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A letter to a Relative: Whom to be blamed?

Updated on May 19, 2013

A Letter to a Relative

Do you ask me why I am not visiting you? Why don’t I keep in touch with you?

I have answered these questions & more than these uncountable times, but in indirect way, mostly.

Yes, I did. I am fed up now. You always feel that you are superior & I am junior in all life fields. You mostly let me more frustrated, disappointed …..
You don’t like my way of speaking, my education, my skills. Even when I eat, you watch me & later you give tips about diet & ,etc.

I used to forgive again & again, now, I am not able – and don’t want – to remember all the pain you gave me.

Please, don’t blame. Is it fair enough after all what happened? Am I the person whom to be blamed!!??

I encourage you, appreciate you, respect you…while you, mostly, do opposite.

It is my destiny that you are my relative; I will come to visit you when I feel patient enough to communicate with you (if we can say it is a communication).

But whatever you do, one day you - kindly - helped me & I can’t forget that.

I keep convince myself that you hope for me better life, but you are not able to convince me in an acceptable way.

Thank you any way.


Family Quotes

  • "Family is the most important thing in the world." ~ Princess Diana
  • "Where can a person be better than in the bosom of their family?" ~ Marmontel Gretry
  • "When you look at your life, the greatest happiness are family happiness." ~ Dr. Joyce Brothers
  • "After a good dinner one can forgive anybody, even one's own relations." ~ Oscar Wilde, A Woman of No Importance
  • "What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family." ~ Mother Teresa
  • "Parents were the only ones obligated to love you; from the rest of the world you had to earn it." ~ Ann Brashares, Forever in Blue: The Fourth Summer of the Sisterhood
  • "Families, can't live with them, can't live without them .." ~ Tate Hallaway, Almost to Die For
  • "Family is not an important thing. It's everything." ~ Michael J. Fox
  • "My family is my strength and my weakness." ~ Aishwarya Rai
  • "The family you come from isn't as important as the family you're going to have." ~ Ring Lardner
  • "I don't think anyone has a normal family." ~ Edward Furlong
  • "A man can’t make a place for himself in the sun if he keeps taking refuge under the family tree." ~ Helen Keller
  • "Other things may change us, but we start and end with family." ~ Anthony Brandt

Thinking Again & Again


Questions to Answer

  • Why do some of our relatives understate us?
  • Do you think that some people like to help you, but they do it the wrong way?
  • Do you forgive your relative for many mistake he/she does, because they are your relatives?
  • Do you think that some people understate us to satisfy their low self-esteem?
  • How much you should forgive others?
  • Is forgiving is better than cutting the relationship? At Last s/he is part of your family, & you do not want more stress for your family members.
  • Why do we,easily, speak about cutting relationships? There are other solutions, like reducing the communication with negative people.

Dear Reader

Please, share me any ideas / suggestions / hubs about this issue.

If you correct any English mistake of mine, it is highly appreciated.

Thank you

Do you prefer to cut the relation?

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    • Taleb80 profile imageAUTHOR

      Taleb AlDris 

      6 years ago


      Yes, I agree with you. Thanks for stopping by & Comment.

    • DDE profile image

      Devika Primić 

      6 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Be yourself and accept your life something not everyone can do

    • Taleb80 profile imageAUTHOR

      Taleb AlDris 

      7 years ago

      I agree with you.

      Mostly getting closer brings you more headache.

      Thank you for the addition.

    • Redberry Sky profile image

      Redberry Sky 

      7 years ago

      Sometimes a little distance is good between relatives. I try to stay friends with all of mine without getting too closely involved in their lives. Sometimes it can be difficult to maintain that friendship, but I try.

    • Taleb80 profile imageAUTHOR

      Taleb AlDris 

      7 years ago

      I agree with you, sometimes, cutting the ties is must.

      Thanks for stopping by & comment.

    • novascotiamiss profile image


      7 years ago from Nova Scotia, Canada

      I'm always for talking before taking measures, even though it's hard and sometimes embarassing. Maybe the person is not aware that he/she is a know-all and that you feel patronized? If that doesn't help, then definitely cut the ties. Relationships should be supportive and not damaging.

    • Taleb80 profile imageAUTHOR

      Taleb AlDris 

      7 years ago


      Agree with you.

      Thanks for comment.

    • Mhatter99 profile image

      Martin Kloess 

      7 years ago from San Francisco

      i was the only one i could change... the rest followed

    • Taleb80 profile imageAUTHOR

      Taleb AlDris 

      7 years ago


      Now, I am also avoiding this kind of people.

      Thanks for your addition.

    • Brett.Tesol profile image

      Brett C 

      7 years ago from Asia

      I agree completely with some of the previous comments, just because you may be related to someone, doesn't mean that you must socialise with them. I personally have chosen to try and surround myself with positive thinking people, and cannot be bothered with those who just want to put me down in order to make themselves feel better.

    • Taleb80 profile imageAUTHOR

      Taleb AlDris 

      7 years ago


      It is very nice that you catch yourself while other person maybe needs ages to understand that s\he brings hurt to others.

      I agree with you, I think he has a good intention so I am not able to cut the relationship.

      Thank you for stopping by & comment.

    • Taleb80 profile imageAUTHOR

      Taleb AlDris 

      7 years ago


      Thank you for stopping by & for your comment.

      The saying you have mentioned is very nice.

    • justateacher profile image

      LaDena Campbell 

      7 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

      Taleb - I often feel as if I am that relative with my younger daughter - it is not intentional on my part - I tell myself I only want the best for her, but I sometimes catch myself going to far and saying the wrong things in a way that turns out to hurt her...It has had an understandably bad affect on our relationship. I am trying hard to improve so that I don't offend her...she means way too much to me to let our relationship get any worse. Maybe the person you are speaking of as good intentions, as well. Maybe you can talk to them and explain to them how you feel - and maybe they will love you enough to want to change...

    • profile image 

      7 years ago

      Wow - I could really relate to this Taleb - I wanted to tell this voice it is only that person's self-esteem that they speak from - the lack of respect - those who can DO, those who can't CRITICIZE! (old saying)

    • Taleb80 profile imageAUTHOR

      Taleb AlDris 

      7 years ago


      Thank you for the rich comment.

      So it is my decision.

    • zzron profile image


      7 years ago from Houston, TX.

      I agree with dashingscorpio. Many times people break up in a relationship or even get a divorce and sometimes one of them wants to remain friends. I think that if you could remain friends there would've been no reason for a breakup or a divorce in the first place.

      There is a saying that says," You can pick your friends but you cannot pick your relatives." Even though this is true, you may have had a falling out with a relative and just because they are a relative, this does not mean that you have to associate with them if you choose not to. I see everyone as family whether they are or not.

      I believe in the words of Martin Luther King Jr. where he said," You should not judge a man by the color of his skin but rather by the content of his character." Meaning that the content of their character determines how you feel about that person. If there is someone you are not happy with and don't feel comfortable associating with them then it is your choice to part ways and move on.

    • Taleb80 profile imageAUTHOR

      Taleb AlDris 

      7 years ago


      Thank you for expressing your appreciated opinion.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      7 years ago

      Life is a personal journey. We get to choose who we spend our time with. Just because someone is related to you does not mean you are obligated to socialize with a "toxic person". We have only ourselves to blame for being where we do not want to be. Our lives are the result of the (choices & decisions) we make along the way. One man's opinion! :-)


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