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Dealing with Unjustified jealousy

Updated on May 5, 2012

Blackest of Emotions

I wonder how many people are the "victims" of somebody elses unjustified jealousy.

If they have been made to feel as though they are nothing more than bits of dirt under the other persons feet simply because they exist.

Its the most terrible situation to be put in especially when you yourself are absolutley sure you have done nothing to cause such feelings. When you know that all you have offered is friendship, help and kindness and done your best to keep a low profile and not interfere in the other persons day to day life it beggars belief that such ugly emotions should arise in the other person.

Unjustified jealousy can cause huge problems within a group of friends and even bigger ones in a family.

The person who is "suffering" from this can become and does become neurotic, paranoid and even cruel in their behaviour.

The possesiveness they display is frankly distressing to watch and the person who is the object of their unreasonable and uncalled for feelings can be made to feel as though it is their fault entirely for the atmosphere and coldness that exists between the 2 people concerned.

It seems almost impossible to avoid and certainly incredibley difficult to stop happening , so how does one deal with it if you are the butt of such behaviour?

I am !!!, and my only recourse seems to keep my distance and silence, and this is because i know if I do not then other members of the family will become involved in a situation which is totally unneccessary and for which there is no basis for any jealousy or possesiveness of any kind.

Its so sad that such feelings should be aroused within a person simply by their own thoughts which have got the better of them.

JEALOUSY is without a doubt the ugliest of emotions!!!

So I am wondering how many people not only suffer with this emotion , suffer badly.....why do they become jealous when infact we are all beautiful in our own ways and for the people who are on the receiving end of it how do you deal with it???

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      Melissa A Smith 5 years ago from New York

      Why do you think jealousy is so ugly?

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      Claire 5 years ago

      because it causes people to think wrongly and treatthe person or people they are jealous of very badly. jealousy can even lead to one person killing another that is a documented fact. And i know of people who have killed other peoples dogs in a horrible and painful way through jealousy.

      Ugly enough?

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      Melissa A Smith 5 years ago from New York

      No, you're completely irrational. Not EVERY jealous person goes on a murderous rage against people's pets, that's just common sense. Anyone who does that is mentally unstable and dangerous. Do you know someone who has?

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      Claire 5 years ago

      unfortunatley, I do know someone who has had it done to them. And I am not irrational, and I did not say it is every jealous person who goes on a murderous rampage ofother peoples pets.

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      Melissa A Smith 5 years ago from New York

      Well that's very unfortunate. It's not the emotion, it's how the person deals with it.

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      Claire 5 years ago

      Obviously it is how the person deals with it.

      But I stick with what I know, have seen and experienced. Jealousy is ugly and until anybody has been on the other end of somebody elses unjustified jealousy, which is irrational and unreasonable then they truly would not understand how it feels and what it means.

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      DAWNEMARS 5 years ago from The Edge of a Forest in Europe

      I understand what you say. Leave the negative people to deal with their own problems and focus on something more important instead.

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      Claire 5 years ago

      Thats right, thankyou for your understanding.

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