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Top Two Reasons Why Remaining Single is For the Strong at Heart
The corner cafe at the city, four good friends met. Two are married with kids. One is divorced with a kid. Another is divorced, no kids, and decided to remain single for the rest of her days.
"Romance is just not for me." She often claimed.
Two cappuccino, a mocchaccino, and a cafe latte, we chattered. Among the many topics brought upon our table was living without partner or remaining single. We all agreed that that life style is just as challenging, and we give our utmost admiration to those who decide to remain single for the rest of their days, be it of conscious decision or circumstantial.
Why shouldn't they? In this planet, where living with a partner is the majority and romantic relationship predominates, the decision is certainly not an easy one. I asked myself whether I can walk the pathway of being partner-less. My answer: most likely not, even if I can turn back the time and decide otherwise.
This thought then brought me to the conclusion that remaining single is for the strong at heart. Reflecting upon my own thoughts and experience, here are the top two reasons I can think of :
- One has to be strong at heart to go against the "current," as the world dictates that you need to be with the special someone. Remaining single would mean that "I am my own partner," and loneliness is dealt with promptly without too much fuss. What's more, desperation for a romantic relationship, be it driven by our emotion or biological needs or both, probably doesn't exist in the dictionary. In short, one has to be content being just with her/himself.
- One has to be strong at heart to go against the "current," as the crowds usually consist of couples. (As there are less singles people.) Remaining single would mean walking in this life as a unique individual. In cultures where being married is seen as the ultimate goal in life, I've known a couple of people who were disown by their families for walking on a different path. Yet, they are just as grateful for remaining single. Further, peer pressure of being with a partner or marriage probably has a little meaning, if not at all.
Decided to remain single in this couples' world? You've got an admirer (and probably many more out there...)