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Why Do Men Have Ridiculous Pipedreams?

Updated on May 3, 2011

Why Do Men Have Ridiculous Pipedreams?

I can sit with my sister in law for a good few hours talking over all of the crazy ideas that our husbands have conjured up over the years. What is it with men? When it comes to dreaming they just cannot keep things in their heads. We ladies might have an idea that we will mull over for a little while, try to think about it from every possible angle, and try to imagine all the outcomes and literally set up the plan mentally before even thinking about materializing that dream. If we discover that the idea is unlikely to stand up for instance, if we realize after thinking things through, that the whole plan requires too much good luck or is too dependent on factors beyond our control then we disregard it as a pipedream. Men however seem stubborn enough not to realize when a dream is just that...a dream! They make beelines for their goals, trample on everyone around them to get to it or they enlist everyone to help them in their unrealistic quest only to get stuck at the first hurdle and then give up in frustration. But never mind, on to the next pipedream!

The biggest factor that determines how many pipedreams a man has is how much money he has. When my husband and I are on the poor side, his pipe dreaming creativity levels go through the roof and it’s a new idea every day. However, when our bank balance isn’t feeling so squeezed he relaxes down to about one pipedream a month. And I realize that even if he were to ever get any one of his dreams to become a reality, he would get bored with it after a while and go on to dream up something new. I think the fun lies within the imagining and the dreaming and that’s just how it always is.

This pipedream phenomenon extends into every age of a man’s life. During his teens through to his forties, they can be called pipedreams but beyond this age range we usually give them the collective term ‘mid-life crisis’ and then later on, once they are retired, when they can't seem to sit down for five minutes, we call it pottering.

I think that this phenomenon usually effects men rather than women because, women are very good at letting things go, we can say bye to something unrealistic, we can recognise and understand that some things will and can never be, whereas men simply refuse to believe that they can’t do or have something that they want.

Some advice I will say to any ladies reading this, when your partner decides that he wants to act on another one of his pipedreams, just entertain him, because if they really are pipedreams they will fizzle out of their own accord and at least your husband might have learnt something in the process and if they aren't simply pipedreams then it could be a good thing.


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    • FranyaBlue profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Windsor, England

      Thi Sisdumb

      I don't think you read past the first paragraph and definitely not to the end "if they really are pipedreams they will fizzle out of their own accord... and if they aren't simply pipedreams then it could be a good thing."

      What it's moaning about is PIPEDREAMS - definition: "A fanciful or IMPOSSIBLE plan or hope"

      Sure, if a dream is possible then it's not really a pipedream, it's just a dream and definitely worth chasing!

      But thanks anyway.

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      Thi Sisdumb 

      6 years ago

      You're complaining about this quality as if it is a bad thing, which it isn't AT ALL. If everyone decided that their dreams were "just dreams," then our world would be nowhere near where it is today. This is dumb.

    • FranyaBlue profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Windsor, England

      Well it's good to hear that some men do achieve what they set out to do, they can still seem ridiculous tho :)

      Thanks for commenting!

    • thisisoli profile image


      8 years ago from Austin, Texas (From York, England!)

      My pipe dream was to make a living online and working for myself, the good thing about pipe dreams is that sometimes, jsut sometimes, you achieve them!

    • Rafini profile image


      8 years ago from Somewhere I can't get away from

      Another way to look at it might be that men are more willing to take risks. Could that be it? Or maybe it's just in his personality to take risks? Whatever the case, it's a good hub. :)

    • thevoice profile image


      8 years ago from carthage ill

      great hub the male drive to do want need


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