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Worst Ways To Break Up With A Woman
Have you decided you want to end your relationship with her? Well, Here's a few examples of what not to do and the worst ways you could break up with a woman.
If you don't want a bad break up - one involving fights, ongoing drama's and insults, please DON'T break up with your girlfriend these ways...
The Worst Ways You Can Break Up With A Woman:
- When you tell her or imply you don't want to continue the relationship because there is something physical about her that you don't like.
For example, by saying she's put on too much weight, or you want a girl with larger breasts - This has the potential to cause long term self esteem issues, diet problems, body issues. She may also think that if she diets or gets a breast enhancement you would then take her back. So, she may be back for another try once she's hit the Gym for a month... Blaming her physical characteristics for causing the break up is extremely nasty. Just think, you wouldn't want something like this said to you so don't mention it to her (Even if her physical attributes are part of the reason you want to end the relationship).
- When you don't say anything and just go missing.
The woman hasn't got a clue what to think, and is most likely going to freak out! Maybe for a long time. She may also end up contacting all your friends and family wanting some information about what is going on with you, she may suspect the worst such as you've had an accident etc. She will be so worried that something terrible has happened to her man. It will deeply affect her, at home, at work, with friends. The "Silent Treatment" breakup may initially relive you of having to face her for a while, but she will eventually succeed in tracking you down, and it could be at your work place! Or even your parents house. This is a bad break up choice! Please don't consider it!
- When you've decided to break up with her, but avoid telling her, instead you remain in contact with her somewhat but keep your distance. She only finds out when she sees you with your new woman!
You're bound to cause drama! And possibly a cat fight! It will give your new woman a bad impression of you, especially if she sides with your ex when she hears from her, herself that you are still in a relationship. This is called two timing. You won't look good in any one's eyes. You will cause drama in your new relationship.
- When you tell her you're leaving her because you've met someone you like more than her.
She may just try to find out who this girl is that's apparently much better than her. She may also accuse you of cheating. She may try to contact you (and/or her) on Facebook and via SMS when she's having an angry moment fantasising about what you may be doing with her. You have given her nightmares as well as breaking her heart. You will make her angry, with you and your new partner, and there will be a thousand questions over the next few weeks - When did you meet her? Did you kiss her while the two of you were still technically a couple? Are you with her tonight? You don't need to be bothered by all of this drama while you are trying to move on, so that's something to keep to yourself. It's not her fault if you decided to pursue a new relationship, so don't involve her in it.
- When you announce you want to break up on a special occasion.
When she's already bought your favourite things and wrapped them up under the Christmas tree, and you open them up and begin to celebrate the day with your friends and families, and after your great day of festivities together, you tell her you want to break up. Leaving her with a devastating Christmas (or Birthday, or Valentines Day). Even next Christmas she'll remember what a horrible day she had. Maybe even the following year. You don't need a 'special event' to remember your break up by, so don't wait until then to end it.
- When you tell her friend/s that you're going to break up with her, before you tell her.
Don't involve third parties in your breakups! It does NOT help ease her pain, it will only embarrass her! And you'll be potentially creating a whole group of enemies by doing that, as her friends will ultimately side with her. Rarely could a friend keep that kind of information from her too.
- When you decide to tell her it's over by changing your relationship status on Facebook (or any other social networking site) BEFORE you actually tell her.
This can cause a lot of contact and gossip from 3rd parties, ie: your mutual online friends (or even friends of friends) some of whom may be relatives and/or work colleague's, which could lead to some unwanted online contact and comments left on either of your profiles. Besides, it's just not classy! It's better to update your profile status, after you've deleted her from your friends list (And any of her friends who will notice the new status and pass the news on to her in seconds!).
The end of a relationship is rarely easy for both parties, but you can make it easier on yourself and your partner just by finding the courage to speak about your feelings and by acknowledging each others feelings too. You should behave with dignity and respect for the other person when you're going to end your love relationship with them. This goes for both males and females when ending a love relationship.
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