Vick and Jill's Marriage
Marriage and happiness
Vick coughs a lot and is often exhausted. He smokes twenty cigarettes daily sometimes more than twenty. This man doesn't realize how his bad habits are affecting his lovely family.
The constant ache and pains in his muscles are increasing daily, and this is causing bad communication between Vick and wife, Jill. Vick's focus is on working, eating and sleeping. Actions that are destroying a good marriage is not visible by the husband. What Vick fails to acknowledge is not getting any better than that, the poor communication is ruining their marriage.
The too much alone time is not doing Jill any good for herself. She has become a different person. The alone time, and, sometimes depressed emotions for spending each day by herself has made Jill feel most vulnerable.
The least amount of time Jill spends alone and with her husband, Vick, is silent and Jill sits there on their sofa hoping for a conversation to break the ice, but nothing is said for hours. The over forty hours of work a week and twelve hours a week spent with Jill, has made Jill feel most alone in her marriage.
The other problem with being alone, is Jill has no one to talk to about the issues she is faced with in her marriage. Jill and Vick are together for many years and have taken each other for granted in some ways.
The problem lies with the fact that Vick won't make any time for Jill. Time for this couple is of the essence. He has taken Jill for granted and thinks that is how their lives should be as a married couple. Work is on his mind even when they are together.
Vick doesn't show Jill a good time. Vick flirts with his female coworker, and he doesn't think it is wrong to behave in such inappropriate ways.
Jill has been hurt, and is tired of crying and feeling this pain from her husband. He doesn’t see what he is doing that is slowly killing their marriage. Nothing to Vick is inappropriate or wrong in his flirting behaviors.
In this marriage, Jill shouldn't question her husband about anything that matters to her, as it is not for her to know what is going on at work and with the coworker.
The lives of two people have become complicated with the behavior of one person in the marriage.
Vick comes home after work and expects Jill to serve him.
There is no conversation except for, ''Give me my food.''
''What is to eat?''
''Make me coffee!''
Thereafter, Vick falls asleep on the couch.
While Jill hopes to converse with her husband there is nothing for her to stay and wait for it.
The female coworker gets the best of Vick at work while his wife Jill gets the tired and asleep Vick. Everyday Jill is faced with the same behavior and routine. It has made Jill unhappy and less communicative.
Pleasure time together as husband and wife is a thing of the past. As much as Jill insinuates to Vick she needs to be with him intimately Vick ignores Jill's advances.
Vick gets out of bed every morning without looking on the other side where Jill lays asleep. They sleep in separate beds and on each side o their beds. There in between lies this huge gap like arms lengths away and that is selfish of Vick to sleep that way.
He doesn't see the hurt he has caused his wife and this has destroyed a big part of Jill's life. Such signs show a marriage is falling apart.
Vick, either realizes his choices made and fails to make anything right for his own reasons, or Vick is just focused on work and to provide for his family the old-fashioned way. Vick was married before and divorced due to similar behavior.
So, could he be making the same mistakes again?
Did Vick's marriage end from his flirtatious behavior with other women?
As Vick is doing just that in his second marriage. Flirting with female coworker, and sharing a lot more than he should have with the coworker. Vick and Jill have lost their touch for each other.
He finds his happiness at work and at home he has a different behavior. The inviting smiles from the too friendly coworker and Vick's smiles show a lot more than just a working relationship.
Vick has worked with women before and Jill didn't have a reason to be jealous. In this case, Jill can't fight off this gut feeling she has about this coworker and Jill. The excitement they have for each when speaking on the telephone breaks Jill's heart.
There is not only his wife in his life. There is this other woman who thinks Vick belongs to her. The too much alone time has given Jill the time to create her own life, the one without Vick in it.
Two hearts that was once so close is torn apart and is something that only Jill can feel in her heart. Jill has adapted to change, to being alone, and to have her friends spend time with her more rather than her husband who has drifted apart from her.
On the contrary, Vick has no social life, except for work and the closeness with his coworker. The different lives shared have caused many issues at home. The skill of communication is poor, and Vick fails to see the issue here.
Vick tries to ignore important conversations. Anything complex sends Vick into an angry mood. Jill is not allowed to bad mouth the coworker to Vick, he protects her and defends her too.
Two people who shared most of their lives together at some point failed in their marriage, and don't see right from wrong. The fact, that Vick doesn't make his wife a priority is sad for Jill.
No need to yell about the issue though Vick has the tendency of doing that. He raises his voice for a little issue. It sounds easy to dictate to someone of how wrong they are, and it is most difficult when you are in that situation.
It doesn't mean you have to ask for a divorce if you see nothing is your way or right. A marriage takes two people two work through it. When one of the partners has failed to see how they have destroyed their marriage it shows neglect and less care for each other.
How can Vick flirt with his coworker in front of Jill, and not care for how Jill feels about his behavior?
Each time Jill feels pain from Vick's behaviors she drifts further away from Vick. Always discuss your concerns before you are on the deep end of the ocean.
What got you together in the first place?
Remember that and maybe you can save your almost ruined marriage. The different mindset and can’t be changed for Vick to realize his mistakes, especially when Vick only sees it his way. In a marriage, not everything is about love and sometimes just aren’t enough for two people to stay together. Under certain circumstances a commitment is not for everyone.
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