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Mature Dating - Some Tips Before You Get Started

Updated on August 3, 2012

While dating can be unnerving for anyone, it is especially likely to cause some anxiety for people over the age of 50. But, dating for seniors doesn't have to be complicated.

There are some things you should think about though, before you get back into the mature dating pool.

Pay Attention to Your Dating Reasons

Individuals in their 20s and 30s generally date for different reasons than seniors do. The majority of over-50s have been married at least once and have already started their families.

While it's true that many people involved in over 50 dating would like to be married again, not everyone is looking for something long-term. It's a good idea to take some time to think about your reasons for dating.

Make sure you and your date are on the 'same page' when it comes to what you both want in a potential relationship.

Know What You Want

Be prepared for some people to disapprove of your plans for mature dating. This is a common problem that happens when seniors have adult children who haven't accepted the idea that their parents are capable of new relationships.

Don't let pressure from family members of friends keep you from going out and meeting new people. Your age shouldn't mean you have to be alone forever.

While senior dating might be startling for your family, they'll get used to it.

Decide What You Want in a Partner

When people are younger, they tend to fixate on less meaningful concerns like income or looks. Most people over the age of 50 have gained the perspective to better prioritize what really is important in the grand scheme of things.

Of course, everyone who's just starting to date again should think about what they want in a partner. The things that seemed the most important to you before your previous marriage may no longer be priorities.

Don't be afraid to step outside your comfort zone and see different kinds of people. Mature dating is one of the best ways to try something new.

Use Good Judgement

Dishonest and dangerous people can appear in the mature dating scene just like anywhere else.

  • If your relationship started on the Internet, insist that your first meeting occur in a public place.
  • Don't rush things. Let the relationship develop at its own pace.
  • Watch for behavior that makes you feel alarmed. If something doesn't seem quite right, you might need to reassess the relationship.

Find Your Dates the Smart Way

Although bars are a popular hook-up destination for young people, they're not necessarily the optimum choice for mature dating. Don't feel like you are confined to finding dates at locales that only cater to seniors, though.

Your local church or temple can be a great place to meet someone special.

Check out hobbyist clubs, continuing education classes, ballroom dance events and other fun social occasions. These organizations can do a lot to assist you. It's also a good idea to check online dating sites meant for seniors.

No matter what kind of relationship you want, mature dating can be truly rewarding. If you think about your preferences before you start, the whole process becomes much easier.

So, think about what you want out of an over 50 relationship, then meet someone special.

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      rrnewmed 5 years ago

      Thanks, Sharkye11. I appreciate your support!

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      rrnewmed 5 years ago

      Thanks for your visit and comment, Tammy. it's nice to meet you, as well.

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      Jayme Kinsey 5 years ago from Oklahoma

      This is a great article. Senior's should be able to date and seek relationships without stress. Too bad society is hung up on the belief that life ends at thirty.

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      Tammy 5 years ago from North Carolina

      This is a great first hub. I hope I don't need it when I hit 50, but it will surely be some help to those who need it!

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      rrnewmed 5 years ago

      Yes, it can be one of the more stressful activities in life, but it can be exciting, too!

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      DRidge 5 years ago from Gulf Coast, MS

      Thank goodness I'm married! I'd hate to have to go through the dating thing again!