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Reasons Why Dating During the Holidays is a Bad Idea

Updated on February 23, 2013
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Jeannie has been writing online for over 8 years. She covers a wide variety of topics—anything from hamsters to office work.

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Recently I have been using online dating sites again and I've come to realize something - dating during the holidays is a bad idea! If possible, try to wait to find that new love interest after the holidays end. I know, you are probably wishing you had someone to corner under the mistletoe, but you are probably better off being single during the holiday season.

Don't get me wrong, I am not talking about those of you that are already in a relationship. In no way do I mean you should dump the person you've been dating for 6 months just because the holiday season is rolling around. I am just saying if you've been single for a while, you are probably going to be a lot happier if you wait to join some online dating sites AFTER January 1st. If you don't believe me, let me give you some valid reasons why dating during the holidays is a stinky situation.

It's Freezing Outside!

Unless you are living in a lovely place with a warm climate (and oh, I am so jealous), first dates in freezing weather is unpleasant.

First of all, I can't wear any cute outfits. Adorable skirts, sandals, and low-cut blouses just are not working out in this weather. If you can look sexy in a thick, bulky coat with a scarf wrapped around you, more power to you. For me, it is not a good look.

Second, there is no such thing as a romantic walk along the beach or a really nice picnic in the park. Instead, it is two people freezing and attempting to run into restaurants as fast as humanly possible. This often forces two people to get into a car together even if they've just met because no one wants to walk anywhere. That is not the safest idea either.

No One Has Any Money

During the holidays, there are so many expenses. You've got to buy gifts, decorations, extra food for holiday meals, and so on. The last thing you need is to worry about the extra expenses of paying for dining out or for movies. Even if you are a woman, the man usually expects you to start chipping in after a couple of dates. Furthermore, even if you are lucky enough to find a man that insists on paying for everything, unless he is rich, he is going to run out of money because of buying gifts for everyone in his life. It is just not a good time!

Gift Giving = Awkward

While we are on the subject of gifts, this can be a very touchy topic when first dating someone. To gift or not to gift? That is the question! After the first few dates, I would not think a gift would be expected for Christmas. However, what about after 5 dates? What about after 3 weeks of dating? When do you give a gift and when don't you? What if the person you are dating gives you a gift at the last minute, yet you have nothing to give in return? Do you discuss it with the person you are dating? That is probably your best bet, but wow, awkward!

The rule I am going to go with (and I am totally just making this up right now) is if you've changed your Facebook relationship status to "in a relationship," then yes, you buy each other gifts. Wow, do I sound like a kid in middle school right now? Sure. But that is a basic rule that can probably work in this modern age. Feel free to apply it to your own life in the future. You're welcome.

The Restaurants Are Crowded

During the holiday season, everyone is out more and eating at restaurants even more. Entire families are out shopping until they drop and when they do drop, they are dropping into all the nice restaurants. It is like an overspending extravaganza.

This might be perfect for restaurants who need business, but it is not so great for a first date. You and your date are trying to have a romantic dinner, and the bratty kid at the next table is throwing spaghetti at your head because she's been told she can't have any toys all day since Santa is bringing them. She is not in good mood and, now, neither are you. Bad first date!

Time is Limited

Not only is everyone broke from spending too much money, there is also a lack of extra time. People have parties, dinners, potlucks, shopping outings, and gift exchanges to attend. If you are dating someone you really like, you might be tempted to take this person along to a family event since time is so limited. Stop! Don't do that! It sends the wrong signal that you are having a serious relationship when you are actually just trying to be a master at time management.

So before you consider dating someone during the holiday season, please consider all of these reasons why it is a bad idea. I am not saying not to do it; I just feel like someone should warn you. I wish someone had bothered to warn me!

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  • Jeannieinabottle profile imageAUTHOR

    Jeannie Marie 

    8 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    imatellmuva - This is so true! Shopping during football season is awesome. Unfortunately I am try not to shop, but at least if I need to go, no one is around. I am so tired of hearing about the Ravens. Sigh.

    JoshuaDR - You might be right. Halloween through Valentine's Day all stinks. Although a lot of people probably go on desperate online dating searches a week or two before Valentine's Day. I am not sure that is a good thing though. I am considering deactivating my accounts until March. It is just that bad out there! Thanks for reading and thanks for the votes!

    Thank you both for the comments.

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    JoshuaDR 

    8 years ago from Charleston, SC

    You have to extend the time period from Halloween through Valentines Day. There is basically only a 7 month window to start dating someone new =)

    I lived just outside of Baltimore for a few years. You get both extremes; really cold winters and very hot summers.

    voted up and funny

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    imatellmuva 

    8 years ago from Somewhere in Baltimore

    Jeannieinabottle, this is an opportune time for shopping. Football games, especially playoffs, and the Super Bowl makes shopping a breeze...I love football season!!

    But since you covered "How not to shop so much" in a hub...I really don't know what to suggest!

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    Jeannie Marie 

    8 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    moncrieff - Yes! I am so glad the holidays are over. Of course, Valentine's Day causes complications, too, but at least guys are willing date around that time. I am finding football season to be a burden on my dating life though.

    Minnetonka Twin - Yes, the cold weather ruins a good time! I cannot wait for spring. At least then there are picnic and beach options.

    imatellmuva - Yes, I like to cover just about everything. Men are driving me nuts! Now they are all obsessed with the Ravens and watching every football game. What's a girl to do?

    Thanks for the comments!

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    imatellmuva 

    8 years ago from Somewhere in Baltimore

    Guurl you crack me up!! You are the cornerstone on every subject under the sun...and I LOVE IT!!!

    INCREDIBLY FUNNY!!

    How about don't date during the holidays, cause dude is going on as many dates as he can just for gifts?

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    Linda Rogers 

    8 years ago from Minnesota

    Love your sense of humor with the dating don'ts during the holiday's. I'm from Minnesota and the cold is definitely a detriment for a good date. I took away a lot from your fun hub. NO DATING during the holidays!

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    moncrieff 

    8 years ago from New York, NY

    These are very astute observations and conclusions! Glad we're not going to have holidays for another 10 months.

  • Jeannieinabottle profile imageAUTHOR

    Jeannie Marie 

    8 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    I know! It is so confusing!!! Dating is not fun even during the best of circumstances. It is even worse during the holidays.

    Hahaha... and yes, no matter what you've exchanged, a Christmas gift can be the most awkward exchange of all!

    No, Baltimore is not a warm place. It has been in the 30s this week, but we are going to be unseasonably warm this weekend... maybe in the 60s! Hooray! The last couple of winters we've even gotten blizzards. Snow is not my thing!

    Thanks for the comment!

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    ThoughtSandwiches 

    8 years ago from Reno, Nevada

    Jeannie...

    Good Lord...Where to start...BOOM...at the beginning...from being freezing cold to EVER letting her see the family to EVER letting her see the family during the holidays.

    How does one buy a meaningful gift for someone they have been out with ...say...four times? Even assuming an exchange of bodily fluids...it would be hard to know the little details...as you say...awkward.

    Alright...I must go see if a side braid is right for me.

    Thanks,

    Thomas

    PS...I thought Baltimore was a warm place?

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