Why You Shouldn’t Propose on a Holiday
Is it the Right Time
You have thought about your future together and decided this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
They stand by you but challenge you. They make you a better person, but love you for the person you already are. You laugh, cry and occasionally argue yet, you cannot imagine your life without them.
Is it the right time to take it to the next step? Not necessarily , now is the time for the two of you to sit down and talk about where you both are in the realtionship.
“Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can't live without.”
James Dobson
Discuss Your Future Plans
Getting engaged is a major life decision. You are saying you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. Do not jump into it with out discussing it as a couple first.
Discussing your plans for the future beforehand is necessary.
- Do you both see marriage {to each other} in your future?
- Are you both at that stage in your relationship now?
Once you start going more in depth, you will know if this will be the right time to propose, or if you should wait until your both in the same place.
You’ve Decided to Propose
You have discussed your plans for the future and you both are ready to take the next step, off to the jeweler.
Browse the selection of engagement rings and let her pick out the one she likes. The cut, color and overall style should be something that she will enjoy wearing.
You have the ring, you know how your going to propose. Now the question is when?
Is Christmas, New Years Eve,Valentines Day coming up ,if so you are already thinking that would be the perfect time. So is everyone else!
Why You Might Want To Consider Another Day
There is something about Christmas and New Years that seems magical. Then of course Valentines Day were romance is in the air. Why not make one of these holidays even more special by proposing to the one you love.
I will tell you why.
Its cliche'. Social media is overflowing with photos of couples getting engaged on these holidays.It's almost a given that one of your friends or many have or will get engaged on one of these dates.
The holidays are usually stressful and a very busy time. When you propose you will want to be able to focus on each other even if its only for a brief few moments. This will be much more difficult if you're in the middle of holiday festivities or a gaggle of on- lookers are filming to see if she says yes.
Another thing to consider, this is a day you will remember for the rest of your life. What if your engagement doesn't last or you get married but end up divorcing.
This date will now be tainted, you will cringe thinking about it. Do you really want it to be a holiday you will celebrate year after year.
Another day I would like you to think twice about is your or your partners birthday. Same situation if the engagement or marriage ends your not just getting another year older your doing it while remembering the failed relationship.
What to Consider When Picking a Day
There is no magic algorithm to picking the perfect day. It should be a day that is special to the both of you or not special at all. The proposal is what is going to make it a day to remember.
You can pick the day of your first date, first kiss, or the date you first said I love you.
You can carry the ring around with you and propose whenever you feel the moment is right.
Whatever day you pick or however you decide to do it will be perfect. If you truly love each other the timing will always be right.
