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Full figured women

  1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
    AnythingArtzyposted 7 years ago

    Are there any men out there who can look past a few extra pounds to see the REAL woman. Or is it just all about ouside packaging?

    Be nice please.

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image65
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I think that you are beautiful, and men nowadays doesnt look for superficial things anymore, if they do, then it is to their disadvantage, good rapport and women with confidence plus those who are NICE rocks, THOSE ARE WOMEN for KEEPS

  2. NaomiR profile image86
    NaomiRposted 7 years ago

    I'm a full figured woman and have been married to my husband for almost 10 years. And yes, I was overweight when we first met -- not as much as I am now, but definitely not thin. Ironically, I didn't really start dating until I gained weight. When I was a skinny kid in high school, I was single! So yes, there's at least one man who could look past me not being a stick.

    1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
      AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Well.... there's one. smile

  3. maudine_05 profile image60
    maudine_05posted 7 years ago

    Of course there is, as the saying goes "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder"

  4. donotfear profile image88
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    Hey AnythingArtzy......there's bound to be some men out there who like women fleshy. I knew somebody once who said he liked his women big. His wife weighed about 300 lbs. Your beauty comes from within. Hollywood has done their best to contribute to the emphasis on stick thin bodies being sexy. Remember Jane Mansfield, Marilyn Monroe & Mae West?  Those ladies were quite thick & sexy as all get out.  ON the opposite note, when I was quite young, guys never asked me out...I was too skinny! People made fun of me. I got called everything from Skeleton face to Toothpick. Gave me quite a complex. So it can go both ways. Oh, by the way, I've been overweight before, too. You go girl, you're beautiful!

    1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
      AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Thank You

  5. readytoescape profile image61
    readytoescapeposted 7 years ago

    I find the “be nice please” parameter interesting. It apparently assumes that full figured women are the source of derogatory thoughts and comments. I for one do not feel that’s the case, but, (yes I know, But), I have noticed women of that “stature” seem to carry a, lets call it a negative “attitude” that has always confused me. Not that women, not matter their comportment can be understood in any manner a man can comprehend, I have always considered this “attitude” confounding.

    And not to sound chauvinistic or condescending but there are more of “you” than there are of “them.” And most of us are not exactly Brad Pitt, (okay some of us are) but are you alluding to the fact that we all want a super model and are just “settling” for you?

    Please be kind…..I’m just a guy.

    1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
      AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Just asking for personal reasons and yes the "please be nice" is because of remarks I've heard and gotten. I know there is a whole world of men out there but......
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      1. readytoescape profile image61
        readytoescapeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Those would be boys ...not men

  6. Luciendasky profile image74
    Luciendaskyposted 7 years ago

    Ready, you sure put things into perspective...

    I have gained 15 pounds since meeting my boyfriend (I became unemployed and got fat) and he still loves me the same (actually he says he loves me more)... HOWEVER... I am always criti"sizing" myself and calling myself "fat" etc... and this REALLY makes him upset - and I didn't know why until now.

    Thank you - It is a good friend who can speak the truth and make it understandable smile

    1. readytoescape profile image61
      readytoescapeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Hey Lucien, Haven't seen you on the forums for awhile.

      I didn't really do anything but ask a question, but your welcome.

      I do know what your Boyfriend loves is in your heart, we've never met, but I've read what's in there. He is lucky enough to see it and experience it.

      1. Luciendasky profile image74
        Luciendaskyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Hey Ready! Haven't really been on for a while... busy with holidays and work... YIKES! Haven't even really been able to write much... I really do miss you all though - and I miss the forums, so I am going to try to be on more often (as long as it fits into my time)

        Thank you for your huge compliment. I really need to listen men (not boys) more often... I bet my stress level will go down smile Still though, I would like to lose the extra weight if only so I am sick often - so I keep trying big_smile

        1. readytoescape profile image61
          readytoescapeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Ah my dear losing weight is not the issue, but shaping maybe, voluptuous is pretty damn nice, that just takes the right dress. Losing weight and/or shaping is just a mind set, no different than quitting smoking, actually its probably easier. Take the BF to bed two more times a week and work the you know what out of him. If nothing else it will be fun.

  7. emievil profile image81
    emievilposted 7 years ago

    I've been overweight for like half of my life already and even though I 'liked' guys who didn't 'like' me in return because of my appearance, I've had several boyfriends (including my husband) when I was already fat! Come to think of it, the negative comments that I now hear are not coming from guys, but from my female friends who want me to lose weight. Oh well smile.

  8. readytoescape profile image61
    readytoescapeposted 7 years ago

    Most men, the real kind, see beyond, and again not to be derogatory, women are not super models forever, but they can be soul mates and partners and “things” (sorry no better word for the context) that real life is made of and for.

    1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
      AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      You seem to have hit the nail on the head. Looks do NOT last forever, but the heart and soul does. too bad more don't see it that way. If they only knew what they were missing.

      we fulfigured ladies tenf to hone other "abilities" to make up for the ones that are lacking.   smile   smile

      1. readytoescape profile image61
        readytoescapeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        "Lacking" seems to be a self perceived notion, I'm not sure where I heard it but "no one can injure you unless you let them"

        You know now that I think about it, It came from the "Princess Diaries" one of my wife's favorite movies.

  9. K Partin profile image60
    K Partinposted 7 years ago

    My wife is a full figured woman, she wasn't when we married and I love her just as much now as then. That was 38 years ago this month. There are the slime ball guys though,who do tend to not look beyond that. They wouldn't be worth it anyway! smile

    1. readytoescape profile image61
      readytoescapeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Artzy, this guy is right on target. While my wife is not what could be called full figured, she is also not the 112 lb girl I married, but she is the WOMAN I love.

    2. AnythingArtzy profile image81
      AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      You are definitely a catch she is a lucky woman indeed.

      1. K Partin profile image60
        K Partinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Ha! thanks A, lol

  10. sooner than later profile image56
    sooner than laterposted 7 years ago

    I think a certain amount of confidence is beautiful in any woman. I know that there are men out there for every woman. I hope you find what you are looking for- if your photo is really you, I think you are pretty.

    1. K Partin profile image60
      K Partinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Ditto that! lol

      1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
        AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        smile  smile  thanks

    2. AnythingArtzy profile image81
      AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Photo is really me  smile

      1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
        AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks for the compliment

 
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