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Marriage 101: Keep it Simple
Will You Marry Me?
Work In Progress
Marriage is Work
No matter how long, young, old and traditional marriage is, it still remains WORK. In order to make it work you have to WANT to make it work, but when does the work stop and the marriage begin?
It doesn't! Now, let's move on!
As a Mother, wife, daughter, friend, employee--wow, the list goes on and on, who wants more work? Therefore, marriage to me is not work, but a work of art. Specifically, an arts and crafts project. How so? Well, lets start off by throwing around some issues pertaining to marriage. Firstly, let's admit that ALL MARRIAGES are different with different dynamics, but the same too. Fine, that's been settled now back to our ongoing project.
Marriage is like an arts and crafts project that both parties come to the table with lots of energy and tools; glossy paper, shiny buttons, vibrant paint colors, paint brushes of all sizes and lots of time to work on it. It usually involves a lifetime commitment.
As the project expands, the artwork is created, but little by little by little the project is set aside and left for show-and-tell. Once show and tell comes and goes, the project is put away for later use or you end up buying new ornaments; which in reality ends up being the equivalent to hopes, expectations, and dreams. The parties hang their embellishments and begin to forget that they both are putting so much on this one project, but no one is really seeing the others effort and the project begins to get heavier and heavier; bogged down, overly ornate and ugly--tacky and may end up falling apart completely.
Destruction? Despair? Game over? No, the great thing about arts and crafts is that it's always available to create, re-create and "do over" either from scratch or if one in particular decides to throw it away then it's done. Some projects have no definitive timeline, direction or guidelines. Others are rigid instructional pieces that are made to withstand the worst, but only frustrate those working on it. The rest are up for grabs.
Which one are you? What will you do in your marriage? Have you worked on your arts and crafts project recently?
Wives, pick up the pieces. Husbands go out and get some new ones and start over! A true art and crafts project can one day be the masterpiece you've been diligently working on.
Work on it!