Marriage what's the rush?
Years ago people would get married right out of high school. Then people would wait until they got a career. Now people are getting married in their 20's.
When you marry someone you make a commitment to be with them for the rest of your life. Marriage shouldn't be the spur of the moment thing. When you are getting married to someone you have to be sure that they will be the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
If your in your mid or late twenties and want a boyfriend people will assume that you want a boyfriend. They might ask you "why do you want a boyfriend if you are not ready to get married?" Marriage and having a boyfriend are two separate things.
First of all you need a boyfriend if you want to get married. You don't just meet someone you like and then get married. You date someone and then when you feel the time is right the both of you get married.
Another thing is having a boyfriend and a husband are two separate things. When you have a boyfriend you are loyal to that one person but you could still do your own thing. You could go to the movies with your friends and don't have to come home or wake up to the same guy every single day.
When you have a husband you walk up and go to bed with the same person for the rest of your life. You come home and they are there. You also have to share bills and even bank accounts with each other.
If you rush into marriage when you are in your twenties you might get divorced a couple of years later. You might even regret jumping into it too soon and end up getting divorced because you weren't ready.
If you freak out when you are walking down the aisle then you shouldn't get married. When you want to spend the rest of your life with someone you don't get cold feet. You get excited that you are getting to spend the rest of your life with the person you love.
Marriage is great but there is no rush. When you are in your twenties enjoy your life. This is your time to go crazy with your girls and date different guys. The only way you will know who the one is, is by being around different guys and finding the one that works for you. Just because you are not in a rush to get married doesn't mean you shouldn't experience love. When you are ready you will know. If your not ready yet it's okay. Go after your dreams and when the time is right it will happen.
Do you believe in getting married in your 20's or focusing on your career?
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