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Shy Men A Good Boyfriend
In relationships between men and women it is usual practice for the guy to approach the girl but sometimes men are shy. Some women find this too much work but some of us have learned how sweet these men can be.
I personally prefer shy men and married one.
If you’ve been dating around and not finding a guy that is your type perhaps you need to reconsider a shy man.
Why bother with shy men?
If you are an outgoing woman a shy man might be just the type for you. Opposites attract and if you are extrovert this can work out well. To an outgoing woman an assertive man can seem too pushy or overbearing. Likewise, extrovert men tend to find outspoken women too much for their taste.
How to find a shy man
They aren’t the life of the party and never stand out in a crowd. You’ll sometimes find them sitting quietly at the edge of the room alone watching people with their peripheral vision.
Some are just a little shy but some are very introvert and hardly go out among groups. Those guys are even harder to find.
If you are interested in a shy guy you’ll have to start the conversation and possibly carry most of it until he gets to know you.
Shy and quiet are not the same thing
Some men are just quiet but not shy. This is not the same thing. Quiet guys just don’t have a lot to say, they are observers and pay more attention to what is going on. They are good listeners.
Quiet men don’t have much to say their entire life. They are still good guys they just don’t have a lot to say. When they do speak it’s usually important.
A shy guy might be a talker once he gets to know you and opens up. You might be surprised how much he has to say after he feels comfortable around you. So if you are avoiding shy men thinking you will always have to carry the conversation you are wrong. Once you get to know them some are real talkers.
Internet makes it easier for shy people
Talking to people online is much easier for all of us, and especially those who are a bit apprehensive around people they don’t know.
Shy people are enjoying full social lives online they wouldn’t have had in the past. It’s so easy to meet other people via the Internet before you meet in person. In the past you had an uncomfortable first meeting sometimes on a date if you were set up by friends and you didn’t get a chance to know them before seeing them. Now you can become comfortable with someone first so that initial date won’t be so awkward.
Shy men are worth the extra work
Probably because I’m an extrovert, but I’ve always found shy guys cute and sweet. That shy smile melts my heart. There are a lot of intelligent shy guys just waiting for a woman to speak to them.
Shy men are not always homebodies
Not all shy men are this way. There are some who are afraid of crowds or going out in public but most are okay with it they are just a little backward when it comes to meeting new people. They still do meet new people they just don’t go out of their way to meet new friends. You won’t see a shy salesman or politician.
Some men are only shy with women
They are okay around other guys but get tongue tied when a woman enters the room.
This can actually be a good thing because you won’t have to worry about him chasing women and cheating on you. That’s not to say he can’t meet someone in a chat room somewhere but he’s less likely to step out on you.
Shy men aren’t party animals
Some don't enjoy going to bars, parties or events with a lot of people he’ll need to interact with. He might go along with you and sit at a table in the corner or he’ll stay home while you go without him.
Learn what works for your relationship and accept him for who he is. If he does not enjoy parties and you want a guy who does you might need to find another fellow. If you are okay going alone or don’t mind not going to these types of events then it just might work.
Shy men can be brought out of their shell
Sometimes once a shy man has met the right woman he no longer appears to be shy. This usually takes a few years and not all of them are drawn out. Some just didn’t realize their potential until the right woman came along and helped him realize how special he is. This takes a lot of praise and underlining his assets. Stroke his ego and you just might be surprised what he is capable of.
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