What to do when you're still feeling 'obsessed with the ex'
If you are still feeling obsessed with the ex you have made no decision to move on and therefore you must make a concreted decision and act on it. To feel is natural just don't act on it until you know
Get a book on dealing with the loss of a loved one, and work through the four stages of grief. An ex is indeed a loss, and breaking up produces a rift and an empty place where someone used to be and no longer is.
Try this visual technique to stop thinking about your ex. Hand your coat and a garment that reminds you of your ex facing each other in your closet with the door open. Let the coat and the garment face each other in the closet for a week or more.
The garment should be something that you do not mind donating to charity. It could be a sweater of his favorite color. Let the garment drop to the floor of your closet after a while and then leave it there. Do not pick the garment up.
Have your computer face the closet and every so often look at your coat and the garment that is no longer hanging up beside your coat.
Get the visuals of your coat without the garment but do not feel heartbroken but feel relieved and independent. After you are sure that you are over your ex, donate the garment to charity and then move on.
The independent coat now without the garment in the closet will symbolize you as being able to move on without your ex. This simple exercise in visuals will train you to get used to being independent and able to move on.
Play it by ear.......there are so many ways to do it, but what ever way you choose make sure that it does not end up making you feel bad or insecure due to the way they choose to respond.
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