The Truth Will Set You Free (Even If That's Not What You Wanted).
Now I'm not saying that lying is good for any relationship, that is far from the gist of what I am trying to convey. Lying is bad-bad-bad, for any relationship. I am just trying to state that the full no-holds-barred truth will end a relationship quicker than a mousetrap catching a mouse! Some couples could muddle through the truth, but most will end in a firey disaster.
Don't do what I did!
My high school girlfriend, (we'll call her Sally), and I met at a high school dance while she was a sophomore and I a senior in school. We dated throughout the rest of the school year and we saw each other regularly until I headed off to join the Air Force. We called and wrote like any couple would do. I was always excited to receive a letter from Sally especially after I was stationed in Germany.
Going to Germany for two years, without coming home for leave was the start of our downward spin. The first year was okay, though we missed each other terribly, we or at least I thought, we could make another year go by and be fine. We wrote sent pictures and even cassette tapes to keep in touch.
It was about the year and a half mark when I received a letter from Sally stating that we should see other people, which she already had, stating she went out with a member of this band in college. I was beyond upset. Now I was determined to have some fun myself.
So I and a few buddies went to a cat house in the nearby city of Kaiserslautern. I didn't just make the trip once, I went three times. Like I said I was pissed. The writing and calling got infrequent. Sally called me the last time while I was still in Germany. We were discussing the relationship when all of a sudden I just told her the whole truth about being upset and having some fun on my own.
To say the least that did not go well. We might have written a few times after that, in which once I asked her to pick me up at the airport because I wanted to surprise my parents on my return home from Germany. There was no ride waiting for me at the airport when I arrived. I had to call a friend to pick me up.
I didn't know that that very night she was at some dudes cabin spending the night. I found out where she was working and decided to go see her. After which we went to her house for a talk. It was long and it was very hard but I told the whole truth, and she did the same I figure. I left her house that night knowing it was the end.
Again like I said don't do this
Trust vs Truth
We met once or twice after that night. Behaving like a fool, I asked her to marry me and go to my next station in Louisianna. You guessed it she said No. After I made it to Louisianna I wrote a few more times to Sally but she eventually asked me to stop, so I did.
As you see the whole truth does not always do you justice. I later met my first wife and settled down with her and we had two daughters. She did not tell the truth, but she did lie a lot, so I moved on. Now I have been married to my second wife for over 14 years.
The truth of the matter is somethings are better left alone and if you trust in someone that's what really counts!
© 2019 Jeffery A Kipferl