Are there any men out there who can look past a few extra pounds to see the REAL woman. Or is it just all about ouside packaging?
Be nice please.
I'm a full figured woman and have been married to my husband for almost 10 years. And yes, I was overweight when we first met -- not as much as I am now, but definitely not thin. Ironically, I didn't really start dating until I gained weight. When I was a skinny kid in high school, I was single! So yes, there's at least one man who could look past me not being a stick.
Of course there is, as the saying goes "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder"
Hey AnythingArtzy......there's bound to be some men out there who like women fleshy. I knew somebody once who said he liked his women big. His wife weighed about 300 lbs. Your beauty comes from within. Hollywood has done their best to contribute to the emphasis on stick thin bodies being sexy. Remember Jane Mansfield, Marilyn Monroe & Mae West? Those ladies were quite thick & sexy as all get out. ON the opposite note, when I was quite young, guys never asked me out...I was too skinny! People made fun of me. I got called everything from Skeleton face to Toothpick. Gave me quite a complex. So it can go both ways. Oh, by the way, I've been overweight before, too. You go girl, you're beautiful!
I find the “be nice please” parameter interesting. It apparently assumes that full figured women are the source of derogatory thoughts and comments. I for one do not feel that’s the case, but, (yes I know, But), I have noticed women of that “stature” seem to carry a, lets call it a negative “attitude” that has always confused me. Not that women, not matter their comportment can be understood in any manner a man can comprehend, I have always considered this “attitude” confounding.
And not to sound chauvinistic or condescending but there are more of “you” than there are of “them.” And most of us are not exactly Brad Pitt, (okay some of us are) but are you alluding to the fact that we all want a super model and are just “settling” for you?
Please be kind…..I’m just a guy.
Just asking for personal reasons and yes the "please be nice" is because of remarks I've heard and gotten. I know there is a whole world of men out there but......
Ready, you sure put things into perspective...
I have gained 15 pounds since meeting my boyfriend (I became unemployed and got fat) and he still loves me the same (actually he says he loves me more)... HOWEVER... I am always criti"sizing" myself and calling myself "fat" etc... and this REALLY makes him upset - and I didn't know why until now.
Thank you - It is a good friend who can speak the truth and make it understandable
Hey Lucien, Haven't seen you on the forums for awhile.
I didn't really do anything but ask a question, but your welcome.
I do know what your Boyfriend loves is in your heart, we've never met, but I've read what's in there. He is lucky enough to see it and experience it.
Hey Ready! Haven't really been on for a while... busy with holidays and work... YIKES! Haven't even really been able to write much... I really do miss you all though - and I miss the forums, so I am going to try to be on more often (as long as it fits into my time)
Thank you for your huge compliment. I really need to listen men (not boys) more often... I bet my stress level will go down Still though, I would like to lose the extra weight if only so I am sick often - so I keep trying
Ah my dear losing weight is not the issue, but shaping maybe, voluptuous is pretty damn nice, that just takes the right dress. Losing weight and/or shaping is just a mind set, no different than quitting smoking, actually its probably easier. Take the BF to bed two more times a week and work the you know what out of him. If nothing else it will be fun.
I've been overweight for like half of my life already and even though I 'liked' guys who didn't 'like' me in return because of my appearance, I've had several boyfriends (including my husband) when I was already fat! Come to think of it, the negative comments that I now hear are not coming from guys, but from my female friends who want me to lose weight. Oh well .
Most men, the real kind, see beyond, and again not to be derogatory, women are not super models forever, but they can be soul mates and partners and “things” (sorry no better word for the context) that real life is made of and for.
You seem to have hit the nail on the head. Looks do NOT last forever, but the heart and soul does. too bad more don't see it that way. If they only knew what they were missing.
we fulfigured ladies tenf to hone other "abilities" to make up for the ones that are lacking.
My wife is a full figured woman, she wasn't when we married and I love her just as much now as then. That was 38 years ago this month. There are the slime ball guys though,who do tend to not look beyond that. They wouldn't be worth it anyway!
Artzy, this guy is right on target. While my wife is not what could be called full figured, she is also not the 112 lb girl I married, but she is the WOMAN I love.
You are definitely a catch she is a lucky woman indeed.
I think a certain amount of confidence is beautiful in any woman. I know that there are men out there for every woman. I hope you find what you are looking for- if your photo is really you, I think you are pretty.
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