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Why do men gives more attention to their wife than their mum?

  1. incomeguru profile image95
    incomeguruposted 6 years ago

    Why do men gives more attention to their wife than their mum?

    I found out that most men after getting married always care about their wife. Does that mean their mum deserves little or no attention?

  2. Mcham Law profile image59
    Mcham Lawposted 6 years ago

    no, their mother deserves attention but their wife is their life partner. Your wife should get more of your attention than your mother. after all you live with her.

  3. Vishaaa profile image77
    Vishaaaposted 6 years ago

    Because men see their wife as their second mom. They do a dual role as mom and wife...

    But you can't see a wife in your mom...

  4. lydocia profile image80
    lydociaposted 6 years ago

    Their wife is the one they are physically attracted to, love, share their lives with.

    Moms deserve attention and respect, but they shouldn't be compared to life partners.

  5. shanaya profile image76
    shanayaposted 6 years ago

    Very good Question. I do agree those people exist who after Marriage give more Attention to their Wife than their Mom. But getting Married Definitely DOES NOT mean that Your Love & Attention will shift on Your Wife and Your Responsibilities towards your Mom will be over.
    And this is also true that your Wife is Your Life partner but Don't forget it's Your Mom only who give you LIFE. 
    So one should keep a balance of giving Attention, Love, & Respect to both of them.

    With Respect
    From SHANAYA:)

  6. lockgirl profile image61
    lockgirlposted 6 years ago

    I wish  I had gotten more attention than my mother in laws. Both my ex-husbands both were up their momma's butts.

  7. poshcoffeeco profile image80
    poshcoffeecoposted 6 years ago

    In my case there is no comparison. It all depends what your Mum is like.Mine has just got a bad attitude.

  8. Monisajda profile image75
    Monisajdaposted 6 years ago

    There should be different way of showing love and respect to one's mother and different kind for wife. You are supposed to live a life with your wife so you share all the ups and downs with her. She is your partner and deserves to be the first one to know about majority of things. Mom needs to have place in her son's heart but she needs to understand that now his obligation is to his new family.

  9. bethperry profile image91
    bethperryposted 6 years ago

    A man's mother certainly deserves attention from her son. But I agree with my own husband who says that when marrying a couple become one flesh, one spirit. Now while I may sometimes be tempted to envy the time my oldest son spends with his wife I remember I have my soul mate and that gives me comfort.

  10. Borsia profile image45
    Borsiaposted 6 years ago

    Because when the lights go out he will be in bed with his wife and, hopefully, not his mother.

  11. jagandelight profile image78
    jagandelightposted 6 years ago

    Married men ought to care about their wives, the bible sate when a man gets married he leaves mother and father and cling to his wife because they are now one in spirit. This however does not say he's not to love his mother or see her less,  his focus is now in another direction where his life and family is.

  12. duffsmom profile image59
    duffsmomposted 6 years ago

    There is no reason that both women cannot have some attention, but when a man leaves his home and marries, the wife becomes his priority.  His mother should always remain in his heart and he should call her and assist her if needed--but his wife is his top concern.

  13. KiandraRutledge profile image67
    KiandraRutledgeposted 6 years ago

    Well I think of what the Bible says when it says a man would leave his father and mother and stick to his wife.  Your mom would be your mom forever and you should continue to honor her.  But your parents job is to prepare you for adulthood and that's not to say you can no longer lean on them, but the dynamics should shift from mom and dad to wife.  Once you marry, you should tend to your wife.  It's like the movie Jumping the Broom.  I find a lot of mothers have a hard time letting go of their sons.  It's not a competition.  Both mother and wife are loved but it a different kind of love.