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Nurturing the Wounded Soul Through Discipline

Updated on February 28, 2012
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Nurturing the Wounded Soul Through Discipline


Growing up in Dysfunctional Families is never easy. Discipline entails punishment for one may be over disciplined or under disciplined. Both create a great impact on a person. But there is good discipline that helps a person grow into a healthy person. It is also a way of living life gracefully. This involves rules that allow a person to be who he/she is. Such rules augment our being and protect our wonderful soul or our inner child


1. It’s alright to feel what you undergo. Feelings are not right or wrong. They just are. There is no one who can tell you what you should feel. It’s good and it’s necessary to talk about feelings.


2. It’s alright to yearn for what you want. There’s nothing you should or should not want. If you’re in touch with your life energy, you will want to expand and grow. It’s alright and it’s necessary to get your needs met. It’s good to ask for what you want.


3. It’s alright to see and hear what you perceive and listen to. Whatever you saw and heard is what you saw and heard.


4. It’s alright and it’s necessary to have lots of fun and play. It’s alright to enjoy sexual play.


5. It’s essential to tell the truth at all times. This will reduce life’s pain. Lying distorts reality. All forms of distorted thinking must be corrected.


6. It’s important to know your limits and to postpone gratification some of the time. This will reduce life’s pain.


7. It’s crucial to develop a balanced sense of conscientiousness. This means accepting the consequences for what you do and refusing to accept the consequences for what someone else does.


8. It’s alright to make oversights. Mistakes are our teachers – they help us to learn.


9. Other people’s feelings, needs, and wants are to be respected and valued. Violating other people leads to remorse and to accepting the consequences.


10. It’s alright to have problems. They need to be resolved. It’s okay to have conflict. It needs to be straightened out.


To To heal our wounded soul we need to let him/her give permission to choose the role he or she want to keep and let go of the rest. This time it's alright to let him/her allow the feelings and it's alright to express these feelings. Then allow him or her to explore the new found freedom in order to grow as a person. Finally, let him or her decide what roles to keep and allow him or her to be who he or she is.

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Susan, i've been through a lot that is why i look for answers to the questions in my head, why i felt such a loser yet i have a good and rewarding job...so now i know, and i want to share it to other people...thank you for sharing your insights with us...have a blessed day!

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      Barbara 5 years ago from Stepping past clutter

      racinwa, you do a nice job of addressing one subject and linking other of your hubs to further explain what you are describing. This one was very positive and full of good healing affirmations. Thanks.

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello James! thank you for visiting my hub today...and yes, we all need those things to achieve the life we aim for...have a great day! and the pleasure is mine...

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      jamesfl2002 5 years ago

      the message is very moving. it speaks with utmost candidness and authority on the emotional facade of people in general.

      thanks alot my friend raci. keep it up. great.

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      thank you Inspire...have a great day...:-)looking forward too for sharing great hubs with you...

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      TheInspiredLife 5 years ago from North Carolina

      Yes, you can call me whatever you want. Look forward to reading more of your hubs.

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello Life!!!may I call you that?it's as if i'm staring at life itself...thank you for visiting...i appreciate it very much...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Thank you Sandra, but those insights are God's gifts i learned from enlightened people...thank you so much for sharing your time with me...

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      TheInspiredLife 5 years ago from North Carolina

      This is a powerful hub. I look forward to following you and reading more of your inspirational words.

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      Sandra Busby 5 years ago from Tuscaloosa, Alabama, USA

      Your insights are awesome. More power to you. Thanks for SHARING. Sandra Busby

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      oh, thank you Reginald for the uplifting comment...and yes, we can do too soar high like the eagle if we choose to free ourselves...

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      Reginald Boswell 5 years ago from Alabama

      Read entire hub again with I believe I can fly playing, its very spiritual I just read a hub on cardinals it was good but this one is an eagle and soars above.

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      It sounds like a movie for the next Oscar Award...will it be nominated Best Picture?

      thank you WD for leaving an awesome comment...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Rigid rules can sometimes drive you crazy by forcing you to work even if you want to take rest...

      thank you Vinaya for sharing your experience...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello Kelley...yes, it's quite a struggle if one grows under-disciplined (shame -less) and over-disciplined (shame - ful), rigid rules, excessive control and the like but eventually if we teach our inner child the proper way and nurture her, she will grow into a mature fully developed mature lady...

      thank you kelley for visiting...and you are much welcome...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello Millionaire...yes, as has been imprinted in our brain, like old age traditions that no one dares to bend...thank you for the vote of confidence! have a great...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Yes Marcy, everybody has the chance if one wills it...change must start from within...thank you for the visit...

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      FloraBreenRobison 5 years ago

      Seriously, you have to delete my comments on this hub. My poem was a creative way to say so, but my comments are not welcome on HP if they say anything at all about a fellow hubber, even when the hubber isn't named. I know it seems odd, but I am indeed telling you to delete my comments. Delete them.

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      FloraBreenRobison 5 years ago

      Now that it has served its purpose in presenting in a creative way that people have been complaining to HP but that I can't control who deletes or approves my comment, that latest hub is now deleted. The link will no longer work. It was never meant to stay up longer than 48 hours regardless, and since the reaction was right away, the time up was even shorter.

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      WD Curry 111 5 years ago from Space Coast

      I found a lot of wisdom in this presentation. On a practicle note, the hub has good visual appeal, and the products are well presented and relevant. It is a classic.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      As a child I studied in a boarding school. I lived in strict discipline. At that time I rebelled but when I went to college, I knew how disciplined life in school had modeled me into a responsible boy.

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      kelleyward 5 years ago

      This is a powerful hub with great insights. I've read a lot about healing the inner child annd found it fascinating. Discipline is something can be a struggle. Thanks for sharing.

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      Shasta Matova 5 years ago from USA

      You have posted some great inspiring thoughts here. We do have a tendency to restrict ourselves when our thoughts, feelings, and mistakes can help us grow. Voted up.

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      Marcy Goodfleisch 5 years ago from Planet Earth

      I like the insightful points here - it's a nice way to remind us we can all grow and move forward. And nobody is perfect. Voted up and useful.

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      why would i do that?even if it's my hub, you have every right to say what you say and air out your sentiments...sorry if i misunderstood your statement...but it's only an honest comment too...

      and i haven't deleted any comment so far...

      thank you as always for being honest...

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      FloraBreenRobison 5 years ago

      Free Speech is not allowed! You are hereby ordered to delete my comments even though I've violated no TOS!:

      http://florabreenrobison.hubpages.com/hub/Sorry-fo...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello Ruby...thank you as always for being my wind beneath my wings...A great day to you...and a smile too... :-)

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      A pleasant day to you too my friend...thanks for spending your time with me...wish you all the best too...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello too Debby...yes, telling our selves we're okay even if we're not causes our inner child to suffer...pretending that we're okay even if we are breaking apart would cause greater damage in the long run...thank you for leaving your insight too...and Blessings too...have a great day...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello Curiad...thank you taking your time to read this hub...take care...bless you...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello fpherj...Thank you for the generous comments...I am good for i believe in the goodness of mankind...I wish you too best of everything...have a magical day ahead...Take care!!!

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Yes, Practical Mommy...we all can, we can move onward, or remain where we are...not knowing that at the other side of the fence lies the greenest pasture...thank you for sharing your ideas with me and also for visiting...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello Jlava...i agree with you, a problem not faced won't go away...thank you for sharing your insight...have a wonderful day...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello Frank...reaching out to others is my way of showing my gratitude that i have risen from the ashes that have me in its clutch for a long time...thank you as always for sharing your time with me...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello Linda...your presence means much to me...thank you for sharing this hub and for your wonderful comment...have a pleasant day...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      I am starting just now for my students ahorseback...in that way, i can help ease up the burden they're having...thank you as always for the support...

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I really like this hub, full of truth and honesty..It is ok to be you...Smiles

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      Raci...such beautiful and profound words of wisdom.

      Wishing you joy, my friend!

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      Debby Bruck 5 years ago

      Hello Raciniwa ~ This reminds me of "You're Okay, I'm Okay" message and knowing that telling our self "It's alright" can help us get through all sorts of difficult situations and emotions. Blessings, Debby

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      Mark G Weller 5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      This is an awesome hub with an inspiring message!

      Voted Up and Shared!

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      Paula 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Raci....The world would benefit greatly with more people as intelligent, loving and generous as you. I wish you health, happiness and success for you are so deserving of the goodness in this world.

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      Marissa 5 years ago from United States

      I like what your title suggests and your tips say, that to heal a wounded soul you must train yourself to see things in a positive light without ignoring the reality of the situation. We all have troubles; it just depends on how we deal with them that make things better or worse.

      Well done!

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      Jennifer Vasconcelos 5 years ago from Cyberspace and My Own World

      I really like how you presented the information and followed it up with an action statement. #10 for example. A problem one does not solve - can turn into trouble. Nice job!

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      Frank Atanacio 5 years ago from Shelton

      You know Raci.. this is a useful hub.. and it gives the readers a fresh perspective.. or a different view yeah? I mean the steps can be followed by young parents or ( Sit down when I say this ) even grand-parents who are helping to raise.. :) Frank

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Raci, These words of wisdom from you are profound and beautiful. I'm sure many people could relate in one way or another. Keep on being your wonderful self.

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      ahorseback 5 years ago

      Raciniwa , You must be a councilor , if you aren't .....you should be ! For the children ...?! I can see you doing that !.....:-}

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Yes shim, as a saying goes...Mistakes are not failures if one learns from it...Nobody is perfect, we are all prone for mistakes, yet it's up to us to correct those and make it right...thank you for taking the time to read and leave and insightful comment... Have a great day... Peace to you too...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      I agree with you on that Flora...it's better not to say anything than say things that seem robotic, yet i'm afraid i'm guilty of that especially if i am too stressed or flattened out during a long day's work...anyway, i just want to show my support to the person...

      and again yes, it takes some time and a while in order to master these things...undergoing through the process of parenting the inner child requires determination, dedication and hard word...

      thank you for sharing your insights...it's very much appreciated...have a great day!

      always,

      Raci

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello SubRon...thank you for sharing your insight, and yes, it's time to give ourselves some credits and let it enjoy the freedom one deserves...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Hello truthfornow...yes, as what the book for Self Parenting says, we are the ones abandoning ourselves...thank you for sharing your insights...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      Yes lord, losing my father at an early age, and my mother was always away most of the times...leaving us fending for our selves is not an easy task...and thank you for always supporting me...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      A great day Reginald...thank you for visiting...

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      raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      hello sam...thanks for dropping by...

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      shimmering Dawn 5 years ago

      I do agree with most of what you say.. thought provoking. It is okay to make mistakes is what I keep telling myself and my kids, as long as you know it is a mistake and are ready to correct it. Wonderful thoughts here, my dear. Have a blessed day! Peace.

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      FloraBreenRobison 5 years ago

      Sometimes #5 and #9 are hard to accomplish when the person is easily offended. I had a situation where someone found out I thought that it is better to write fan letters on the websites of the celebrities than on Hubpages because the fan mail won't be seen by your favourite. Somehow, that got interpreted as being fan mail is stupid,period. No, not what I said. I've written plenty, myself. Who cares what I think, anyway, especially if you only know me online? I guess it's just that I feel if you disagree with me you are free to shoot down my ideas, as long as it is my hub you shoot down, and not me personally.

      How boring it would be to just get responses of "How wonderful! You are a great writer and I agree with everything you say" all the time.

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      James W. Nelson 5 years ago from eastern North Dakota

      A very wonderful hub, Raciniwa. Yes, it is good to go, and do, and want, and believe that we can. I really enjoyed the video too. I love that song.

      Thank you.

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      truthfornow 5 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      I especially like your point that it is alright to make mistakes. A lot of the time people are too hard on themselves and need to forgive themselves the most. Voted up!

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      Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

      Nice topic my friend,

      Seems that you really have experienced hard times, way back, when growing up. Excellent tips

      LORD

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      Reginald Boswell 5 years ago from Alabama

      Good Hub

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      sam209 5 years ago

      very insightful hub Ms!