How to you define an ideal life partner?

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   ChitrangadaSharanposted 12 years ago

   How to you define an ideal life partner?

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   Starmom41posted 12 years ago

   My ideal would have these factors:
   - no alcohol/drug dependencies (past or present);
   - no history of violence or abusiveness;
   - the belief that all people are equals;
   - and a good relationship (past/present) with his parents and especially his mother.

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      ChitrangadaSharanposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with your views completely. Thanks for your comment.

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   In order to define your ideal life partner you have to truly know yourself, you wants, and needs not just for today but in terms of what you are striving for in years to come. However it's not about just what you want but rather finding someone else who wants what you want as well. There is no amount of "communication" or "work" that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want. Ultimately we all want to be with someone who (naturally agrees) with us.
   Secondly you have to come to the relationship complete. Ideally you want to have gotten your education, training, career path launched, done some traveling, and enough dating to know what you don't want!
   Lastly you have to be grounded in reality. "Don't expect to sit next to the moon unless you are a star!" Too many people are asking for the moon when it comes to finding a partner. Very often they are asking for things they do not themselves possess. Like attracts like.
   I'm not sure why someone (votes down) a person's (opinion). The question is answered from each person's perspective! There is no "Right" or "Wrong" answer!

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      You said a lot of things that made sense to me...+1.

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      ChitrangadaSharanposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hi dashingscorpio,
      Thanks for your answer. I agree with your views. It is all about compatibility. And one should know him/ herself  really well, to select the life partner.

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   CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years ago

   Is this a loaded question or what?! :0)
   
   Please let me preface what I am about to say, by stating that I can only speak for myself.
   
   Therefore, my "ideal life partner" would be a woman of high moral fiber. She would believe in the same things I believe in, and love and serve the one true God.
   
   In addition, she would be fiercely loyal, loving, affectionate, faithful to a fault, maternal, nurturing, wise, soft-spoken, feminine, enjoys laughter, sense of humor, forgiving, gracious, kind-hearted, fun-loving, low-maintenance, quiet spirit, gentle, selfless, loving, truthful, honest, pleasing personality, slow to anger, good mother, good friend, etcetera.
   
   In a nutshell, she would have to give what I freely offer. In this regard, she would have to be my equal. :0)

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      ChitrangadaSharanposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hi CJ,
      I think that's what most men want. Thanks for your comment.

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   Jennifer Madisonposted 12 years ago

   Someone who loves, respects, honors, cherishes and cuddles you all the time. Someone who cries with you when you are said, who laughs with you when you are happy, who hangs out with you when you are lonely and who sings with you when you are in a good mood. An ideal partner is always there for you and always backs you up. An ideal partner criticizes you but doesn't love you any less for the things you say or do. An ideal partner smiles a lot and kisses you a lot and treats you like a queen.

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds like the description of a good dog. :0)

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   padmendraposted 12 years ago

   An ideal life partner is who is committed, trustworthy and supports the feeling of his partner as this is the base of any relation to become stronger. The quality of an ideal partner is not a mere word which can be written in a piece of paper but needs to be understood by sharing the points of mutual interest with each other. The views of a  person is the  real tool  to assess his overall character and emotions towards any relation. For more details, if interested, you may please view my hub ' point choosing a  good life partner' in the matter. I hope it will give some more  useful hints.

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      ChitrangadaSharanposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Padmendra,
      I agree with your views. Thanks for your response.

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   Cristaleposted 12 years ago

   Some one that loves you in return and some one that makes you happy is an ideal partner for me. This is the foundation for wanting to be with them in the first place. Every thing else will fall into place, like making them happy and building while growing together.

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      ChitrangadaSharanposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Quite true, Cristale. Love is the foundation, on which the relationship is built and nurtured. Thanks for your response.

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   Lyn Dianoposted 12 years ago

   Hello,
   
   I have a great teacher who guides me with everything I need to know about life. And what I heard from him that an ideal partner must be a lover of God or is someone who is trying to center his/her life in the service of God. If both partner is not loving God or is at least making the effort to love God, chances are that they won't really care for the real well being of the each other. The couple will end up being bitter because they won't recognize that his/her partner is a child of God, loving servant of God whom I should take care of.
   
   This is what I heard and learned from my spiritual teacher, and I know that this knowledge could make every household peaceful and less painful. ^___^

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      ChitrangadaSharanposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Lyn Diano!
      I appreciate your views. Your spiritual teacher has guided very correctly. Thanks for your response.

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