I have lost all contact with my children, x

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   Warren Roosposted 10 years ago

   I have lost all contact with my children, x
   
   How. Can I find a way to stop the pain my life is family
   My x just has to be able to help but I think the guilt is holding on to the brain

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   pippapposted 10 years ago

   There are many social media websites you can make use of to try to find your children - facebook leaps to mind.  Many people have found lost family members using it.  As for the pain, try volunteering in a place that works with children.  Perhaps helping other children will help lessen the pain of having no contact with your own.
   
   Perhaps try having a talk with your ex; and, explain how much you want to have your children in your life.  You might be able to work something out if you ask her for her help.

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      Warren Roosposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      All have remained out of touch

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   Dave36posted 10 years ago

   There's nothing you can do apart from work on yourself buddy, so get your life sorted & get ready....You have to try to accept the situation, & carry on with your own life....Stay off the booze for example, & get busy being busy....Do the things you know deep down you should do, & leave the rest to fate, because that's the most you can ever do in a situation like yours....They'l come looking one day like most kids would, so like Bruce Lee says "if your ready, you don't have to get ready"....Surprise yourself, & them at the same time....You don't know the future buddy no one does, so there's just as much chance of getting back in contact as there is not....Good luck buddy.

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   Sri Tposted 10 years ago

   Yes, you can stop the pain. You may not want to though. Every being is complete unto himself. Everything comes from inside. It's normal to miss people or to feel hurt when someone is removed from your life. But if there is absolutely no way to change it, there is no point in remaining miserable for the rest of your life. You have the right to be happy. But your happiness should come from you. When you attach your happiness to others, you set yourself up for disappointment because humans are imperfect and unpredictable. Once you center yourself in your own inner happiness, you will be able to let people come and go from your life as they choose or vice versa. I have had family members cut me off for whatever reasons. At first it came as a shock but later I had the realization that, this is how its going to be. I thought we loved each other for life. So I had to be able to let them go if thats what they wanted. There is no need to understand it. It's part of life. Some people want to know you and associate with you, some don't. Today I can let go of anybody if necessary. I understand now that no relationship is permanent. Enjoy the ones who want to know you, let go of the ones who don't want to know you.

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      Dave36posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree, & iv'e been going through all that in the last year or so.We do like you say create our own feelings/emotions inside us, although i think love is the exception.Also we should never judge a situation, as many turn out for the bett

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   It can be painful  losing all contact with your children you got to start thinking of yourself the children will come around but all in time. I know of someone who remarried and lost contact with his daughter the blame is terrible but life still goes on.

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