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How To Say I LOVE YOU

Updated on August 14, 2014

Those three little words...

"I Love You" is one of the most complex phrases in human communication. Or at least that's how it seems to be for many people, especially when they think they are in love.

The big issue of course is WHEN to say it. Is the time "right?" Most people worry if the other person feels the same way, and are either hoping or fearing if the other person will say it back to them or not. There are some links here to help you with those issues in case you are having a problem with that. Saying "I Love You" to a partner and having them say it back can be one of the coolest things in the world.

If you're looking to explore the universal language of love a bit more, there are tons of translations of the actual phrase in hundreds of different world languages.

And if you're already in love with someone, but you want to do something really special to let them know just how much you love and appreciate them in your life, there are tips and suggestions for different gestures and actions which express love and affection.

~XXXOOO~

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Earth's the right place for love. I don't know where it's likely to go better. -- Robert Frost
Earth's the right place for love. I don't know where it's likely to go better. -- Robert Frost

The Languages of Love

If you're going to work on being able to say "I love you" in different world languages, you might as well start with the language that let you communicate with the most people.

Here are the ten most-widely spoken language in the world. Totals reflect a combination of primary and secondary language speakers (meaning people for whom the language is their native tongue and people who have learned the language as a second option)

  1. Mandarin Chinese (approximately 1.12 billion speakers) - wo ai ni
  2. English (approximately 480 million speakers) - I love you
  3. Spanish (approximately 320 million speakers) - The quiero
  4. Russian (approximately 285 million speakers) - Ya lublu tebya
  5. French (approximately 265 million speakers) - Je t'aime
  6. Hindi/Urdu (approximately 250 million speakers) - May thumhe pyaar kartha hoo
  7. Arabic (approximately 221 million speakers) - ana b'hebbek
  8. Portuguese (approximately 188 million speakers) - Eu amo-te
  9. Bengali (approximately 185 million speakers) - Aami tomaake bhaalo baashi
  10. Japanese (approximately 133 million speakers) - Kimi o ai shiteru


"I Love You" in American Sign Language

If you love someone, you say it, right then, out loud. Otherwise, the moment just passes you by. -- Julia Roberts
If you love someone, you say it, right then, out loud. Otherwise, the moment just passes you by. -- Julia Roberts

For the Geeky Love of your Life

A Dog That Can Actually Say "I Love You"

Words vs Actions

What is more important: saying "I love you" or demonstrating that love without words? If you want to explore one of the more interesting angles of relationships, ask people that question. How one expresses love or has it expressed to them can be one of the biggest conflicts that a couple can encounter.

For some people, the verbal affirmation and reassurance is crucial to their emotional well-being. Hearing those three words brings feelings of well-being and peace. To not hear them starts a voice in their own head, suggesting that something must be wrong or that the other person doesn't return their feelings.

However some people feel that words are just a verbal statement and not any tangible sort of proof. To them love is better expressed or demonstrated by some type of action, or actions that go along with the verbal expression. They are more reassured by something they can see instead of just something they hear.

Understanding which is more important to you, and which is more important to your love mate is often one of the keys to a healthy and long-term relationship. Someone who feels love is expressed via gifts might be very unhappy paired up with someone who feels that material items are not a good way to express love and vice versa. You don't have to exactly match your lover as long as both of you understand what each person needs and how each person prefers to communicate their feelings.


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Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.  ~ Robert A. Heinlein If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were. -- Kahlil GibranIt takes a second to say "I love you," but a lifetime to show it. - UnknownLove is a sweet tyranny, because the lover endureth his torments willingly. ~ Traditional ProverbTe Amo
Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.  ~ Robert A. Heinlein
Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. ~ Robert A. Heinlein
 If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were. -- Kahlil Gibran
If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were. -- Kahlil Gibran
It takes a second to say "I love you," but a lifetime to show it. - Unknown
It takes a second to say "I love you," but a lifetime to show it. - Unknown
Love is a sweet tyranny, because the lover endureth his torments willingly. ~ Traditional Proverb
Love is a sweet tyranny, because the lover endureth his torments willingly. ~ Traditional Proverb
Te Amo
Te Amo

What I Love About You

When we talk to our partner and are trying to say something about love, what we are most often trying to say is what we love about the other person. It's important not just to say that you love someone but to also make sure you communicate why you love that person. Making sure the other person knows why you appreciate them and want to have that person involved in your life goes a long way towards saying "I love you" in such a way that the other person feels the sentiment is genuine and heart-felt.

So, before you start to get down to the details of where and when you want to tell your lover that you love them, take some time for yourself and carefully think about why you love them. This doesn't have to be a long list but it should reflect more than just surface details of your lives. What experiences have the two of you shared? Are there activities that you do together? What are the everyday little gestures that other person does for you which you don't always notice but which really make a difference in your life?

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      Raye 4 years ago from Seattle, WA

      Lisa, a "chow" is a breed of dog from China or is an English word meaning "food." Spelled as "ciao" (which sounds and is pronounced the same) it is the Italian word for "goodbye."

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      lisa 4 years ago

      What does chow or chow chow mean wheb some one says it to you like a guy

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      Jose Matalo 4 years ago from Philippines

      Saying "I LOVE YOU" could be one of the hardest phrase to say but when it is delivered in perfect timing, it has a great impact especially when accompanied by actions :)

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      Graham Lee 5 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hi Relache. Another first class hub. Keep them coming.

      Graham.

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      mottiandbander 5 years ago from Chd

      i love you my lovely hub....nice one...........

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      shela 5 years ago

      ilove youedge

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      chhavi 5 years ago

      i love u richie sooooo much

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      sukhu 5 years ago

      ''I love her very much'' I say to everybody who are in love, If they don't say ''i love you'' to his /her beloved, then they can't do anything in whole life.,

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      Raye 5 years ago from Seattle, WA

      Sasa, obviously you need to tell him or he'll never know.

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      sasa 5 years ago

      i love a boy but he didn't now that i love him .......what should i do......help

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      rina ray 5 years ago

      love is very pain full.so don't say i love you.

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      adultsearch 5 years ago from NYC, NYC

      I've been to Philippines once and the people there are so great. They say "mahal kita" on the person they love. So sweet really..

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      mohd hafeez 5 years ago

      goood but some times love was go on the wrong side, if thy take wrong side, its pain sooooooooooooooooooooo much

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      In Papua New Guinea we say "Mi laikim yu"...

      Great hub

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      Raye 5 years ago from Seattle, WA

      keboo, you and your boyfriend probably want to play some word games and come up with a word that really has meaning for the two of you.

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      keboo 5 years ago

      Me n my boyfriend care very deeply for one another but him and I both agreed we aren't ready to say I love u. So we are trying to come up with a 1 syllable word that sounds romantic in replace of I love u...any suggestions?

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      Samurai Rishi 5 years ago

      The More Deeper One Loves,

      More Chances Love Hurts,

      Life Is Full Of Risks,

      Some Love To Take Chances!!!

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      sara 5 years ago

      "i love you" is hard to say just when you really love that person

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      Shadab khan 5 years ago

      Woo i love u in 100 language i like it must,

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      Raye 5 years ago from Seattle, WA

      rtameaca, the issue with "crushing" on someone is that most often one person feels very emotional and the other doesn't. That is usually not a good situation for telling someone you love them, as they most likely do not feel the same back.

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      rtameaca 5 years ago

      there is a boy I'm crushing on and i don't know when,where,or how to tell him!!!!!please help me, somebody!!!!!!!!!!!!HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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      aditya rana 5 years ago

      love is life

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      Titan 5 years ago

      Love is a wind its like a breath . So breath as much you can .

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      lili 5 years ago

      aku cinta kamu(indonesian)

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      Biswa 5 years ago

      love is natural

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      bhaskar 5 years ago

      i love you is a good word in the world

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      Assad ullah asad 5 years ago

      never get caught up in expecting someone to say i love you back, it can be the most heart wrenching feeling if it is said and indeed is not true, or you come to find out it isnt true. Who wants to deal with that. i never say i love you if i don't mean it. wouldnt want to passify someone with a bold faced lie the endof love love is life

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      loveydoveyideas 5 years ago

      Thanks for sharing the different languages! It's always nice to have new ways to tell someone you love them :)

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      mark 5 years ago

      I love you...Its so hard to say it to the person that you really love

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      name 5 years ago

      "i love you" is hard to say just when you really love that person

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      ghelo 5 years ago

      i adore you

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      vinay bhaskar 5 years ago

      i always love her

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      hitesh patil 5 years ago

      I LOVE YOU

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      Polinesian prite 5 years ago

      Love it......just say "au e aloho ide goe"

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      rajiv 5 years ago

      i love is very dificault word to saying because its create lots of problems but when we said i love u fill better.

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      rishi 5 years ago

      love is the most important part of your life. without love there is no life

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      RalphGreene 6 years ago

      Great ideas of expressing your love, relache. Great hub.

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      sudhanshu gangwar 6 years ago

      do not be nerves by saying 'I love you'.

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      dmg 6 years ago

      I have been with my nd for 8 months and I am ready to tell him I love him but I'm afraid he won't feel the same way... I also feel like we show it but it would be nice to hear it too

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      Nicolina Kenna 6 years ago

      My boyfriend of three years and i said i loved you at the same time, it was perfect.

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      moneycop 6 years ago from JABALPUR

      i love reading you hub...good

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      Raye 6 years ago from Seattle, WA

      fred, as you are the one who knows that person, either it's up to you to figure out, or you have to ask them what they meant. Random guesses from strangers don't mean much.

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      fred 6 years ago

      When a friend says "love u .... mean it " what should I take from that

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      john2000 6 years ago

      I found this hub awesome.

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      wisdom 6 years ago

      I always tell her, i love you.

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      Toby Simon 6 years ago from Kansas City, Missouri

      nice hub...

      you say i love you in japanese,"Ai shiteru".

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      quinina 6 years ago

      woow i like it da grt Hub! in somalie i love u we say waan ku jeclahay!

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      Honorablewoman 6 years ago from Georgia

      SO glad I linked this hub to my page. I call this hub the ultimate handcrafted hub. Love It! Daphne Marie McDonald

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      rony3anto 6 years ago

      GOOd one................

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      sahas 6 years ago

      gud one

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      freeme2all 6 years ago

      mahal kita...

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      Kamran 6 years ago from Pakistan

      beautifull loved reading it...i guess if you love someone the one should say it straight away ..dont wait for the right time because if you start waiting for the right time then its too late...thats what happened to me :(

      when i said i love you ..it was too late then :(

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      TattoGuy 6 years ago

      Cool hub and really well thought out, nice one !

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      Sunnyglitter 6 years ago from Cyberspace

      "For some people, the verbal affirmation and reassurance is crucial to their emotional well-being. Hearing those three words brings feelings of well-being and peace. To not hear them starts a voice in their own head, suggesting that something must be wrong or that the other person doesn't return their feelings".

      Wow. Excellent hub. My boyfriend hasn't said "I love you" in 5 months, and that paragraph describes exactly how I feel.

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      MissKarolaina 6 years ago from Lithuania

      Loved it!

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      Haydee Anderson 6 years ago from Hermosa Beach

      i love reading and learning from your hub.

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      BAustin 6 years ago

      Good Hub!!!!!!

      In human communication the most difficult phrase is to say "I Love You" to your loved ones. The Hub very amicably explains the how and what precautions are needed to be done in this regard. Thanks a lot for sharing such an excellent peace of text. Keep on hubbing.

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      loka93210 6 years ago

      vey nice information, To add one.

      In Oriya

      Mu Tumaku Bhala pae

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      Deccan Chargers 6 years ago

      In hindi -- Mujhe Tumse Pyaar hain ...... means I love you ... great hub relache ..... super awesome, super useful,super beautiful ....

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      flinsura 6 years ago

      Just say I love you from the Heart! thanks for this hub.

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      hubpageswriter 7 years ago

      Beautiful ways to say I love you.

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      waqas 7 years ago

      yes i will must say to her that i love u so much

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      MAAZ SHARIF 7 years ago from Pakistan

      Relache I really appriciate your thougts and the way you study the psychology

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      Lena Kovadlo 7 years ago from Staten Island, NY

      Great hub. It's certainly nice to know how to say 'I Love You' in different languages.

      I noticed that under Spanish you said "te quiero" but that means "I want you". "I love you" would be "te amo".

      Sometimes saying "I love you" to someone backfires when it turns out the person doesn't feel the same way. It's not easy knowing when the right time is. I think I fell into the trap of saying it too soon, even though I did feel that I loved the other person.

      Lena

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      Tony 7 years ago from At the Gemba

      Mahal Kita - Tagalog (Philippines)

      Mimi Nakupenda - Swahili - East Africa

      Just to add some... Nice hub... Love to everyone

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      Twins Mum 7 years ago

      You really are sharing the love here.

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      Jenn 7 years ago from Florida

      Great Hub! Love is very important and expressing it is even more important.

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      Patricia 7 years ago

      Love and Peace for Planet Earth!

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      MarygrauSheila 7 years ago

      I learned something about how to say I love you.Nice hub

      Thank you for sharing

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      aefrancisco 7 years ago from somewhere down the road

      LOVELY!

      LOVE IS IN THE AIR ...

      I Love You = Mahal Kita ( in Filipino )

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      swenneberg 7 years ago

      I absolutely love this article! People could really learn a lot by reading this. These 3 words get thrown around way too easy in this world anymore. The sad thing is most do not even realize what love is. This is great! Thank you!

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      KellyEngaldo 7 years ago

      Love this! Outstanding! We must love - our God, our selves and others and you are right - we need to say! Thank you very much!

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      swtwin2 7 years ago from South Carolina

      Great! I'm learning that even after 26 years of marriage, the timing and tenderness behind those little words have a HUGE impact.

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      kouki 7 years ago

      if i am impressed by a boy in the church i don't know it's love or not but he is not very beautiful but i became relax when i see him he make me happy and when i talk with him i feel that i talk with a v.i.p but can't say anything to him i am waiting for the word from him not mine.but promess if he say for me 'i love u' will say 'me too'in the same time!!lov u karim

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      reeltaulk 7 years ago

      never get caught up in expecting someone to say i love you back, it can be the most heart wrenching feeling if it is said and indeed is not true, or you come to find out it isnt true. Who wants to deal with that. i never say i love you if i don't mean it. wouldnt want to passify someone with a bold faced lie

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      Elena 7 years ago from London, UK

      This is lovely, bringing out the soft part of everyone. lol.

      I actually wrote an article a few days on 20 Ways to say "I love you" but it wasn't for Hubpages.

      Thanks for sharing - especially with the languages.

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      Tracy711 8 years ago

      nice hub kinda makes you feel all gooey inside so with that I will close by saying Te Amo

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      reeltaulk 8 years ago

      If...I say IF you truly love someone and you express it through your actions, thats GREAT! But when you verbally say it, it is even GREATER! IT is the best feeling and most magical experience ever. To be quite honest if they say it back is irrelevant because you are on such a high and universally you will get more than Love in return. Whether from the individu al you Love or strangers. Self Love as well as lerning to share your Love unconditionally works everytime.

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      LVM 8 years ago

      All I can say after reading the hub is - I Love You!

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      ciidoctor 8 years ago

      either you feel love or you don't for a person it is not hard once you have feelings for a person love is an emotion that person share with one another and not some thing that should be hard to say if you cant say it you don't feel it

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      Motaz 8 years ago from Egypt

      thnx :)

      3 words only...but it's all about timing

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      Karen Braschuk 8 years ago

      Admitting to someone that you love them is also exposing your vulnerability to them. Often, it's a huge leap of faith and trust that they will also feel the same way about you. If they don't, you haven't lost anything. You've just shared something about yourself that is beautiful and something you also saw that was beautiful in them. Sharing one's love for another is never a loss or a reason to feel bad if it is unrequited. Anytime you let someone else know that they are loved, you have done a wonderful thing...no matter what the outcome.

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      KaranM 9 years ago

      my my, what a beautiful piece! very information, thank you....i myself am very picky about using the word love....my friends wonder why i dont say "i love you" as casually as they do. I guess i'm just very picky about using the word as it holds very deep meaning. great post, keep it up!

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      ready to answer u 9 years ago

      either you feel love or you don't for a person it is not hard once you have feelings for a person love is an emotion that person share with one another and not some thing that should be hard to say if you cant say it you don't feel it

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      Lapband 9 years ago

      Great hub... inspirational.

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      jj34 9 years ago

      I love you = Te iubesc (in romanian)

      I love you = te volim (in serbian)

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      Kathryn Skaggs 9 years ago from Southern California

      Wonderful Hub, with a load of great information on LOVE!

      I love it!

      tDMg

      LdsNana-AskMormon

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      crazycat 9 years ago from Philippines

      I've read some books on the ways of saying such thing but it's how sincere we are when saying and showing it.

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      Rapidwriter 9 years ago from UK

      Great hub. Thanks.

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      tina1225 9 years ago

      awww....love....

      i wanted to be love and be loved:D

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      cmramirez 9 years ago

      all we need is love....

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      vikas 9 years ago

      I Iove You

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      Lisyl 10 years ago

      never say that someone completes you...we have to feel whole even when we are by ourselves, for needing a certain someone is not love but dependency...wanting a person to become a part of our life is the best reason for having them...and you can only want when you know you have enough...so rather than search for that someone who will soon complete you, wait for the person who will complement your completeness....

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      DJane 10 years ago from Fort Worth

      This Hub and it's links are very helpful to me at this time. Love the love advice!

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      patswald 10 years ago from Nairobi

      ich liebe dich!!

      thats 'i love you in german!!!

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      Dating Tips 10 years ago

      gotta love this hub

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      7leads 10 years ago

      Good information and thanks for taking the time to put this hub together. Loved it !!

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      Zilllur Rahman John 10 years ago

      Only Love can create the peaceful situation and environment to protect all kinds of destruction and danger for the human being around the world. Love is the foundation of Peace and peace is the beauty of the mankind. Without Love and Peace, there is no harmony in this earth.

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      flavia 10 years ago

      mayb 4 all the world u r nothing, but mayb u r all the world 4 some1!!!!!

      Luv u all!!!!!

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      aleish 10 years ago from Las Vegas

      I really LOVE this hub! Thanks for the links!