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How To Say Romantic Things To Women

Updated on August 19, 2013

Huh? Wha'd I say?

The above question is one that most men will be familiar with; women can be extremely sensitive and can be difficult to understand by people who do not have monthly imbalances in their hormones.

It is far too easy for a man to say the wrong thing, or say the right thing at the wrong time.

The first thing to think about before you say anything is how your partner is feeling.

If she seems extremely agitated and stressed it's probably not a good idea to start reciting a song you wrote for her or fall at her feet and declare your undying love.

You should also pay close attention to your surroundings. Most women prefer to be alone with you for romantic conversation. The middle of the supermarket queue is not very conducive to romance.

So what's the right way, casanova?

Like almost all men, women are also individuals. The most important thing to a woman, and most men for that matter, is that you understand and respect her and show it.

It's no good saying "love you baby" if she hates being called baby and is uncomfortable with open statements of affection.

That said, I've met few women who do not respond well to being told how pretty they are or how much of a good person they are.

Try to let your partner know how she makes you feel without being over the top or underwhelming.

"you're alright I suppose" is ok if said tongue in cheek and that's what she likes, but it isn't ok just because you're not comfortable with expressing yourself.

Mmmmm cheesy....
Mmmmm cheesy....


As a man it naturally churns my stomach writing this part. As a human I despair of our fate, but the fact is the most intellectual, hard nosed, steely eyed woman can be reduced to fluttering jelly with cheese.

As long as it's reasonably witty and said by the right guy at the right time, women seem to lap it up.

Most women know they are not the most beautiful creature you have ever seen, but they will generally believe that you believe it.

For some reason the logic button in a woman's brain goes to "off" in the majority of these cases.

That said, mumbling at her shoes will not convince anyone, least of all her, which brings us to.....

Be Confident

If you tell a woman that she has the looks of an angel and you could swim in her eyes forever, but you can't even look her in them, it is likely she will wonder what it is you've done this week.

Look her in the eye when you tell her what you think of her.

Show her that you don't care who knows or what anyone thinks. Declare your feelings, don't let them dribble down your chin.

Write it down

If, however, your partner is not the type to go for open declarations of deep felt emotion, you could always write to her.

Leaving a note telling her just how special you think she is or how good she makes you feel can only go down well.

It doesn't have to be a special occasion or her birthday. Put a note in her lunch so she will read it to herself in work, or write a note on the mirror so she sees it when she showers.

Romantic talk in bed

Um....yeah...I'm not touching this one. If you've got to this point and you don't know what she likes to hear in bed, you seriously need to go out and buy some how to course and stop reading stuff written by amateur loons like me on the internet.

John couldn't understand why melissa didn't think dinosaur hunting counted as a date....
John couldn't understand why melissa didn't think dinosaur hunting counted as a date....

You seriously need more info?

Hey sorry guys, but I'm a man. Above is the sum total of my knowledge about romantic talk.

The most important thing is to make sure you think about her and how you will make her feel when trying romance.

That is, after all, the point, no? Now go prove the stereotypical male cliche of the unromantic neanderthal with the subtlety of an anvil in a road runner cartoon wrong.


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    • xxtonybxx profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from wales

      Thanks very much :)

    • shiningirisheyes profile image

      Shining Irish Eyes 

      8 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Although you give helpful advice for the romantically illiterate, I must also commend you for your great sense of humor as well.

      I thank you for this write. I learned that I probably shouldn't utter the sentence "You know, a plastic surgeon can take care of that in a jiffy" on my next interlude.

      Voting up

    • xxtonybxx profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from wales

      Lol thanks patty :).

    • Patty Kenyon profile image

      Patty Kenyon 

      9 years ago from Ledyard, Connecticut

      Interesting tips!!! Many women love attention in their relationships, it makes them feel special...sometimes no words need to be spoken. In regards to Romantic talk in bed...LOL, that was funny!!


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