us more and more as we tack on years. I assume from what you wrote (and didn't write) that this may be a terminal illness.

      Last year I lost a very dear friend (who was younger than me) to a virulent cancer that took his life so quickly. However, I had the opportunity to say goodbye over the phone and let him know how much he meant to me.

      Not everyone gets that chance, and it shouldn't be missed even if one isn't sure the right words will come. If you do miss out on it, you will surely wish later on that you'd talked to your dear friend.

      It's most important, I think, to let tell the person that you care and are there. Very few people can find the "perfect" words to say at a time like this, but our friends don't expect us to be perfect...just caring.

      If time permits, talking about memories the two of you share can be helpful to someone who may be facing mortality. I feel sure I will want to recall the good times when I am facing the end (if I'm afforded that chance).

      I don't pretend to know all (or even a lot) of the answers for this situation. I'm only sure that true friendship endures to the end. Your friend will understand that you, too, are in pain for her. She will only want to know that you care for her. In the end, that's all we can do for any loved one.


    • jorja kick profile imageAUTHOR

      jorja kick 

      7 years ago from southeast georgia

      Ashantina It seems we are once again on the same thought usual..Thanks for you being there too..


    • jorja kick profile imageAUTHOR

      jorja kick 

      7 years ago from southeast georgia

      Bless your heart...It sounds as if you have been there..It is hard..and I appreciate your comment and your prayers..


    • ketchup101 profile image


      7 years ago from Philippines

      Your hub made my heart cry. Me too, I only treasure and keep few friends, because few are only real.

      It's really sad when your best friend is in this situation. Sometimes, you really don't know what to do or even say.

      I just want to tell you that always be there for her. And always make her happy. Do things that you enjoy doing together. And make every tick of the clock precious, because every moment counts. Prayers for both of you :)

    • Ashantina profile image


      7 years ago

      ..and thats'all you can do jorja... to just 'be' and be there for her...


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)