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Love & Marriage: Make it last a lifetime... a truley unique experience!

Updated on September 17, 2013

A Lovely Rose...

Lovely as a rose, sweet smelling, brightens up a room, amazingly beautiful...that's how I would describe a long and lasting relationship...a marriage! A rose must be handled with care... unless you want to feel the thorns... as in love relationships.
Lovely as a rose, sweet smelling, brightens up a room, amazingly beautiful...that's how I would describe a long and lasting relationship...a marriage! A rose must be handled with care... unless you want to feel the thorns... as in love relationships.

When you experience true love... nothing else matters... you will know the ultimate human experience.

Are you planning your wedding and wondering if you are making the right decision? This is a question everybody wants to know. How long will it last? Will I be happy? Is this the right person for me? Nobody knows except you...

Treat your partner like you want to be treated... today and everyday! You will be glad you did.

Marriage can be a wonderful, meaningful relationship. It takes time and patients to get past the "everyday" obstacles that can sabotage a marriage before it even has a chance to develope. So, keep in mind, the first year is going to be great. Then the next few years can be very trying and if you can get past that, it will be much, much better! Most marriages today don't make it past the third year because couples realize they are not the perfect match, or simply because they stop trying. Stay with it! You will be rewarded... on the second level.. more love, romance, understanding for each other, easier to talk to, know what to expect and what is expected of you.

Always be truthful and patient. Be committed to your marriage. Discuss everything in a normal tone of voice, do not argue or shout. Don't over discuss things, just listen and give your point of view. This will give time for both of you to think and come up with the best solution. The best is yet to come... Create happy memories, they are all we have when we think about the past.

Romance, and more romance, never say no. After many years of marriage, you must keep the flame going. You are now in the third level...and there's no turning back. You are with the person you love and care for deeply. Why not try something new, as long as it is within good taste. You'll be surprised how far a marriage can be developed even further at this stage.

How do I know if my wife/husband really loves me?

  • He/she always greets me with a smile and a kiss ♥
  • my wife/husband goes out of their way to prepare my favorite meal ♥
  • I have plenty of romance, and rarely hear "I'm too tired" ♥
  • I get to "be myself" and still considered adorable ♥
  • I can talk openly about most things and he/she listens to me ♥

MARRIAGE IN 2012

How long have you been married?

  • 0% 2 years or less
  • 0% 3 to 7 years
  • 22% 8 to 12 years
  • 22% 13 to 17 years
  • 22% 18 to 23 years
  • 11% Over 24 years
  • 22% Over 30 years
  • 0% Over 40 years
9 people have voted in this poll.

This poll is now closed to voting.

Marriage Poll Results for 2012

Those who voted in this poll were married at least 8 years. There was a tie of 22% for marriages 8-23 years, and over 30 years. 11% were married over 24 years but less than 30. Thanks to all who voted!

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      N Brathwaite 5 years ago

      Very good hub and lovely advice.

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      thebigbagblog 5 years ago from CYBERSPACE

      :-) Its true that there has to be communication without over communicating (beating a dead horse in an argument, etc) But, its fun when the person is also your best friend! Thanks for the Hub!!

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      loveandsex 5 years ago from NIGERIA

      thank you for this advice..its a beautiful article and am very glad to be your first follower. welcome to hubpages.

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      lupine 5 years ago from Southern California (USA)

      Thanks for being my "first" follower and your approval of my hub.

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      lupine 5 years ago from Southern California (USA)

      Sometimes you just need someone to point out the obvious. Getting along can be so much fun. Thanks for reading my hub and commenting.

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      Sid Kemp 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

      Good advice. My wife and I have been married 26 years, and are increasing the joy now. I would take the last section and turn it around and apply it to myself: How do I know that I am expressing my love to my wife/husband: I always greet with a smile or kiss; I go out of the way to make his/her favorite meal; I offer plenty of romance and never say "I'm too tired"; I let my spouse be her/himself, and see her/him as adorable.

      I've found the secret to joy in marriage is to enjoy giving in love.

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      Sid Kemp 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

      Got your fan mail - thanks! Lupine - if you want to learn more about Zen, please email me at Sid@SidKemp.com & include your email address Sid

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      Judy Specht 4 years ago from California

      Good advice. Over communication can be deadly. Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree for the night and go to sleep. Amazingly a good sleep frequently solves the problem or enlightens both parties about the next step.

      I can't exactly picture my husband as adorable, but I shall ask him if he wants me to think of him like that. I suspect he will think I have gone nuts and then get a good laugh:) Humor makes marriage truly fun.

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      Sid Kemp 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

      I agree with all that I see here! Humor was the savior of our marriage in its most difficult times. Becoming best friends again - back to where we started - has been a most wonderful gift. And while really working things out is important, rushing to do it is the source of much frustration!

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      lupine 4 years ago from Southern California (USA)

      tirelesstraveler - I really appreciate your comment. It is great to know someone is reading my hubs. I hope you enjoyed it. That's right, we sometimes have to agree to disagree. Why lose sleep! Sometimes we feel entirely different the next day. I'm sure your husband would be "tickled" if you thought of him as adorable...a good laugh can do wonders. Thank you for being my most recent follower.

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      lupine 4 years ago from Southern California (USA)

      Great comment. Sounds like you have a good sense of humor and understanding of marriage.

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      lupine 4 years ago from Southern California (USA)

      Sidkemp - I agree entirely with you. I love to see the humor in situations if at all possible.

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      Sid Kemp 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

      My wife appreciates my sense of humor - and she's starting to appreciate me, too! :)

      I've earned my sense of humor - I've stayed married for over 26 years! :D

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      lupine 4 years ago from Southern California (USA)

      Sidkemp -I appreciate your sense of humor too, you sound like a great person and so does your wife. It really does help a lot in a marriage, I hope more couples would realize this. I'm glad to have met you on hubpages.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Love & Marriage: Make it last a lifetime... a truly unique experience! Interesting and helpful to all married couples

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      lupine 3 years ago from Southern California (USA)

      DDE, Thanks for reading... I love to help people, and I know this subject can be complicated at times. So, why not make it fun!

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      Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

      Love and marriage-to make it last life time , these words may sound strange to the people that do not mind break ups and are always on the move but to endure ups and downs, comforts and distress, sadness and happiness and so on and still maintain mutual relationship, love and marriage is a very wonderful experience. lupine, you have penned such a beautiful piece that I wish more and more people understand it and realize the value and dignity of a stable love and marriage.

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      lupine 3 years ago from Southern California (USA)

      Harishprasad, Thank you very much for your wonderful comment. You are right...this can be viewed as strange...marriage/to last a lifetime... It really takes much love, care, commitment, and endurance to get to this point. It's beyond comprehension to some. It's sad that many will never achieve this type of understanding because the value of marriage has deteriorated in the younger generation. Perhaps marriage and relationships can be viewed as before, sometime in the future.

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