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Man-up or Man-down Which Do You Choose?

Updated on December 31, 2016

Your Choice to Man-up and Accept Responsibility

A women loves a man that respects himself and respects those around him. Women are the caretakers of the home, children, and our spouse. Most men are the bread-winners of the home, men that are "employed" is a blessing that every family should have. Since men are the Head-of-the-household, it's only right that men guide their families in the right direction.

A man that respects himself is one that doesn't smoke cigarettes, or is working toward kicking that bad habit. Also a man that respects himself and others around him WOULD NOT:

  • Disrespect his family by using foul-language in their presences.
  • Be an alcoholic.
  • Wear his pants so far down that he's showing his underwear.
  • Womanize - Be in more than one sexual-relationship with women.
  • Treat his own mother with dishonor and disrespect.
  • Be a drug-dealer in any community.
  • Be a bad influence or a hazard to other men in his environment.
  • Indulge in pornography.

As we all know 'life is what we make it' and it's our choice to man up; and choose the right things to occupy the valuable time we have on something that's worth it.

Man Up!
Man Up!

Man Down

Young boys start at an early age learning how to treat women; rather it's good or bad. Parents need to know that when they are raising a male child, that they are raising a man not a boy. Also a boy child don't always have to be raised by another man, a woman can raise a male child just as good maybe better. That's because it depends on the father that is raising a male child, it could be a father that is mostly rotten in his ways, and he teaches his son negative things on how to be a man. Then there's a father that raises his son to be a good "man of honor and respect." And yes a woman can raise a son without the help of a father-figure, especially if the father-figure is a negative energy.

A man that is down is someone that is negative to himself and other people. Examples of Man Down situations is someone that:

  • Argues frequently.
  • Physically abuse women.
  • Has grown-man tantrums.
  • Mostly view women as sexual objects.
  • Not a gentleman or kind to others.
  • Doesn't put God first in his life.
  • Does not accept responsibility for his wrong doings.
  • Say mean things to other people without cause.
  • Not a good listener, but likes to hear himself talk.
  • Engage in T.V. sports more than he engage in the Holy Bible.

How's Your Love Life

So when women are asked about their spouse situation, we want to hear that "He has manned up" he's more mature now; and/or "I thank God for this man in my life." No one wants to hear a woman say about her spouse "Man down - he is so mean; he's verbally abusive, he's a menace to society," etc. When a man treats his woman as if she is a 'Queen,' he just crowned himself to be a 'King.'

A righteous man will put God first in his life, and he will "man up" in any situation. "A man of honor" will love God, love himself, love his wife, and love his children enough to read his Bible. Yes that's right "read his Bible," it's either you "Stand for Christ or Fall for Anything."

A real man has some emotions, he is not numb to feelings, and it's alright for a man to cry once in a while. Just hope that he doesn't cry every day, unless he's going through some grieving times.

When a Man Loves a Woman, He will . . .

Be a "Man of Honor and Respect," and will Man Up
Look out for her best interest.
Respect her goals and hobbies.
Help her raise their children according to the principles of the Bible.
Bring 100% of himself to the relationship, not 50%.
Not be cruel to her, but loving.
Not point fingers at her (figuratively speaking).
Look at her with caring eyes, not hateful eyes.
Will lift her up with encouraging words, not tear her down with negative criticism.
Let's her know that love-making is not just a bed room activity, it starts with positive conversation and plans.
Compliments her for the small things that she does, such as her cooking.
Find time to spend 'quality time' with her.
Be her best friend.
Will not be jealous and controlling, after all she is not a man's property. She is God's property.
Influence her in good ways, not bad ways.
Accepts responsibility for doing wrong, then play catch-up to make it right.
Wants to make love to her rather than just having sex.
No more Man Down Situations; So Please Man Up!

"The Qualities of a Good Man" by Dr Myles Munroe

© 2012 Brinafr3sh


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      Brinafr3sh 5 years ago from West Coast, United States

      @ Steven, your welcome. God bless you.


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      steven 5 years ago

      i now have a clear understanding of what it takes to be a man.thank u 4 enlightening us ,may God grant u favor.(amen).

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      Brinafr3sh 5 years ago from West Coast, United States

      @ Apostle Jack, Thanks

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      Apostle Jack 5 years ago from Atlanta Ga

      You said it well.

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      Brinafr3sh 5 years ago from West Coast, United States

      @ Anjili, This is true, thanks for commenting.

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      Anjili 5 years ago from planet earth, a humanoid

      I wish all men could be like this. The world would indeed be a better place to live in. On the contrary, most are too abrasive. Thanks sharing

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      Brinafr3sh 5 years ago from West Coast, United States

      :-] Hi James, Thanks for reading my Hub. And I agree, the world would be a better place if many men would "man up."


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      James A Watkins 5 years ago from Chicago

      Awesome Hub! I agree with you 100 percent. The world will be a better place if the men man up, just as you say. Thank you for telling it like it is.

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      Brinafr3sh 5 years ago from West Coast, United States

      Hi Shampa, I agree women have to do the same as well, and must have woman-like behavior. Can you believe that there are some women in today's society that don't even know how to cook food? Thanks for your comment.

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      Shampa Sadhya 5 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

      Voted up and useful!

      The tragedy is all the men do not listen to these valuable words but if they do then men would never lose their respect in the society. Here, one thing I would like to point out that at present many women are also spoiling the equation between man and woman due to their misbehaviour and wrong intentions. Your write up spreads positive approach and I feel not only man must follow this thought process towards woman but it should be vice versa to make the society a better place to live in.

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      Brinafr3sh 5 years ago from West Coast, United States

      Hi Lilian, thanks for commenting.

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      lilian1 5 years ago from Hertfordshire England

      I agree with all you say here Brina I think if a man respects himself he will show respect to others voted up :)

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      Brinafr3sh 5 years ago from West Coast, United States

      Hi, thanks so much, glad you enjoyed this hub. I will be reading your hubs soon. Peace.

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      The Finance Hub 5 years ago from Portland, Oregon

      Great hub, I like the way you laid everything out with a general sense of humor! Hope you enjoy my hubs as well!