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"Why do women have to dig through the trash to find their treasure"

Updated on October 8, 2009

"why do women have to dig through the trash to find their treasure"

If you have to dig through the trash to find your treasure, and find the man of your dream, then your digging wasn't in vain.
If you have to dig through the trash to find your treasure, and find the man of your dream, then your digging wasn't in vain.

Why do women have to dig through the trash to find their treasure"

It's sad but women have to literally go through the trash of men, before they can find their treasure of men. all women do look for their Mr. Right or their Knight in shining armor; but women got through a lot of headaches, heart breaks; in and out of relationships that doesn't last. The truth is most women isn't comfortable with being in and out of relationships that doesn't  seem to be going any where.

Women hate with a passion, meeting new men and getting into new relationships; to be honest  they dread it , like catching a severe cold. When we think we have met the man of our dream, we go into the relationship thinking our search is  now over.   After we meet  who we think, is the man of our dream.  We stop looking for Mr. compatible because we think we found him; months later down the road, we come to the realization that it's not him after all.

We find out this bit of information, after we have given our selves to him and become one with him. now to find out, it's not him; that our heart and soul still yearns for, after all.  I'm pretty sure that there are men that probably go through these same changes as well. There are men and women that are abstaining from sexual intercourse; because they're tired of being with different people; with every relationship, it means a new sexual partner in you r bed.

When I say that women dig through the trash,  I mean that the women is going through man after man to find looking for Mr. Right , when most of the time they end up with Mr. Wrong again.  When we sift through the trash, we're getting someone elses left overs. Women want to stop this vicious cycle of meeting and sleeping around ; but they think if they don't, they might miss out on some great treasure.

Most women want genuine love in a committed relationship, they don't want a fly by night relationship.  women want a decent man ,that's going to love and respect them and treat them like a queen.  After women have gone through so much trash; the women gets tired of smelling the stinch in their nostrils, and the nasty left over debris that's left behind.

I guess the men go through their trash too, but the difference is there's a lot of men that want to  play with their trash; and  that's fine, if you want to wallow in the mud with the pigs. Men don't care, because most of them are just looking for fun and games and don't want committed relationships. Women or different, they want more out of a serious relationship.

A committed relationship is very important to most women, because they want more than a roll in the hay.  So, women if you have to dig through the trash;to get to your treasure, don't give up, because if you get the man of your dream, it was all worth it.  Once you  have found your diamond in the rough ; you know he's going to love and cherish only you.  Well, it seems that digging through the trash was worth it , even though you got a little dirty; but you came out with a priceless treasure you'll have the rest of your days.

Benny Faye Douglass

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      Chris Eddy111 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Good hub and I'm still looking for mine.

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you sweet Green Lotus,for your kindness and your very astute understanding.blessings to you my dear. creativeone59

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      Hillary 7 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      Hello my friend. I got your message and I understand it fully having had several unsavory relationships before finding my husband. The guys weren't really "trash", just Mr. Wrong, but "digging through the trash" is a fun analogy. Don't take any of the aggressive comments to heart either..you just hit a nerve with some folks and they don't get your humor.

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Okay,maybe I worded my hub wrong but, but what I meant was you go many through trashy relationships before you get to the best one for you. I wasn't trying to offend anyone. honey, you have a blessed day. Creativeone59

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      7 years ago

      Wow.. Pleasant way to refer to men. That just represents how stupid a lot of women are these days. If women were all viewed as one person it would be a person that was obsessed with her self.

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Hey Wes, I agree with you and I do know that men as well as women go through their many relationships. I thank you so kindly for your comment and feedback. my article wasn't to put men down in general, just some of the situations we go through , but I also know it applies to men; who go through it too. thanks again. you have a blessed day. creativeone59

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      Wes 7 years ago

      well i think that men have to dig through a lot of trash as well. But the main point that we are missing here is that a lot of women start looking for relationships without knowing what they want. It's natural for a women to be indecisive about what they want, but you can't blame men in general for a woman's inability to assess what she really wants and deduce whether or not a man will give that to her.

      The bottom line is this: What do i want and can this man give it to me? What does HE wants, can I give it to him?

      simple question. For men and women. Men are much better at the simple things though.

      In today's society, i feel like as a man, I'm put on the defensive before I even start. Entering into a relationship with a woman is like pulling teeth because the direction is constantly changing, even with pure intentions, there is an air of mistrust and the past looming over everything like a dark cloud.

      Women should stop trying to manipulate men and instead, be a little more introspective about what is REALLY important to them. Articles are everywhere: How to get a man to commit. 5 things you should do to make her love you. 10 types of men you should avoid.

      One man's trash is another man's treasure. It's not that you're digging through trash, its that you're looking at the wrong treasures. Not only in men, but in yourself. Stop trying to control men and learn to love yourself, then love will come knocking.

      Wes

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you for your very precious words of wisdom, but What I'm saying is you go through a lot of not so good relationships before you get blessed with the man or women of you dreams. Now, if you by chance found your mate the first time out, then you are truly blessed, because a lot of us didn't. Sometimes, we go through relationships before we find Our Mr. Ms. Right. I really do appreciate your comment and feedback. creativeone59

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      johnyzky 7 years ago

      Mrs.Creativeone59,the problem here is that everyone wants to find love with the quickness instead of building a friendship with time.There is no need to search the garbage for the disposable part of our human-kind.It is sad to think that for most of us love will never come through,and for others love has come and gone,for one or another reason.I am,in love with the most unique woman,I,have seen in the face of this our earth.And I,can assure You that at this point in our relationship She loves Me too.Desperation is the problem here,for no one wants to spend a lonely life here.Don't dig in the garbage for a soulmate.Take the time and put in the effort needed to seek for that person which will complet You.

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      Paul Marshall 7 years ago from Australia

      Yes, so much of this is true, but it is true for both sides not just women. God I could {probably should} write a book on the subject of divorce having been there twice now. Talk about used & abused, it happens to men also. I have given up on digging now, because I just can't be bothered with all the b.s. that goes with the area. Life for me now is good, I refuse to commit to a person that does not understand the meaning of the word.

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you for visiting my hub, and yes I will read your hub.thank for your interest. creativeone59

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      DrH 7 years ago

      can you please read my hub on romance ot being dead?

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      DrH 7 years ago

      can you please read my hub on romance ot being dead?

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      SoftCornHippo 7 years ago

      Maybe if we just all lissened to our mamas? I tried it, but she was pointin me at those little geeky guys! an man, that jus' didn' make it! ya know? Also tried diggin' through some trash, but that was, however inneresin, still kinda stupid. So, now, I jus' hang roun' without the man at all, and yah, it's jus right in this perfectly heated little pond! all I kan say is - the hippo been there too. don't trust em, any of em! Treasure can get duuuuuuullllll!

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Keeping digging and don't settle for less. thanks for your comment.Godspeed. creativeone59

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      StricktlyDating 7 years ago from Australia

      Yes...Why?

      (I'm still digging!)

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Ivori your your appreciated comment and feedback. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Hello hello for your true comment and support. creatvieone59

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      Barbara Eisenberg 7 years ago from Titusville

      How true! We do need to sorting through a lot of baggage before the gem is found. Great article!

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      Hello, hello, 7 years ago from London, UK

      Never truer word spoken. Thank you for a great hub. It was so well written.

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you I'm so glad you found your treasure. Thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Tom Cornett 7 years ago from Ohio

      A hub so true and is the same for men. I went through land fills of trash before I found the right woman. We have been married for 21 years now. All that digging was worth it too. Nice hub....thanks! :)

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you KwameG, i wasn't really bashing men, I was just saying you have to go through a lot of bad situations with men before you find the goodie. Thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      KwameG 7 years ago from MS

      I had to laugh when I read the title, I am often of accused of a women bashing, I don't think it is bashing, but some people can't take a joke..anyway nice hubs..I may have to write a reply hub or two, to answer your question. Thanks

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      benny Faye Douglass 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Veronica, you know me I try tell it like it is. maybe not so pretty sometimes, but I try call it like I see it. I use to be single too. thank you for your support an. d feedback. creativeone59

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      Veronica Allen 7 years ago from Georgia

      Wow! This is a very powerful hub. You really have a way with words. But sadly, it;s so true on both ends of the spectrum, men and women.