Can a man truly love his wife and still pay more attention to his married lady friend?
He married for other reasons and has a married lady friend he tends to be truly happier when with the lady friend do you think he has feelings for her?
In my opinion, that means there is something missing in his marriage and yes, he is falling for the other woman. Or at the very least, becoming infatuated with the other woman.
When a grown man has "feelings" for a woman he makes it known. If his friend is "wondering" about how he feels about her it's because he has not declared his feelings towards her.
Oftentimes people mistake attention for love or desire.
Some people really enjoy being around their platonic friends. Maybe they have a similar sense of humor or other things in common that they may not have with there spouse.
However it does not mean that he loves his friend more than his wife or would ever consider cheating on/leaving his wife.
This woman should simply enjoy their friendship and not allow her (mind) to speculate or wonder if there is something beyond the platonic. The reality is it is (her) that (wants) something more than a platonic friendship. Infidelity begins in the mind.
She has (feelings) for him! She is the one (comparing) his attention to her versus the attention she witnesses him giving to his wife. However she can never know how much attention he gives his wife in the privacy of their home and in their bed.
This may be an instance of her seeing what she (wants) to see. Some people appear nicer to friends and family members they don't see as often. Even parents have been known to appear nicer and more patient with other people's kids than they are with their own. Nevertheless it would be a mistake to believe they love those kids more than they love their own.
Yes he could love both, it's possible, or it's possible the lady friend is just a friend. Either way, should he really be spending so much time with a married lady friend? I'd want to curb that!
If he is "truly" happier with his married lady friend over being with and enjoying his wife's company, then he should not have married his wife. He is only cheating himself, his wife and leading the lady friend on. He is cheating on his wife this way and making everyone miserable.
Any person can love many people. We don't just love one person during our lifetime. The love we have for friends is not the same as the love we have for our partner or for our children, or for other family members. There are many different kinds of love.
Having said that, I believe a man can have feelings for women other than his wife. They do not detract from the way he feels for his wife. My husband cares for his friends, but he chose to marry me, and spend his life with me. Whatever the reasons behind getting married, he still chose his wife.
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