- Gender and Relationships
The Social Improvement Program (Week 1)
I am a man who grew up very shy! I was only able to act myself around my family and close friends. Even though within my thoughts I knew how I wanted people to see me, it never truly happened. I could never express myself the way I wanted to. Throughout my life when I finally hit about the age of 17, I started progressing on my own, without making any effort at working towards being conversational, I just suddenly started holding up conversations. When this happened, I realized a very big key that was hard to accept which I will explain later in this "program".
All About You
Ok enough about me, this is specifically for you! If, you want to make improvements in your life on being conversational, confident, and more relaxed in social output.
Regardless of where you stand in conversing, that does not matter. Doing this will help improve you if you're a low-level, or even if you are mild to advanced in conversing. Grades do not matter, and if you're grading it, this is restricting you. So If you can for a while, stop grading your progress and just let loose! Go with the way of your training.. you will have supreme results. This is truly a social boot-camp.
A lot of people like learning every little bit of information right away, and by me writing this program in separate articles and weeks, this gives me and you's the perfect opportunity to do this right.
So all you will need doing this, is a pen, a notepad/paper, motivation, and action. If you want to get yourself confident for your self-purpose, approaching people to meet someone, and building yourself to be the person you want to be, all you need is those 4 things. It won't require any money, this is a completely free boot-camp! So get those things and listen up!
The first step is to drop everything you know. Now let me tell you something, everything always has to get worse before it gets better, no matter what skill it is. If a person wishes to grow, they must first get weaker, so trust in this and let everything go. Do not get too ridiculous with this though, what I simply mean is to not have any preconceived plans in your head. Just let loose and listen to what I tell you without the past interference or pre-planation of how you are "going" to talk to someone.
Second step, write this down. Write down that you're going to improve your communication skills and personal-self by following this guide all the way through. You can write this on a notepad, a scrap of paper, and keep it in your wallet/purse, just make sure you write it down because this is your goal that you're going to achieve.
Thirdly, I want you write an inspirational note about yourself. It can be worded however you please, but include positive traits, I will give you an example.
Example: Today I am fully happy with where I am and I will do my best to achieve the things I want to achieve. I am confident, I am capable, and I love myself in everyway. I love life and I can't wait to start my day.
Write personal things that you personally like and would want to hear, and that's the whole point of this, being within "you" and achieving what you want. So think this through and make a short-small paragraph that makes you feel good about yourself and keep it in your wallet/purse, notepad, whatever you are using to store it, it can even be your phone. Your step with this is to read it anytime during the day (preferably in the morning) to boost yourself before you go improving yourself.
Now lastly, this is what you are going to be doing for 1 week, completely on your terms in your time. I want you to go out and just look at somebody, and say hi. Even if you feel that nervous feeling and feel harshly like you don't want to do it (This is for the super shy ones) just simply say hi with a smile and keep going. If you can keep it going longer great! you're on a great track. But the key here is to do this to AS MANY people as you can, preferably 5. If you say hi to at least 5 people a day for a week, you made an enormous chunk! to building your conversation skills and approaching.
On day 3 you're going to add in a, "Hi how are you today" or whatever you feel, and keep the conversation going to the next step. If they say, good you. Say, its good (add in anything) "do you know if there is a coffee-shop around here"? If they give a response, say, ok thank you, then walk on. If you decide to do this before day 3, that's fine too! whatever you feel comfortable with.
In the next weeks I will get into the detail of what this is all doing. This seems very simple to you right now and that's the point. You still have one very important action that you haven't done, and if you don't do it, reading this was useless. Apply! Apply my friends, and start doing everything I said here, good luck ;).
Note: This is going to be referred to as (TSIP) in further articles so note TSIP down so you know when the next weeks guide is out.
Credit: This is basically my version of Neil Strauss's Rules Of The Game Book. He deserves full credit for laying down the foundation and base of this article
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How good of a conversationalist are you?
This poll will give everyone who is participating a truthful insight on everyone else's level going into this social improvement guide. Please take this poll and give each other your perspectives :)
Write Social Goal
Approach saying HI (Smile)
Write Boosting Paragraph
Note: 5 people MIN
Day 3 til end of week
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