How To Stop Teen Dating Violence - Signs, Statistics and Prevention
How Bad Is Teen Dating Violence?
A reader, Alessandra Espino, has asked a series of questions about Teen Dating Violence, a major health risk in the USA and a part of the larger health risk of violence overall.
This is a presentation of answers I've provided from 20+ experience in occupations and experiences of:
- Psychology Internships,
- Work in psychological private practices, schools, and Workers Compensation Rehabilitation programs,
- Work in counseling and instructing diverse populations in Adult Education, Business Simulations, After School Programs, and Summer Work Experience Training,
- Workshops in psychiatric advances,
- Martial arts Instruction provided against bullying,
- Social experiences.
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Will girls that have been in an abusive relationship ever be safe once they get out of the abusive environment?
They can be. They need to cut out 100% contact with the person and be prepared to report to the police and follow through with legal charges, if they are harrassed and stalked. Every time. They must become known for not accepting abuse and disrespect. They must also practice wisdom in not going to dangerous places and not traveling alone at night, etc.
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How many abusive teen relationship cases are there annually?
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- Teen Violence: MedlinePlus
Does teen dating violence relate to problems there may be at home?
Sometimes. Violence can also stem from physical problems, like brain, adrenal, or pituitary tumors, hormone imbalances, brain chemical malfunctions, and many other physical conditions. However, violence is largely cyclical and generational among both targets and perpetrators of violence.
Violence often infests future generations and in fact, some perpetrators feel initially that it is unfair of them to have been abused without being able to pass abuse on to others.
I am anxious to read any book regarding the Natalee Holloway abuse and killing, to see what authors and analysts determine in that particular case.
- Bullying and Pre-Teen Violence
If we've waited for the Pre-Teen Years to begin Prevention against violence, we are already too late -- It began at birth. But while prevention needs to begin in infancy, treatment is available throughout the lifespan.
- National Violence Awareness Month - Origins and Impact
October is National Violence Awareness Month, but we need to be consistently aware all year long.
Do you know how much abusive relationships have increased in the past year until now?
No way to tell for sure, but call your local Police Deptarment for local figures. However, the more poplated an area becomes, the more violence of all kinds is likely to happen.
This is a generalization from the old rats-in-a-box experiment in the mid-20th Century. One twoo many rats in an enclosure, and some begin fights, some self-abuse, some groom themselves in avoidance, and some go to sleep and escape.
What are some solutions to this problem?
Screening parents for abuse in their lives before allowing them to have children would help a lot, but that won't happen. Otherwise, the most effective thing to do is to allow the mother to bond completely and in a healthy way with the new infant for at least TWELVE WEEKS without ANY abusive person anywhere near them. This can break the chain of abuse.
This information comes from psychiatrists in St. Louis at the Houk Institute after any years of research.
- The Bully, Emotions and Abuse: Are Humans Naturally Violent?
The concept of "fight-or-flight" offers some interesting and effective alternatives to running and fisticuffs. We can stand up to bullying without fighting.
Would parents know if their child is in an abusive relationship?
Do you know girls that have escaped abusive relationships, and how they are dealing with their past?
Yes - dozens. Many teen girls leave that sort of relationship and think they are healed, but they are not. Physical trauma, when related to the violence, can heal - though some are scarred for life, but psychological trauma can go on forever. Nightmares and mistrust of others can go on for 30-40 years or more. One woman I know finally divorced her dating/marriage abuser when she was in her early 80s (after 60 years). This is a large problem.
The artifacts of this continued psychological trauma often present themselves in the girls that do not receive counseling and support as: being evasive, manipulative, controlling, and lying (all avoidance techniques); Post Traumatic Distress Disorder; attraction to abusers and.or men or other partners that suffer a range of mental illnesses that can include alcoholism and drug addiction; and others. Some of these individuals suffer such ongoing long-term trauma that they are unable to finish high school or college or to secure and retain employment.
Some targets of dating violence and abuse feel that they are special/different because they were abused and survived. They begin to put down others as inferior and some, even to perpetrate violence, on others which usually begins on the verbal level and escalates. They are not pleasant to be around.
Some commit suicide. Some die after receiving a "date-rape" drug and ensuing physical trauma. Some find professional help on their own. Some say they will never heal completely, even with medical, psychological, and support group interventions, prayer, and whatever else is available.
Prevention is the best way of handing dating violence and education/awareness can be a first-step part of that at home and in school. However, babies must be taken care of now to stop the chain of future abuse, or it will continue. Newborns today have the best chance of becoming healthy adults in the future and shutting down violence and abuse. Initial bonding, proper care and treament as a human being with rights, and parental education can facilitate this effort, but we cannot mandate all of that with legislation.
© 2010 Patty Inglish