Do you believe there is a such thing as sex addiction? Do you think this actual

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   realtalk247posted 9 years ago

   Do you believe there is a such thing as sex addiction?  Do you think this actually exists?
   
   When someone is caught cheating, violating the trust of their relationship, we come up with psychological terms such as sex addiction.  It's not disrespect, dishonor, or labeled bad.  It's not infidelity-it's addiction ask Tiger Woods or Charlie Sheen.  An estimated 12 million people suffer from some form of sex addiction according to psychologists. The American Psychiatric Association first diagnosed sex addiction in 1987. So I ask you sex addiction, is this a load of b.s.?  What happened to being labels: loose, promiscuous, hound dog or man that will sleep with anyone?Is this a true disease?
   
   

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   Motherbynatureposted 9 years ago

   That's a BS diagnosis.  Translated into plain English it means "I cannot govern my own sex organs".  It's an excuse.  Period.  It keeps spouses hanging on while they get to have "relapse" after relapse.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      "An addictive behavior is a behavior which is both rewarding and reinforcing. It may involve any activity, substance, object, or behavior (that becomes the major focus of a person's life..)"
      As per that definition almost anything could apply.

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      Motherbynatureposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly.  There seems to be a blurred line between an illness and an excuse.  At this rate people will be certifiable gold-diggers and gossips.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Motherbynature, Are you saying you don't believe there's such a thing as "addictive behavior"? What about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder?
      Do you believe there is any (behavior) that could have mental triggers making it addictive for some people?

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      Motherbynatureposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Yes I do believe there are addictive behaviors and I believe that almost anything can become an addiction.  What I don't buy is that once a medical diagnosis is attached to something a person can simply claim they can't help it.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I agree "Self-diagnosis" is oftentimes a convenient excuse for (most) people. However I have to admit there are some people who really do have "addictive behavior" that requires help for them to overcome. This may range from kleptomania to sex.

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   Aime Fposted 9 years ago

   I'm sure some people do simply use it as an excuse, but I also do believe that some people have a sex addiction in the same way that people have an addiction to many things. They find pleasure, comfort, and relief from it. Some people turn to drugs, some to alcohol, some to food, some to sex. It all comes from the same place, people just find their 'highs' in different forms.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Very true!
      Not everyone has that mental switch that says; "That's enough." whether it be food, alcohol, drugs, or sex.
      When they don't have it that's all they're thinking about. Clearly for these people there is something mentally off.

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   It really depends on how one defines addiction.
   I tend to believe if someone is obsessed with a thing to a point where they're jeopardizing their livelihood by skipping work, not paying their bills, consumed with thoughts of having something 24/7 to a point where they displaying irrational behavior then it's clear they have a serious problem.
   People who for instance can't get through a workday without watching porn online, going to strip clubs on a nightly basis, participating in sex clubs, or picking up multiple strangers every week for one night stands, or escorts. This behavior goes way beyond "cheating"!
   According scientists it's possible to be a "food addict" or "gambling addict". Some people can't put the fork down. They wake up thinking about what they're going to eat all day long.
   Naturally many people who get caught cheating will often claim to be sex addicts but I would not rule out such a state of mind does exist for some folks. There are those who can't go without coffee for a day.
   Society has always been reluctant to view "sins" as addictions. It took many years before alcoholism was considered a disease or even admitting smoking was addictive.
   Today we say hoarders have an "illness". People use to make fun of eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia. They all seem so simple to remedy.
   Hoarders clean up your house! Throw away that junk! People with anorexia and bulimia stop obsessing about your weight!
   However these illnesses have to do with a switch in their minds to causes changes in their behavior. For those of us who are not obsessed with anything in our lives it may difficult to understand why there are a minority of people who can't be content with a couple drinks, having sex a couple of times per week, or visiting a casino two or three times a year. We look at many of these types of addictions as a flaw in someone's character, a lack self-discipline/control, selfishness, or a lack or morality.
   I know people for lack of a better word who are addicted to their cell phones!

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      Motherbynatureposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      There are character flaws and there are illnesses.

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