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How to Stop Fighting

Updated on March 18, 2016

How do you tend to respond to conflict situation? Some people make a compromise in order to calm waters. Sometimes the compromise is not solution and you must take the situation into your own hands. The more you delay the confrontation, the worse it will get later on.

You should write down all things that make you angry about your partner. This can help to resolve issues and you can breath easily.

Are you tired of apologizing for everything you have said ? Yeah, you can argue over trivial things every single day. He´s not willing to back down and you don't want to sign a peace agreement with him. Anger well up inside of you, you´re not determined to forgive him easily. You must decide if it´s worth of your time and energy. Whether it´s his ex or smelly socks scattered all around the floor. Breath in….breath out. Think twice before you explode like a volcano.

  1. He's just a man with mistakes like every other man.

When you both started to date, he seemed flawless. Now that you know him well, the picture of perfect romance is falling apart. He´s always late and makes promises, he can´t keep.


2. Don't let the anger to get between you two.

Scream can be therapeutic but also destructive if you can't deal with situation properly. You have every right to express your feelings. Sometimes there's more behind it than you think. A bad day at work or school. Remember, he has nothing to do with that.


3. Always try to find a solution to your problems.

Not matter how hard it is, just let off steam. Fighting with him, won't make it any better.

4. Do not avoid confrontation, later you will have to face it anyway.

5. Even if he´s not right, say you´re sorry.

6. Sex is not a solution

7. Sometimes being silent is the best option. Don't add fuel to the fire. If he´s stubborn he won't listen to your monologue anyway.

8. Don´t put a blame on your partner.



“In love, it is better to know and be disappointed, than to not know and always wonder.”

— Michael S. McKinney

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 18 months ago

      We live in a society that places more emphasis on "compromise' than it does on "compatibility".

      The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.

      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on. The choice is up to us!

      Oftentimes people are quick to say: "Relationships require hard work."

      In truth the "hard work' is in finding the "right person"!

      If two people agree on the (major things) then every argument is petty.

      In some instances people are taking out their frustration on their mate due to things that happened at work or in other areas of their life. Sometimes a "fight" about one thing isn't really about that thing at all.

      In other instances some people are just moody and "go off" to push someone away. Last but not least some folks look for a ego victory.

      It's important to examine the frequency of your fights as well as their topic to determine if you two simply aren't compatible.

      There is no amount of "communication" or "work" that can overcome being with someone who simply does not want what (you) want.

      Thankfully we live on a planet with over 7 Billion people!

      Therefore no one needs to waste their life trying to change water into wine or fit square pegs into round holes. Just because a fox can be taught not to eat a hen doesn't mean they are an "ideal couple".

      When it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. If this weren't true we'd all be married to our high school sweethearts!

      Very few people hit a homerun their first, second, or third time at bat.