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Make Her Happy: The Quality Time Way
Before we get started:
There are 5 love languages everyone speaks. If you haven't found out what you're lady's love language is; please read: The Best Way to Show Your Lady You Love Her.
If you have already done that, and you know that your special sweet-heart is Quality Time Gal: Congratulations! Now, let's get started on figuring out the best ways to show her you care.
Showing your love with quality time:
Often times men and women make the mistake of thinking that "his" idea of quality time and "her" idea of quality time are the same. This is very rarely the case.
A man can go hunting with a buddy, spend all day in silence, and come home thinking that he and his friend really bonded with that time.
A woman will go shopping with a friend, talk the entire time (about everything), and come home feeling that she really bonded with her friend.
Men, if you are going to bond with your lady during quality time - you're going to need to listen, verbalize, and share.
One of the best things you can do for yourself - and I promise your lady will love you for this - is ask her before she starts talking to you, "Honey, do you want me to help fix a problem or do you just want me to listen?"
If she says "just listen" - here's what that involves: Don't talk! Don't solve - don't even think about thinking about solving! Just sit there, nod your head - pay enough attention to recall information if needed, and look at her while she's speaking. That's it. If you can do that, you're doing exactly what she needs from you.
Quality Time ladies need to know that they can have your undivided attention sometimes. It's how she knows you care. When you come home from work, take a few minutes to ask her about her day before doing whatever it is you were planning on getting done.
Call her on occasion to just let her know that you were thinking of her.
If you want to score some BIG points - let her know that you had an offer for something else ( an invite to watch the game with a buddy, or an invite to hang out with guys from work) but that you aren't going to do that because you would rather be here with her.
Your choices are only limited by your imagination here. Any place you can think to bring her where you can talk, hold hands, look into each other's eyes... she just wants to be with you and see that you're paying attention.
* Movies should be a limited activity with a "quality time" lady. You aren't looking at one another, nor are you supposed to talk during them. Remember, just sharing space does not mean "quality time" for women.
Dinner - in or out, as long as you have a great conversation.
Have a bonfire. Go for a hike, or nice walk.
Go site seeing, to a museum, or to the zoo.
As long as you dedicate time to letting her know that she's at the top of your attention list, the sky's the limit.