The Secret to a Happy Marriage
Marriage has been given a bad rap by far too many people over the last few decades. With horrible success rate statistics, marriage became viewed as something undesirable by couples in love. In fact, many couples choose to remain unwed and simply live together because they fear if they do get married, their relationship will change and they will end up hating each other. While this probably does happen to some people, it has nothing to do with the marriage itself.
Marriage is based on several things Love, trust, and honesty are just a few of the most important aspects of marriage. Love is a single aspect that is the most focused on, though. Lots of people think if they love each other then anything is possible in a marriage. And this is true…to an extent.
Is divorce an option for you?
For many couples entering into marriage, there is a lingering thought that if things don’t work out, or go sour fast, then divorce is a viable option for ending the marriage and moving on. The truth is, conventional/biblical marriage was never meant to have the option of divorce.
Divorce gives people way too much slack. If your spouse does something you don’t like, do you threaten them with a divorce? When things don’t go quite the way you expected them to, do you automatically think of hiring a divorce lawyer?
The Real Secret Is…
The secret to a happy marriage isn’t really a big secret. It’s a simple concept, but one that most can’t or won’t grasp and hang onto. The real secret to a happy marriage is this: Marriage is hard work. It is a two-way street that must remain passable at all times. If and when that two-way street is blocked by one person or the other, potholes are formed and traffic gets backed up.
A happy, successful marriage doesn’t mean that you will both be all smiles and giggles all the time. A happy and successful marriage means you are both willing to go the extra mile. You’re willing to get down and dirty when things get tough between you two. It means never giving up, no matter how difficult, boring, tedious, or rough it gets.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2008 Hope Wilbanks