I really like my brothers room mate. he's 31 and im 21, im not sure what to do a

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  1. theIndecisiveGirl profile image61
    theIndecisiveGirlposted 8 years ago

    I really like my brothers room mate. he's 31 and im 21, im not sure what to do about my feelings...

    should i go for it or not?

  2. ultracutebot profile image76
    ultracutebotposted 8 years ago

    There's a lot of factors to consider when deciding whether or not to pursue someone romantically. Given your considerable age difference, you have to keep in mind additional factors including but not limited to: are you ready to accept that he's most likely had a lot more life experience than you? That he may have more dating experience than you? Can you deal with people criticizing your choice in dating an older guy? And also since he's your brother's roommate, you may want to think about the fact that if you date him and things go wrong, not only does it mean romantic disaster for you but also could mean financial &/or social disaster for your brother.

  3. moncrieff profile image76
    moncrieffposted 8 years ago

    You're young, uncommitted, so just try things, the only complication is that he's a roommate of your brotha. Hey rock'n'roll!!

  4. sugz profile image73
    sugzposted 8 years ago

    ya brothers mate is usually not a good idea, or for the guys, their sisters friend..

    my son is 21, he was interested in one of his mate's sisters.. it didn't last, and nor did his mate stick round for long because she started causing a bit of trouble between them. its risky, but if you are mature enough and he is too.. then talk to your brother first and ask if he would mind if you got to know his room mate better.. or perhaps ask what his room mate thinks of you.. your brother will think he's being clever by dropping you in it which can sometimes make the room mate think of you differently, but not always. sometimes the chances are it's already mutual, but the age difference, he might not think of you that way. you might seem more like a little sis to him.
    follow your instinct but do soem homework first smile good luck

  5. wychic profile image87
    wychicposted 8 years ago

    Chronological age is not an important factor...your maturity level and where you are in life is, though, if you're looking for something that will last. I can relate to the conflicted feelings, I met my husband when I was 21...and he was 49. At the time friends, family, and society in general were all telling me that it was wrong to be with him based on age alone, but we were perfect for each other...and still are, because thankfully we both decided to put that age factor aside and go off of our own feelings, personalities, etc. rather than worrying about how much longer he'd been on the earth than I had.


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