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How to be an AWESOME Girlfriend: What Women Could Learn From My Lady
Throughout high school, college, and then back in high school (as I am working at one), I continually hear women complain about not being able to find any good guys. After all, every woman seems to know exactly what she wants, but is unable to find that in ANY guy!
Somehow all of the perfect guys are either made-up vampires, imaginary Disney Princes, Brad Pitt, Teddy Bears, or a good movie with ice cream. This is unfortunate, because well, most Disney Princes are actually jerks, very few Teddy Bears talk back (which I know is important for a woman), and there is only one Brad Pitt - of which you will probably never have the opportunity to marry (at least not for longer than a couple of years).
So somehow you need to come up with a way to settle for one of us ordinary guys... Sorry.
But you know what? Often our biggest problems in life actually come from within. So, if it is difficult for you to find Mr. Right, maybe it is because you are actually Miss Wrong!
Think about it....
What is the most valuable attribute for a woman to have?
Being Miss Right
Well ladies, if you want to find that perfect guy, it really helps to start working towards perfection yourself. While I am nowhere near Mr. Perfect, I know that I am completely fascinated with my wonderful girlfriend and a lot of the reasons are because she is an incredible woman herself. In fact, probably the reason our relationship is so awesome is because SHE is so awesome.
Here are some reasons why my lady friend is so awesome. Maybe some other women can learn a few things.
1. She Laughs at My Jokes
My jokes are TERRIBLE. My sense of humor is the combination of a kindergartener, an 80 year old man, and a mentally challenged orangutang - but my girlfriend thinks I'm hilarious! This is a huge lesson for every woman.Guys love to feel like they're funny, even when they're not actually humorous at all. You can role your eyes at a guy when he tells a ridiculous joke and yes, you will get others to laugh at him, but you probably won't be scoring a lot of points with HIM. So think about that.
2. She Supports My Endeavors
What are a mans dreams? Traveling down the Amazon, starting a massive company, becoming a doctor, writing a book, reading a book, learning ballet, eating at a buffet. There are many goals and desires that every guy has. Some are ridiculous and will never happen - but he wants to dream about them. Others are challenges or adventures that he MUST accomplish. Either way, if you are afraid of what he wants to do, or if you have no interest in his passions, then don't bank on him being interested in you...My girlfriend tells me I can accomplish anything (she then tells me to be smart at the same time... good point).
3. She Tries to Make Food for Me Even Though She Can't Cook
Although she is a beautiful woman, my lady friend is not the best cook in the world. Actually, I should reword that - she burns EVERYTHING! But she still tries and is able to laugh about it. It reveals an incredible amount of love, confidence, and humor to be able to do something that you are not very good at for someone you really like. I admire my woman very much for being willing to risk looking ridiculous for me.
4. She Takes Care of Herself
My girlfriend just seems to look good all the time! This is an amazing thing. See, many girls I've met try to look good to get a guy, but then, once they get the guy, the just don't seem to care. This is terrible! It makes a guy feel "gotten" which can be associated with "trapped" and it makes you feel like the woman doesn't really care. When a woman desires to look good for herself and for you, it reveals a classiness that is not always common in today's age.
5. She Cares for Others
Most people are selfish. Meeting someone who is willing to go out of their way to help others is a beautiful thing. Dating someone who does that is AMAZING! A woman that cares about making the world a better place never goes out of style and will never have a problem finding a date.
6. She has a Great Sense of Humor
My jokes are very bad, and my girlfriend's jokes are almost as funny. My girlfriend has a wit that is almost movie-worthy. She can retort my comebacks and comeback my retorts with the greatest of skill. It is certainly fun knowing that you always have a woman around who can make you laugh and you can crack a joke with.
7. She Sings!
This woman can sing opera like no other soprano! She is incredible. Of course, it has taken me a little bit of getting used to this kind of music... ;) But anyone can tell that she has mad music skills. Although not every woman has to sing, I believe that a woman should have some talent that she is incredible at. It is a sign of being a lady. Whether it is a musical instrument, cooking, or being a great painter, every woman should have the dedication to become good at something.
8. She's Honest with Me (Most of the Time)
My girlfriend tells me what she's thinking! (Once she figures out what that is). When a woman is honest about what she's feeling, thinking, or what she wants, it makes it SO much easier for guys. We don't read between lines at all - be candid with us and we will be happy to work with you on whatever issues are going on.
9. She's Intelligent (she learns that from me)
What is a quadratic equation? My girlfriend probably doesn't know. But she is an incredible writer, a deep thinker, and a creative speaker. She doesn't know much about math, but that's okay, neither do I. She does know a lot about music theory and she can connect with people incredibly well (usually)! A woman should never be embarrassed to show off what she knows. If you act dumb and beautiful, a guy might go on a date with you and show you to his guys, but he will never (he should never) consider a serious relationship. Be smart!
10. She Loves God
I am a sincerely believer that the closer you connect with God's love, the more love you are able to share with others. I admire deeply my girlfriends relationship with her Creator and I believe that our connection on a spiritual level gives us additional (necessary) strength. If you believe there is a God, live like it!
How to Become Dateable
If you want to have a quality relationships, I believe that becoming the equivalent to the type of person you want to date is the key. It's often hard to find someone who is athletic if you sit in front of the TV all day; it's gonna be hard to find someone who dresses well if you act a slob.
Decide what kind of person you want to become, and work towards becoming that person - you'll probably meet someone awesome during the journey.
I know my girlfriend did!
And so did I ;)
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