Tony, this is very helpful to me. My concern is not that I'm a 30 years old virg

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    Questioningposted 8 years ago

    Tony, this is very helpful to me. My concern is not that I'm a 30 years old virgin... my concern..

    is that my 28 years old boyfriend is. We have been together for 4 months now and he does not seem to want to take take that step. Thus, I feel rejected and hurt. Reading your post, maybe I'm not fullfiling his expectations. I understand it won't be easy for him but it's not easy for me either since feeling rejected by the person you love it's quite painful. What should I do?

  2. Daniel J. Neumann profile image59
    Daniel J. Neumannposted 8 years ago

    While I'm just a kid... I'm also a 20-year-old virgin (for now), and society tells me that’s weird. In some ways, even though I'm straight (heterosexual), I feel like a "queer." I can identify with being an "anomaly."

    If I were you, I'd start with foreplay and work my way up (or down, considering). It may take him some time to summon the courage to go for it. Guys want to please women. Every virgin is scared they'll be awful at sex and/or ejaculate too soon.

    Try to address these concerns. Tell him that it's okay for the first time to be way too short... most guys will "recover" within 10-20 minutes... which you can spend either discussing what felt good (and not) or practicing more foreplay.

    You know for a fact he doesn't have an STD. That's quite good. Have fun smile

  3. Dave Mathews profile image60
    Dave Mathewsposted 8 years ago

    30 years old and still a virgin.Hmmmmmmmmmmm? Obviously your boyfriend has more respect for you than you do for yourself. Some men wish for their wedding night to be as special for themselves, as it is for the girl they marry, both being virgins. What is the big issue over a piece of tissue anyway?

  4. profile image45
    Questioningposted 8 years ago

    This is my first time using "HubPages" and I just realized that I posted my question on the wrong place. I don't want you to think that I posted this questions randomly since I don't bring these topics out of the blue. I was just trying to answer a discussion question I saw on another place. However, thank you for answering and helping me. Those were very helpful answers guys.


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