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5 Tips For Marriage Maturity
Marriage is a universal phenomenon in every society. It is the union of a matured man and woman, whether educated or not, the rich and the poor. The mode of entering into marriage differ from one culture to another, but the matter of harmony in marriage is a common issue that need urgent and frequent attention. Many have limited the matter of marriage as a means of bearing children, yet other sees it as a means of pleasure, to some, it as a hindrance to personal freedom. Others view it as a necessary evil that man must cope with anyway.
Many others believe that marriage ought to be joy, bring fulfillment to either parties, by way of tapping the resources that marriage holds. Others have abandoned their marriage home as it seems impossible. Some opted for ‘singleness' to avoid ‘trouble' many are arching today for heart breaks arising from matrimonial disharmony. Several have packed it up and damned the consequences as they sued for divorce.
Marriage as it is designed needs some extensive preparation to make it a success. Marriage is not for boys and girls, rather for a matured man and woman. In this article, I will share with you 5 useful tips of maturity measures that needs to be in place to able to build happy marriage.
To marry without spiritual maturity can be dangerous because of the enemy attack on marriage. Spiritual maturity is a process, of salvation and then praying to God through his word. To be spiritually set means having the understanding for what it takes to be in marriage.
This equally entails eradicating from your mind all forms of myth and evil philosophy and every barrier both past and present. Having done all these, you need to face the future with faith in yourself and God.
It will interest you to know that physical maturity does not come with age rather it comes with the acceptance of responsibility. The truth is that, when you are physically matured for marriage, there will be peace in your mind. Although it has been said, marriage is not for boys and girls neither is it for teenagers.
Many have destroyed what they have laboured to build due to wrong counsel form friends and parents. Seeking counsel is good but you need to be matured in handling its application. So to enter into marriage without emotional maturity is tantamount to life of instability because marriage with external interference is a display of emotional immaturity. This is because you can not run back to mummy and daddy as it used to be, after your marriage.
Most singles are socially backward in terms of investing in themselves. You need to invest time and money into develop yourself socially. Read good books, interact with people. Join your church youth group. Belong to an association that you know is good and contribute your own quota. Once modesty and morality is observed social exposure is not a crime.
One of the reasons many people are not married is because they lack the financial capability to do so. Many have become super singles. All you need is to balance some of the necessary things for your marriage because if you wait till when you get a car, furnish your apartment before your wedding, you might wait till eternity.
All you need is a moderate accommodation, a regular source of income and be able to take of the family need, you can latter pull resources together and move on to a more descent accommodation or comfort.
Above all, there is no perfect marriage but you can invest into it to make it work.