Nurturing the Wounded Soul Through Discipline

Nurturing the Wounded Soul Through Discipline

Growing up in Dysfunctional Families is never easy. Discipline entails punishment for one may be over disciplined or under disciplined. Both create a great impact on a person. But there is good discipline that helps a person grow into a healthy person. It is also a way of living life gracefully. This involves rules that allow a person to be who he/she is. Such rules augment our being and protect our wonderful soul or our inner child…

1. It’s alright to feel what you undergo. Feelings are not right or wrong. They just are. There is no one who can tell you what you should feel. It’s good and it’s necessary to talk about feelings.

2. It’s alright to yearn for what you want. There’s nothing you should or should not want. If you’re in touch with your life energy, you will want to expand and grow. It’s alright and it’s necessary to get your needs met. It’s good to ask for what you want.

3. It’s alright to see and hear what you perceive and listen to. Whatever you saw and heard is what you saw and heard.

4. It’s alright and it’s necessary to have lots of fun and play. It’s alright to enjoy sexual play.

5. It’s essential to tell the truth at all times. This will reduce life’s pain. Lying distorts reality. All forms of distorted thinking must be corrected.

6. It’s important to know your limits and to postpone gratification some of the time. This will reduce life’s pain.

7. It’s crucial to develop a balanced sense of conscientiousness. This means accepting the consequences for what you do and refusing to accept the consequences for what someone else does.

8. It’s alright to make oversights. Mistakes are our teachers – they help us to learn.

9. Other people’s feelings, needs, and wants are to be respected and valued. Violating other people leads to remorse and to accepting the consequences.

10. It’s alright to have problems. They need to be resolved. It’s okay to have conflict. It needs to be straightened out.

To To heal our wounded soul we need to let him/her give permission to choose the role he or she want to keep and let go of the rest. This time it's alright to let him/her allow the feelings and it's alright to express these feelings. Then allow him or her to explore the new found freedom in order to grow as a person. Finally, let him or her decide what roles to keep and allow him or her to be who he or she is.