ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

What Traits Men Find Attractive in Women

Updated on July 31, 2018

Character Traits Men Find Attractive in Women

Most relationship articles focus on the wants and needs of women, but what about men? What do men want when it comes to finding that special someone in life? Many may think that sex is the number one priority for men when it comes to relationships, yet this is simply not true. One thing that men state is important is finding a true partner, someone who shares the same interests and that they can talk to about anything.


Confidence is the most consistent trait that men find desirable in a woman. A woman who knows what she wants and how to get it is an attractive quality. Many men reported that women who lack self confidence and are always trying to please others as being a turn off. "Good looks" are a trait that most men (and let's be honest, women too!) list as need to have, yet having great legs, or gorgeous are not listed on most mens' lists of priority traits.

Shared Interests

If they have not tried some of the things that interest their guys, but are still willing to give them a try, most guys will be willing to teach them. Not having common interests can make it complicated to be together. Simply taking an interests in your man's hobbies, job, and things he enjoys can be the beginning of a great partnership.

Independence and Straightforwardness

Men want a woman who is independent and can stand on her own two feet, regardless if it goes along with his plans. When getting to know one another, guessing games are a waste of time. Men can't read womens' minds, and they don't want to have to try. A woman who is straightforward makes getting to know her easier.

Intelligence and Spontaneity

Spontaneity, being able to make spur-of-the-moment decisions, and having an "adventuresome" personality ranked high as a very desirable trait in a woman. Contrary to popular belief, guys are not turned off by intelligent, powerful women. Although intelligence was a highly listed trait, many did prefer not having someone who was more intelligent than themselves.

Sense of Humor

No matter how much a person ages, everyone likes to act a little silly now and then. Having someone who can make you laugh is a top priority with most people, men and women. Someone that can get his jokes, and has her serious side. She is lighthearted and can be a child at heart.


Most men did not feel that a woman's world should revolve around him and preferred one who could show true genuine compassion for others. Narcissism is an undesired character trait in a woman for men who are looking for a partner in life. Catty behavior in a woman is a major turn-off with the majority of men.


Just when he thinks he has her all figured out, she will reveal a little bit of her mystery. Women that are conservative, outspoken, passionate, spontaneous, and lighthearted keeps a man guessing what she may be thinking of next. He gets as much enjoyment out of watching her ponder her thoughts as she does thinking them!

Men and women will never figure out what makes each other tick. Being up front with wants, needs, and expectations of one another is the only way to find out if their is a relationship future. While chemistry and the initial attraction people have for one another are very important one the list of wants for both men and women alike. Most people, especially as they mature, find themselves ready to settle down with someone who is compatible to their lifestyle. Overall, the most popular characteristic that men find attractive in women is the ability to stand up and be confident in themselves in a relationship.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment
    • Lynda Gary profile image

      Lynda Gary 

      10 years ago

      nicely done!

    • Putz Ballard profile image

      Putz Ballard 

      10 years ago

      Great hub and wonderful insights. My wife and I are total opposites. She is a perfectionist and me, I roll with the flow and try to be a good husband. She is the most important person in my life and I am still in love with her after 37 years. She know the best and worst about me and still keeps me around. Enjoyed the read.

    • carolina muscle profile image

      carolina muscle 

      10 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      This is a well thought out hub. Thanks!


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
    ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)