ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Ways to Make Him Want You

Updated on September 5, 2012

Why is it almost always the girl or the woman pining after the guy? This goes for both real life and movies. Maybe it’s biology, maybe it’s psychology, but either way you can’t deny that there’s an imbalance among the sexes that puts women on one side and men on the other--at least most of the time. And the sad part is, both girls and women fall into the same trap a lot of the times. Don’t worry, it’s nothing new under the sun and you’ll have to admit that you’ve fallen victim to one or more (or all) of these things at some point in your lives. I’ll admit that I have, and I’ll also admit that I wish I had someone to give the advice that I’m about to give. Not that we necessarily adhere to it even if we know it, and most of us don’t (or can’t) appreciate tips like these until we’re older. Either way, seemingly sexist or not, the imbalance still exists, and I have no doubt that we still fall for some of these same traps. So I’ll help you, and all I can add to that is, I hope you take these morsels and apply them. Trust me, you’ll be grateful in the end.

1. Continue Living Your Life

You’re supposed to incorporate him into your existence, not allow him to take it over. If you want to make him want you, don’t just sit there staring at him. Do what you normally do. Show him that if he does end up wanting you back, and snagging you, that you’re not just going to sit there…staring. Don’t assume that girls have fallen out of the trap of ditching their friends, their jobs (it seems almost farfetched, but it’s true), extracurricular activities, or even their family to hang out with a guy. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and he’ll probably grow fonder of you knowing that you’re more than just his girlfriend--that you have more to offer than company. Living your life means that you’ll actually have conversations about something other than how good he looks or what he’s wearing tomorrow. Who wants someone who does nothing but stick behind them like a leech anyway? I wouldn’t.

2. Be Yourself

It’s cool when you have things in common, but don’t fake it. Whether you realize it or not when you’re doing it, if you stay together long enough he’s going to eventually figure it out and you’re just going to look like an idiot. He’s not going to just remember that you lied, but he’s going to know that you’re not even confident in your own interests and opinions to share them with him. If he dumps you because of that, I don’t think you can be mad. If you’re not into sports at all or if you loathe them, don’t pretend you are and end up sitting outside freezing at a football game if you genuinely hate being there. There will come the day when you’re not going to be able to take anymore and that won’t be cool either. Also, don’t pretend to like something you don’t just to get his attention because you’re setting yourself up for failure, a doomed relationship from the beginning because it’s based on a lie. Being fake and being supportive of someone else’s interests are totally different. You shouldn’t have to like everything he likes, but you should both respect one another’s opinions and accept their likes and dislikes even if they’re not your own.

3. Have Some Fun!

A lot of girls and women have this notion that they must sit back and have their guy entertain them. That’s so Stone Age; it also dates almost back to that time period as well. I’ve also noticed that anytime you talk to a girl about what she wants in a guy nearly every one of them will have “a sense of humor” on their list. What about yours? Nobody’s telling you that you have to be an absolute clown, but you don’t have to be a dud either. Don’t just sit there and expect him to make you laugh or go out of his way to please you--reciprocate. This is where the whole wet blanket syndrome comes in as well; it can also fall under the category of getting/having a life. If he’s going out with his friends, don’t start pouting and sit at home waiting for him to check up on you or nag him about tagging along, go out with your friends or do something other than sit there waiting on him to get back. Don’t you have anything else to do than to just sit there like a log? If you’re out together and he’s playing pool, don’t just hop up on a barstool being a spectator--join in. The whole purpose of you wanting to be together is to, well, be together. And if you haven’t made him yours yet, sometimes having him see you have fun is the best way to get him. Just remember that’s the way to keep him as well.

4. Don’t Be A Pushover

Give an inch, most people will take a mile. If he’s treating you like a doormat before you’ve even started going out, don’t think it’s going to get better if you start seeing one another officially. For some guys that like pushing a girl around this quality will more than likely attract them, but trust me, those aren’t the kind of guys you’re going to want anyway. Some guys test the waters to see how far you’ll let them go, same as bosses, friends and family members and if they think they can use you for sex they’ll do that and just leave you alone. This applies for any age in any case. Stand up for yourself, but you don’t have to be a bitch either. But believe it or not, a lot of guys fall for girls that are acting like bitches because they’d rather be with someone who’s not going to take any crap than have someone who’ll take any abuse thrown at them at all. No guy is worth losing self respect over and don’t think only teen girls have to be told this; I’ve seen grown women taking crap from guys they like or guys they’re with and it’s always disconcerting. If you let him, and he wants to, you’ll end up being his lapdog and I don’t think that makes for a really enjoyable union.

5. Share Your Thoughts

This is more than about having things in common, this is about getting to know one another. Relationships aren’t supposed to be one sided, and personally if a guy wasn’t into getting to know me and was so fixated on himself and what he wanted that would be a major turnoff for me. Before you’re together most people try to get to know one another: who wants to be with someone who just looks good anyway? Relationships, real ones, are more than just about the outer packaging, but what’s inside. But hopefully, you already know that.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)