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Should You Download Ebooks On Breakups?
When I was in my mid-twenties I broke up with a guy that I thought I could get back. Big mistake! One day I was surfing the Internet and saw and ebook that promised to help me win my lover back. Under normal circumstances I never would have fallen for such a gimic, but I thought for some remote reason reading this book would change things. So like a dodo I paid almost twenty dollars to download an ebook that basically told me play hard to get to get him back. How was this going to help? Basically he broke up with me and said he did not want to see me anymore, so how was playing hard to get going to change this? After reading the ebook I felt so silly and realized I had allowed my emotions to sucker me into paying for an ebook that told me nothing helpful. There are some good ebooks out there, but ones telling people how to attract love, win a lover back, or stop a divorce are preying on part of the population that is feeling desperate at the moment. These are not desperate people, but often they log onto the Internet after an argument and start searching for solace. In a rejected lover's moment of vulnerability they just happen upon an ebook that promising to fix everything. Is it going to help them to pay for an ebook that is all fluff? No, but it certaintly helps the publisher of the ebook, which is the exact reason people publish those type of books. Let me say it right now: you do not not want to win back your lover because if the relationship is broken there is a reason for it.
So Why Do You Want Your Ex Back?
I think after a break up many of us miss are ex and want them back, but just think about why you want this. Maybe it is the hurt and the betryal of being broken up with that is making you feel this way, and not the person themselves. So before you go buy some program or ebook that promises to bring your ex back, just stop and think about why you want to be in a dysfunctional relationship like that. When people stop and think they will realize there were some times in their relationship that were not so perfect, but they are oh so caught up in the love haze to notice. Sometimes books from the library are the best source of inspiration for those who are down. The best perk this is free and will not cost you a dime.
Daring Chloe by Laura Jensen Walker is a fun novel for women going through a bad break up to read. It is not a serious self-help book, but often just reading something fun and inspirational can help. Actually I can really identify with Chloe because she is a bookworm like myself and she uses books to escape. Her boyfriend texts her on the wedding night to tell her he does not want to get married because it will not work, but she did not seem to notice he had not been happy.
As she is looking back on their relationship she is realizes her and Chris really did not have anything in common. At first Chloe is really mad at Chris's best friend Ryan, but the reader slowly realizes the he is a true gentleman. Chris whimped out and sent a break up text message, and Ryan was the guy there to pick up the pieces. At first every time Chloe sees Ryan at the bookstore she makes some not so nice comments towards him, who can blame her, but he takes it like a gentleman.
Slowly Chloe gets over her break-up and begins to get involved with her book club that starts going on trips each month to reenact the books they read. Chloe even surprises herself by going camping, which is something she never liked. Chloe even attempts to protects her friends when she thinks a bear is lunging on them during a hike. Luckily it turned out to be a dog, but the one thing Chloe learns is she does not need a man or a relationship to sustain herself. The lesson to be learned from a book like this is instead of changing yourself to be with a man or a woman, stop and think about what you want in life. Personally I am sure you can get a lot more quality advice by reading a fun book such as Daring Chloe than from some deceptively packaged ebook.
The book It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken is another great selection for people getting over a breakup. Once again you can check it out of the library, which is much cheaper than paying for some overpriced program or online psychic that promises to bring your lover back. The writers Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt share how they went through not so great relationships that ended in breakups. It hurt excruciatingly when their significant others broke up with them, and Greg even shares some of the humiliating times he called his ex begging her to take him back.
When Amiira and Greg met each other they knew it was meant to be, even though their relationship has problems like all relationships do. However, they no longer had to guess wheter their significant other still liked them. Greg's other book He's Just Not That Into You is a great read for women that are pondering why their boyfriend is acting distant. If your boyfriend does not call, or if he breaks up with you, there is a good chance he is not the one. Why would you waste your time on a person like this?
There are many ebooks out there that will charge you in the vicinity of five to forty dollars to tell you some things that are just getting your hopes up. If someone breaks up with you they did it because the relationship did not feel right, and begging them to come back is selling yourself short.
After I read these books I decided not to contact a couple of men who had broken up with me, and they emailed months later to ask why I never called anymore. Well, I guess it has something to do with the fact we broke up. Your time is too precious to waste on a relationship that is already over. Go out and meet some new people, or at least check out some fun books to read, but do not pine after your ex.