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Why do most Women Neglect themselves after Marriage?
Marriage is Mostly Cultural
· Why do women neglect themselves after marriage?
The blame is often on married life.
''I am married and have a child and my life is different.''
One of the most popular phrases I have heard from a few married women.
They eat at different times; let themselves go in weight, health and appearance. The little bit of romance once enjoyed is no longer present.
These women don't care for their attention.
At the end of the day, most women arrive home and continue their chores, or second job, and time flies by with no spare time for them.
· Where is their time-out?
Many women work that way, then one day look at their images in the mirror, and realize how much they have changed.
· Is this cultural?
Once she has her man she fails to look good anymore.
· Her husband has let himself go, why should she bother to look any better?
What is good for the goose is good for the gander!
There is no doubt, that having children does change the lifestyles of many married women.
Women should not have to let go to the extent where they forget about their own normal lives.
You may never look like you once did before having kids came along, in shape or size, but in certain ways you should still learn to feel good about yourself.
· Lose the insecurity and look good at all times.
Marriage should not be blamed for what you had to let go off, and had failed to be in control of.
When men tell their wives they will love them no matter what, this makes women feel good and relieved and slowly neglect themselves.
Women feel less attractive when they don't receive compliments, automatically, compliments are forgotten and they lose themselves in the process.
The lack of dressing up is a problem.
Some women are depressed with such stressful lives that they don't see what they really need to feel normal or good again.
Some women handle stress better than others, and would continue to live their healthy lifestyles. After marriage many problems appear and disappear.
Romance dies out slowly, hugs and kisses becomes a thing of the past. It is the little hugs and kisses that disappears quickly, and makes most women feel less appreciated.
· What appears to her can make a woman feel emotionally wrecked?
Once the individual marries, he or she thinks there is no need to look good any more.
Women who let go of themselves easily. It is up to the individual to sleep well, eat right, and be active daily.
Marriage should not be looked at as a bad image to any woman's life.
People go through phases, it all passes by, get back up on your feet immediately. Don't let anyone or anything hold you back from looking good at all times.
If your mother let herself go that should not be you.
I know of two married women born in the same generation as I.
Sadly, they look ten years older than me. In many cases it is cultural to be that way.
From one generation to the next, the women forget about themselves. It is quite different for me to even have a conversation with these women.
We are from different backgrounds and don't have anything in common.
That is what makes us unique in some ways. One may think being in the same generation makes it possible for us to get on with each other.
However, in such cases it is not possible.
The stressful lives these women live by are strange to me. Often they are in a panicky situation when attempting certain tasks. It is difficult to make conversations with such women.
Most husbands don't care of how their wives manage their days or their spare-time.
· Their lives don't exist personally except for when with their husbands and children.
I live a completely different life to that of theirs. I have a least stressful life. I enjoy dancing, meeting people, and going out. My life is fun and most enjoyable.
My time is very important to me, and I always take care of my appearance and keep fit in eating correctly. I avoid indoors as much as I can to stay positive, and to feel good about myself.
My positive thoughts allow me to live and be this strong individual. I have gained the confidence I need through my struggles.
I found myself when I came to Croatia, and will not let go of myself. It is the way I think and feel about myself.
I take pride in my dressing, and with great confidence I feel my best.
Marriage changes everything in an individual's life. That happens if the individual allows such changes to take over their lives.
From what I know, it is not who you marry, and who you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Instead, it is all up to the mind of one person and that is you.
No one is going to make your life worthwhile, and happy only you can do that for yourself.
If you let your life fall it will fall badly.
If you put yourself on that pedestal you will always be on top.
When raised in a neglected family with bad childhood memories those years tend to affect your adulthood. You should not hold onto the past, and let that ruin your good self.
The best is to move on and live with a clear and free mind.
The lack of love, and attention can make you feel alone in your world. You should not depend on your husband to make your world the rosy one, do it for yourself.
Once you have gained your happiness in your own married life that would be a good lesson.
Blaming marriage for letting go of yourself is not the answer to your problems.
Women who let go of their lives tend to be lazy in their marriages. If a woman is comfortable in her marriage she let go of herself.
Look at yourselves from the inside and outside, because if you had let go of yourself then you have from both sides.
You feel less motivated and less confident for the littlest of things.
Marriage is challenging only if you make it out to be that way.
You are in that position because you let it get there.
Yourself image should not be taken away from you.
Don't think secret eating is going to solve your issues, this can affect you horribly, psychologically, emotionally and physically.
More communication and more listening are required to avoid hassles in a marriage.
· Why lose weight after a divorce you could have tried that while married?
Look appealing before and after marriage with your own mind.
Being married to your man does not mean you should also lose yourself.
Women can still look good and feel good while married. Weight gain is the number one cause for women losing themselves after marriage.
You know your life is now with another being, but that does not make you dead inside. You are still alive inside, and need to be yourself and avoid thinking, ''Oh my mother let go of herself why should I be any different?''
Times have changed and there is still so much to enjoy, and to look your best in life.
Don't let marriage put you down.
The less-educated women can think differently, and depending on culture it can make a huge difference.
It is sad to know and see those women who have lost their precious years, especially after marriage.
You can avoid an unhealthy life by living the healthy lifestyles daily.
Never feel unloved or less loved, always think you can do it and you are the best.
· Dress smart and think smart.
The choices of clothing also play a huge part of a married woman's life.
The way she projects herself into society explains her character.
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© 2014 Devika Primić