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Weirdo Bad Dates To Avoid - Encounters Of The Worst Kind

Updated on April 12, 2015

I’ve had a lot of strange dates – from the man who wanted $15,000 from me so that “we could start our life together” (I didn't) to the one who was on the mobile phone working throughout the entire date. The dating game is an ambiguous one – everyone puts on their supposedly best behaviour and it’s up to you to figure out your date’s ulterior motives (if there are any) and why no one else has grabbed them first.

Here’s a handy guide to some of the bad dates I had and what the warning signs were. Though I make a lot of assumptions about personality here, the basic premise could apply to any date, male or female, with some small differences. As a woman, I am writing from that perspective, but I’m sure both sexes have been guilty of similar conduct.

It can be hard to tell whether someone's best outfit is their only dating outfit...
It can be hard to tell whether someone's best outfit is their only dating outfit...
If he looks a bit rough around the edges, try to find out more about him.
If he looks a bit rough around the edges, try to find out more about him.
Some men just like to take advantage of women for their lifestyle.
Some men just like to take advantage of women for their lifestyle.

The Deceptive Homeless Male Golddigger

This type of date is very common. You’ll meet him on dating sites or through Meetups or Facebook groups. He’s keen to get started on a date/relationship and he’s very accepting of you and your foibles. On the first date he will be dressed up to the nines in his very best (and only) dating outfit. It is designed to make you feel that he’s put in a lot of effort and that you can be proud of the peacock on your arm. There will be excessive amounts of aftershave sprayed on and lots of flirting and warm conversation.

Throughout the date, this man comes across as a caring, empathic and funny person. He really is quite an apple and hangs onto your every word – you wonder why he’s single and he mentions a few horror stories of dragon women from the past. Beware – all women this man dates will be b*tches, including you, even if you end it after just one date.

As time goes on and the dating ritual gathers steam, you’ll be puzzled as to why your dating locations seem rather humdrum, or why he is shaking his head at the register after the meal when he thinks you are not looking. But he is so caring and thoughtful when around you, you’re willing to compromise a little.

He seems like the perfect prospect for a relationship other than the money issue, but then you’ll notice another warning sign - that he doesn’t drive (usually put down to a past traumatic driving incident and/or the fact that he never learnt how) and a third warning sign is that you’ll never get to see his house or his friends or his life. This is because he can’t afford a car, his friends are homeless bums (if he has any) and he doesn’t want you to see the absolute poverty of the sharehouse he lives in.

If you’re naïve enough to proceed beyond this point, you’ll notice that he has a lot of women listed on his phone who are all “friends”. He doesn’t seem to be a player at all and genuinely seems to care about you and about the people in his life – what you don’t know is that the women are “contacts” for him to use to drum up more business (the business of using women for accommodation, food and money).

Lots of people are very deceptive on dates, it's a common phenomenon and very rude.
Lots of people are very deceptive on dates, it's a common phenomenon and very rude.

You’ll soon get the hint with this guy because at some point he won’t be able to pay for himself. There’ll be a catastrophe where he is thrown out of his current accommodation, or he cannot go on a date because he is broke or something will present itself and he’ll have to ask you for a favour and it won’t be a little favour, it will be the kind of favour that will leave you scratching your head asking “why would he ask me for that? I’d never ask a date for such a thing!”

Dump him out of your life as quickly as possible is my advice and don’t let him wheedle his way back in again. These types of guys are experts at hustling women for all the things they can’t (or won’t) provide for themselves. They actually hate women at heart and enjoy taking advantage of them.

What you fantasise Mr Magic Fingers will be like.
What you fantasise Mr Magic Fingers will be like.
How you feel at the end of a session with Mr Magic Fingers.
How you feel at the end of a session with Mr Magic Fingers.

Mr Magic Fingers

This man seems to offer a lovely potential relationship when you start dating him. He’s full of great conversation, is able to pay his own way and is respectful of you. Over the course of a number of dates, he builds you up with flirting and compliments and tells you about his magic fingers (or magic tongue) that have driven all the women he’s dated before mad with excitement and passion. But he’s saving it all especially for you and you’re just going to love it, baby!

The big moment finally arrives, and after weeks of romanticising about your future life together and how he is the one amazing fish left in the sea that means anything to you, you’ll be keen to try out his magic techniques.

Don’t bother.

Firstly, he will commence with something that feels quite ordinary and then his magic fingers/magic tongue turn out to be less than thrilling and may even border on being an irritating or painful nightmare. You tell him it would be wonderful if he could just be a bit more gentle or if he could go harder or concentrate on one particular spot….but he will not listen or pay any attention to your pleadings whatsoever. He’ll just say “well all the other women liked it this way”, and keep on going.

I can guarantee you won't want to see this man again after being with him, no matter what sort of friendship or dates you had. His lack of respect for you is totally on the nose!
I can guarantee you won't want to see this man again after being with him, no matter what sort of friendship or dates you had. His lack of respect for you is totally on the nose!
You'd be better off going to bed with a baseball bat.
You'd be better off going to bed with a baseball bat.

Turns out Mr Magic Fingers once pleased ONE woman somewhere and is now living in a past re-enaction of that scenario as he’s not been able to please anyone else since. It is an obsession. He will not listen or consider you at all in bed but will follow his own agenda till the very end, to prove to himself that he’s still “got it”, even though you disagree.

Often you’ll find that this type of man is not that handsome but has personality/wit/money to offer, that’s why he’s bothered with all this magic fingers business in the first place (he thinks you don’t want him if he doesn't have frills). The stupid part is that if he treated you like a real person and lived in the present moment instead of using you in a desperate attempt to feel young again, he might have had a chance.

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The Scientologist

This guy presents as an intellectual man who can read your mind better than most. He’s possibly handsome, smart, funny and appears to have his life together. You’re thrilled that someone can read your mind and offers the possibility of being truly intimate. You really like him and the relationship will travel along at a normal pace. Sometimes he will hint that the secret to his success is something more than just himself, there’ll be mention of a religion or organisation which helped him become the man he is today.

Then, when the time is right, he’ll tell you his little secret – he’s a Scientologist. You’ll be surprised and interested to hear about this hidden world and he might eagerly tell you all about it. Some of it will make logical sense and some of it will make you wonder if he was born stupid to believe in such cr*p. Anyway, life will go on and if you resist joining Scientology, you’ll discover some disturbing patterns.

Firstly, your Scientologist will start making assumptions about you, based upon his confidence with the “mind reading”. You’ll tell him he’s incorrect and his assumptions are not the truth at all, but he won’t listen and will take the attitude that he knows best.

Secondly, you might get to experience some questionable realities at play in his life – real world laws, regulations and rules will not apply in creating the successful individual/business/empire. He will tell you he lives the reality to create it, that he is determined and persistent (even if it breaks the law or abuses other people).

Thirdly, when something physical ails you or you have pain, you will be told "it's all in the mind". This may very well be the case, but there is no help forthcoming from your partner to assist you in rectifying the situation, other than silly suggestions that don't work.

The Scientologists I have known always aim to succeed, rather than learn (they have to afford all those expensive books and courses). They’re keen to get ahead in life, even if it means leaving you behind. Get out before you wake up next to a total stranger on a power trip, who will not be there for you if times get tough.

All these bad dates have left me feeling a bit wary about pressing buttons like this.
All these bad dates have left me feeling a bit wary about pressing buttons like this.

© 2015 Suzanne Day


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    • Suzanne Day profile imageAUTHOR

      Suzanne Day 

      3 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      Hi All, I'm reading your comments and have noted the book as a project for later. I've been on enough bad dates to sink the mothership, such as people dying with cancer in wheelchairs pretending on dating sites they are someone else, to dates who wanted me to travel for them and then not return the favour. There are some very strange people out there...

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      Larry W Fish 

      3 years ago from Raleigh

      I'm sorry, Suzanne I just couldn't stop laughing at some of these. You could write a book about these experiences and have a best seller. I guess I have been lucky, I only dated a few women and I have now been married over 46 years.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      Wow! Very straight-forward as honest dating advice should be written. Loved it. Even got a laugh or two in this, but I loved this hub.

      Please consider doing a book. I would buy one.

      Keep up the great work and I am so grateful for you following me and I apologize for taking so long in getting to visit you.

      I am truly sorry.

      Keep in touch.

    • savvydating profile image


      4 years ago

      You've got me beat, Suzanne. I haven't experienced these three types in my years of dating. Yikes. They sound scary, especially the scientologist. Well, actually---all of them sound like weirdos.

      I watched the video. Sounds like Cruise has a God-complex thing going on. Strange man. But then, we all knew that. It's not like he hides it well.

      I don't know what took me so long to read one of your hubs, but I'm glad I have. I'll be back for more. This article is really entertaining!

    • Suzanne Day profile imageAUTHOR

      Suzanne Day 

      5 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      Hi CYong74 - the wheel has turned since I have written this piece, and although I had to go through a number of increasing bad dates after these ones, I finally found a nice man to be with. I still keep this article up for a chuckle!

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      Ced Yong 

      5 years ago from Asia

      What a great read, especially the first one which gets increasingly suspenseful. LOL. My sympathies too, for all these bad dates. Hope you stop running into them.

    • viryabo profile image


      6 years ago from Lagos, Nigeria.

      I thoroughly enjoyed this article and couldn't stop laughing throughout the read.

      Even though I'm past the dating stage, I still had to share this with some friends who are still 'single and searching'. It's certainly great advice.

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      Marian Cates 

      6 years ago from Stevenson, WA

      What a hoot! Great article.

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      Susie Lehto 

      6 years ago from Minnesota

      I decided many years ago that I wanted to be a happy single. Happiness comes in many forms and single is one form of happiness for me.

      Great hub, Suzanne.

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      Lana Adler 

      6 years ago from California

      Does living on a boat qualifies as homelessness? I've dated a guy like that about a million years ago. No car, same clothes, and he never had more than $20 on him. No matter what we did or what the bill was - $20 is where he drew the line... Oh, good times. Thanks for the trip down the memory lane Suzanne!

    • Besarien profile image


      6 years ago from South Florida

      I'm happy to have missed out on most of these guys. It sounds like you are very open-minded when it comes to giving a man a chance. That is a good thing. One day, someone is going to get the chance to surprise you in a good way. I do suggest that if you see a man who looks promising, ask him out instead. A lot of very nice men are shy or just take things at the speed of continental drift.

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      6 years ago from Carson City

      LOL.....VERY funny. Not only do I love this entertaining hub, I'm sorry to say I can relate to it! I positively hated "dating." It's nerve wracking and awkward, not to mention it may be downright dangerous anymore these days. Too many nutcases on the loose! LOL.

      Some day your Prince will come and when he does, you'll just know instinctively. Good Luck!...UP+++pinned.

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      Peg Cole 

      6 years ago from North Dallas, Texas

      This recap of dating makes me ever grateful to have found a good man. It sounds so familiar, thinking back to those times long ago when I was single. I think I've met each of the ones you've described except maybe Mr. Homeless. I dated Mr. Carless and even an ex felon. These characters are tough to avoid with their cunning lies and false fronts until the real personality comes crashing through. Voted up and interesting.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      6 years ago from New Delhi, India

      This is a useful read for many , very informative!

      Sorry to learn that you had to experience bad dates. Its good that you shared your experiences with others, so that they are aware and cautious.

      Thanks and voted up!

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 

      6 years ago from Philippines

      What an interesting article. It made me think of two things:

      1. I'm glad I'm not dating anymore.

      2. No wonder Taylor Swift writes songs about her ex-lovers. If they're that bad, might as well make money off them.

      Thanks for a very interesting article:)

    • Suzanne Day profile imageAUTHOR

      Suzanne Day 

      6 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      Thanks Jodah, I think many men on Hubpages would probably have avoided being a bad date for me as they're not guilty of disrespect for women or abusive things.

      The Facebook post pertained recently to a fellow I had only a friendship, not a relationship with, but I have had the homeless dates before and they are totally irritating with their deliberate omission of information!

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      John Hansen 

      6 years ago from Gondwana Land

      Great read Suzanne, and it would almost be funny if it wasn't true. I am glad I am not part of the dating scene..God I wouldn't even remember what to do. I must have been ok at it once but I have no idea what label I would have been given..I hate to think. Well at least I'm not a Scientologist and have always had my own car..Mr Magic comment :)

      Sorry you have had to experience dates with these kind of guys. The first one rings a bell from one of your Facebook posts I read. That being said this was a great hub and I'd love to read more of your dates from hell ;)

      Voted up.

    • Suzanne Day profile imageAUTHOR

      Suzanne Day 

      6 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      Haha FlourishAnyway, I can just see you doing that right now!

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      6 years ago from USA

      Oh, this brings back terrible memories. I am too plain spoken to let certain behaviors persist. Mr. Magic Fingers may find himself with a few broken ones.

    • Suzanne Day profile imageAUTHOR

      Suzanne Day 

      6 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      Hi Billybuc, congratulations on having the lovely Bev to help! I want a Bev of my own ;)

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      Bill Holland 

      6 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh Suzanne, I am so happy I don't have to date anymore. I hated those dates with strangers and I suspect it is much harder on women. Bev saved me from all that and I am so grateful. I enjoyed this though at times it made me cringe. :)

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      Al Wordlaw 

      6 years ago from Chicago

      Hi Suzanne, this was a very good read. Nice going here.


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